We are going to have an informal ceremony of about 15 people either at my church, a wedding chapel, or the courthouse. I don't know what I should wear. I have seen some nice black dresses and I kind of don't want to wear the off white or beige. Some have been telling me it is inappropriate to wear black but I thought black was considered formal. My fiance is wearing black pants, white shirt and a tie. I want to look nice but it is informal. Some one help!!..(oh yeah it is in January)
2006-12-14 07:01:25 · 30 answers · asked by precious_jewel_66 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that since it is YOUR wedding, whatever you want to wear will be perfectly appropriate. I think that a nice black dress would be just fine for a small, informal ceremony. Don't worry about traditions or others' opinions. It is your wedding day and you should wear what makes you happy!
2006-12-14 07:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by ♦Hollywood's Finest♦ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can wear anything you want! Its your special day. Whatever you feel good in, special in, beautiful in. There is nothing wrong with black. Its elegant. And just to let you know I think its great you are having a small informal wedding! Good for you! Too many weddings today are all show and performance, and entirely miss that its the life you are starting together as one that is most important. Forget tradition and wear what you want, and I wish you the very best! :-)
2006-12-14 07:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by LaSperanza 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding! The color of your dress isn't going to determine the success of your marriage. In the 17-1800's you got married in your nicest dress no matter what the color unless you could afford the extravagance of a white dress which was completely impractical. Then for a while it was inconceivable to wear anything but white or ivory because then you weren't "pure". Now dresses with RED trim are very popular and that scandalizes my grandmother to no end. It's your wedding and hopefully it's the only one you'll get...so don't base your dress on fads or the opinions of society.
2006-12-14 07:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I see no problem with it. It's informal and small. You just need to look nice.
The white wedding dress thing is VERY new. It used to be Sunday Best. Also, it is only in the western world that white is considered the color of purity. In much of the eastern world, black is actually used for purity while white is the color of death!
2006-12-14 08:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Esma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The pre wedding ceremony jizzers are calm already. it relatively is me and the different placed up wedding ceremony jizzers that want some interest. interestingly we are meant to be saving all of it up for the top of the ceremony, on the grounds which you are able to no longer throw rice as a demonstration of fertility anymore we had to think of of another form of seed to apply to anoint your nuptials.
2016-10-14 22:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Black dresses are associated with mourning and most people (especially Catholic people, I have found, really stick to this rule) will say that black is considered inappropriate for weddings (even if worn by guests). I have to say, I tend to agree that it is not appropriate.
However, in the olden days (pre-white weddings concept), brides (except the wealthy) simply wore the best dress dress they owned, even if it happened to be black or dark in color. They would wear orange blossoms in their hair to signify that this was their bridal outfit, even though they would wear that dress all the time anyhow.
Even if you don't personally buy the mourning/gloom association, why restrict yourself to black? Isn't there some other color you'd look fabulous in? Ice blue for January? Marroon? Purple? Color of your favorite flowers? Photos with people only wearing black and white clothes look so colorless to me.
Also, you mentioned being formal, but you're not having a formal wedding. So I don't understand what you're going for! It is incongruous to have formal bride and informal/casual groom. Everyone, including guests, should be wearing the same "formality."
An informal bride can wear any sort of prom/party dress/semiformal/informal dress, though IMO it's best to steer clear of black or red, and it should not be too sexy or trendy (you may want your pictures to be a little bit "timeless"). Also I think it's nice to try to match the season a bit.
But basically, I say pick your favorite color, or the color your groom likes you best in! So maybe ask him that question! :)
Also, here is an old fashioned poem just for fun, regarding wedding dress colors and superstition, but there are a lot of variations and versions to the poem:
Married in White, you have chosen right
Married in Grey, you will go far away,
Married in Black, you will wish yourself back,
Married in Red, you will wish yourself dead,
Married in Green, ashamed to be seen,
Married in Blue, you will always be true,
Married in Pearl, you will live in a whirl,
Married in Yellow, ashamed of your fellow,
Married in Brown, you will live in the town,
Married in Pink, you spirit will sink.
(or I have also seen it written: "Married in Pink, of you he will think")
2006-12-14 10:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Black is fine. I have a friend who got married the July before last and she wore a really nice black dress. She didn't originally plan on black, but it was the dress she fell in love with! Congrats!
2006-12-14 14:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by shelly225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something more of the personal prefrence. It is YOUR day and you should wear what you choose. You are the one who is getting married, not them. Although it is a dark color, you should still feel comfortable in something you like instead of being misled in to wearing something you do not really want to. While it is "tradition" to wear white, off white or beige, traditions have been broken while a new one is started. You never know. I wish you the best of luck. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-14 07:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by alan w 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wore a maroon dress. I have seen many people wear different colors. I don't see an issue with this. It is your special day. No one can tell you what is right or wrong. You do what you want and what makes you two happy.
2006-12-14 08:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say wear whatever you'll be comfortable in. in formal weddings, the guy will wear a black tux, but traditionally the bride still wears white. maybe you could get a nice black & white dress. or floor length, full black fancy skirt w/a ladies fancy tux shirt
2006-12-14 07:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by L. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋