knew this guy as an acquintance for almost a year.. never liked him that way or anything... he began flirting with me and as time went on i began developing feelings with him/.. i've been intimately involved with him for 5 mnths.. but finally saw the light that he's only interested in a casual relationship! i've been distant to him and kinda sad about the whole thing, but see he doesn't seem to get the message. despite stepping back when he tries to touch me! he has actually asked me why i'm stepping back! he even had the nerve to ask me what he'll be getting for xmas and when i asked him what he's getting me he said i asked first! after stopping him from touching my breasts he said take care sweetie. i believe i deserve better than just sex! do you think he said take care cuz he's mad?
2006-12-14 07:00:40 · 13 answers · asked by chocy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Read this, learn it, memorize it, and next time you meet someone and get to know them and love them, make sure they fit these CRUCIAL criteria:
Everytime I hear the saying "opposites attract" I cringe because that couldn't be any farther from the truth. For people to be in a relationship with you, both of you should be totally insync with each other on most levels, sure we're not all the same, but the person you love should be your best friend. Yes you heard me say it, BEST FRIEND, as in someone you can trust completely, talk to about ANYTHING and everything, RELY upon, and share common interests. Someone who will always be there for you and accept you no matter what circumstances occur, good, bad, or indifferent. You should also know everything about that person's life, and understand their personality, flaws, good traits, ect. Remember, communication, communication, communication! Know your partner!
All of this takes a lot of TIME to create, a lot of talking and getting to know the person before leaping on them, making out, having sex, ect. This is why most people FAIL at relationships, because they are total strangers trying to make up for a lifetime of not knowing the person they are with, therefore there is no base for trust. Hence, friendship 1st is absolutely crucial.
I speak from personal experience because I am in a loving relationship that is all of those things and more.
2006-12-14 07:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect him to read your mind, honey. Guys (or I should just say people) don't always read body language or pick up hints very well--even when what you are trying to convey is blatantly obvious to yourself. Be honest and straight-forward with him. Tell him you want more than just sex and that if he isn't interested in more, then you aren't interested in giving him any more. That should clear things up for you and then your path forward will be a lot clearer.
2006-12-14 15:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy clearly is using you. You do deserve better. Remember the old saying "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" he clearly is not interested in anything more than a causal relationship. That's okay, if YOU'RE okay with it. Seems to me you're not. Do youself a favor and tell him to get lost.
2006-12-14 15:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your buying him a wedding band for Christmas! LOL That should get BOTH your messages to him LOUD and CLEAR...your NOT just a booty call and if that's all he's hoping for then it's OVER. Then move on! or just start dating other men...good luck! PS I did this and ended up MARRIED! So be careful...it could also leave you without a "booty call". Make sure you know what your truly desiring.
2006-12-14 15:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he's mad! I've had a lot of guys that when I stop them from touching me they get mad, But that's OK cause if that's all they want then they can go to the next slutt's house. But your not the only one that's had sex and found out that's all they want.
2006-12-14 15:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by KayJo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be as confused as you sound that you are. I think that the answer is to talk things over. You may find that you are not understanding each others signals. You may find that you can find a futur together. You may not. But, without talking it though, you are unlikely to know what the other person really wants.
2006-12-14 15:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by st3f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes; he wants his cake and to eat it too. You are right you deserve better than that. If he wants casual, let him go to a bar and pick up women for one night stands.
2006-12-14 15:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You deserve better than him period. If he don't respect you enough or love you, you need to tell him he needs tomove on. Don't you dare get him a present.He's a user and loser.
2006-12-14 15:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you familiar with the term friend with benefits? you can do better. also while you are wasting time with this douche bag a quality guy may be passing you by.
2006-12-14 15:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by BuddhaDaddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this bum is worthless. do better, girl. the next time he gets touchy feely, chop his hand off. i mean literally.
2006-12-14 15:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by bettyjoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋