A guy did this to me, and I feel a bit dissapointed really, as he was doing so well. If you do this can you explain why it is necessary and what is the point? I need to know if he is worth seeing again, and your comments and insight would help.
2006-12-14 07:05:28 · 13 answers · asked by helloha06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not really comparing but trying to establish the standards and expectations.
2006-12-14 07:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Helloha,
No. . . . . .Each woman is special in her own way and should never be compared to anything, unless maybe Heaven on two feet.
Have you not noticed yet that most of the guys you are going to meet have the IQ rating of the wattage on a refrigerator light bulb?
I am a guy, but never fail to wonder how some of my fellow men can be in possession of so much gross stupidity.
To answer your question, without any further delay, you should start looking for someone a little above the Fred Flintstone category. You owe it to yourself.
Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year,
Darryl S.
2006-12-14 15:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Stingray 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any guy that knows anything, should know not to compare, it gives the other half a chance to do the same or complain.
Anyway most guys dont think how they would feel hearing some of the things they say, said to them. Its also a case of the past coming back to haunt them, no one really gets over it you just get used to it.
Some people hide their faults by concentrating on yours and some(most) guys are just plain idiots who dont use the common sense given to them.
P.s no one can tell you what you should do, just follow your heart and instincts.
2006-12-14 15:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by comission90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i think this is a natural thing to do and women do it too. i guess its a good way of seeing whether the girl youre with now is better than the girl you were with before. however i think its unfair that he actually talks to you about this, especially as it made you sad, he sounds a bit insensitive to do that. maybe you should talk to him about it? if he keeps doing it and it upsets you, hes probably not good enough for you and in that case you should break up with him. so bottom line - pretty much all men compare gfs to their exes to get an idea of how good their current gf is, and if he keeps doing it, find a new man girl!
2006-12-14 15:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by john9999999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest it's because (In my case) it's usually me who ends a relationship and therefore there are no ill feelings on my part. For alot of people they have ill feelings and they can't look past them to see what they had. When he's doing it it's not because he liked her more or she was better it's because he want's to know if he's in the same bad relationship he was in before. Or quite possibley he is just comparing you to see if he lost something before.
Either way he's with you for a reason. As long as he didn't make a list I think you're good to go.. ;-)
Take care,
VJ
2006-12-14 15:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
And, clearly, Women nor Girls, never ever do this - thing.
Maybe it's not a 'comparison,' maybe it has to do with unconscious expectations of another!
However, it's problematic trying to answer as you give no details or clues as to ages - 1st or 2nd relationships for him and his ability to talk / discuss this and to reach any kind of understanding about his behaviour and how it effects you - and him!
All these things have a relevance.
Good luck.
Sash.
2006-12-14 21:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody is comparing everything these days, why not women? They strive so hard, it's impossible not to. His mistake was to be honest about it lol. Watch sex in the city for an example of women comparing men down to their sizes
2006-12-14 15:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys make asumptions about women all being the same, when they see behaviors that are similar they classify and say "oh my ex used to do that, uhh ". the best thing to do at this point is remember what it is that he associates with other woman and make yourself as diffrent as possible. but remember men are contstantly attracted to the SAME kind of woman, it may not be you after all. But if is lame comparisons make you uncomfortable it may not be a good fit.
2006-12-14 15:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lillian S. Phx Arizona 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's not over the old one. Is this a common occurance or a one time slip up. Was it important or just a small detail? Comparing is common, but shouldn't be a driving force. If he pesters you about it, then leave. If it was one time, let it slide, but remember for next time.
2006-12-14 15:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never compared old g/f's to new g/f's,that just causes fights and arguments.
2006-12-14 15:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋