Future Sister-in Law from Hell?

Question

My future sister in law is evil. We both have babies, mine is 9 mnth, her's is 8.Both girls. Everything is a competition.She got mad when we bought the same crib and when I bought it, it was not like I planned it. it was on sale.Not a big deal.

I also have to work with her. Before I went to work with her, I didn't know her true colors. She is the head tech at a dialysis unit at the hospital. Not the supervisor tho.
Now she is always talking behind my back at work to everyone( by the way, she talks about everybody) if she gets mad at me outside of work.. for stupid and childish things and trys to always get me in trouble and trys to get everyone to hate me. She even talks to my fiance (which is her husband's brother) and tells him I don't do anything at work and he needs to talk to me about it. I bend over backwards at work. I get bad anxiety around her cuz I am afraid I am going to do something wrong.

And then she calls me for advice on things and I always give it to her. HELP!?

It makes me sad too because I feel weak around her. I don't know how to make it go away. I cannot =quit my job that easily. My fiance is laid off right now and we don't know for how long. So I am the sole provider at the moment. Soon she will be family too. That is scary for me. she is a control freak and cares more about what other people are doing than what she needs to fix in her own life.

I don't feel like i can confront her either because she control the schedule at work too. and on many occassions when she gets mad, she says," I guess you don't want to work a very good schedule next month, do you?"

I don't know what to do.. and it has gone way to far.. but I feel stuck. I have looked for other work.. but I need something guarenteed. I need to make as much as I am making too.

Please help. does anyone have any ideas?? Thank you

my mother in law is my fiance and brother in laws mom. She is one of those people that just lets things rolls of her back. My sister in law, meghan, treats her and the rest of the family like this too

My head director, Brenda... she is a pushover and is controlled by meghan too. it is sad.

I don't know what she diid, but she is a good manipulator. .and found her way to the top.. I need to find a new job.. asap

Answer 1

She sounds jealous to me but maybe there is another reason for her animosity. Something about you is making her insecure. Confront her and ask what the problem is (in a polite manner). You should talk to your fiance, too and see what his take is. Don't let her bully you, though. If you are doing your job, great. You have nothing to worry about. Don't bring yourself to her level at work by talking bad about her. Let your co-workers see that she is the unprofessional one, not you. Good luck!

Answer 2

Finding a new job is one way.

I was in a similar situation with a relative about 30 years ago. I didn't know it until more than a few co workers told me, outright, that I was nothing like my relative had portrayed me. I was myself and this saved me from that relative's evil tongue.

I don't speak to this woman anymore.

Live your life and pay no attention to her. If someone asks you about something nasty she said, show that person that you are both surprised and disappointed in your sister in law, but not too surprised because she is that way. You might want to mention that your sister in law has issues she is working out and you are just in the middle of it right now, and that if it weren't you it would be someone else.

Don't defend yourself or address any specific issues or attack your sister in law, just shrug it off as bad behaviour on her part and apologize to anyone wh will listen for her bringing her 'trash' into the workplace.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You said that she holds a position but however is not the supervisor so i would sugest that you go to the supervisor or even higher if possible like a manager and tell them what's happening.

You should be within your right and they will have to look in to it that she should keep personal things out of the work place.

she needs to get a life a leave you alone and don't definately don'tet because of her you quit your job she
's not worth you being jobless if you leave make it be because you want to.

Please be strong and stand up to her if she gives you a bad schedule report her and make whoever you report her to know that it's because of personal issues that's not job related.

Stand up for your right.
you may become inlaws but thats the least she does not control life, she is definately not the one you pray to.

Tell her to leave you the hell alone.(cuz you not begging her anything)

Answer 4

The family needs to tell her to back off and get a life. They know you are holding it down for your fiance and that just makes me sick that they let her treat them all badly. She is a control freak and she don't like herself very much and is probably jealous of you. If your fiance can't get her to back off, you have some serious thinking to do about being in that family, cuz you will be miserable all the time and your marriage may not survive.

Answer 5

honey it might be hard , but it will only get harder if you do not speak up for yourself . you need to let someone at work know what is going on and you need to speak to someone in administration about this problem or you will be unemployed . you are giving her to much authority over your life. you need to start praying to god for strength to stand up to her. do you have sister or cousins. after you secure your job,you should be talking to the proper people over her about the situation. you need to collect the girls and make a little visit to the bully and let her know you will no longer tolerate this from her anymore she is to respect you or leave you alone . you don't need her and she is not in control of you life . you need to decide what you are gonna do because either the stress is gonna get you sick and you loose your job or she will take most of your hours away. and you still will be ou of work . start as soon as possible to find a new job . but trust me you will be no good to anyone letting her control your life like this. and what about your fiance he needs to be more vocal . he needs to be the man and let her know it's not appreciated what she does or at least let his brother know and that he better do something about her . lol

Answer 6

only one way to deal with someone like that is don't talk to her and don't have anything to do with her because the more you talk and give advice and act as if nothing is wrong the worse it will get.You said she is your husband's brothers wife well the way i see it you don't have to kiss her *** and when someone comes up to you and says she said something about you just tell them u don't care and dont want to hear it because you won't play her childish games.People like that just want you to play along if you ignore her and don't give her the satisfaction of playing she will give up eventually.It will get worse before it gets better though because she will go that extra mile to make you upset because you are not responding.The only way i would say anything to her is if she says something to your face and then don't get upset but be very to the point and assertive.

Answer 7

My first suggestion would be this: quit your job! Do not work with her!

Second: it sounds easier than it is but ignore her. She is childish for putting you through this and you are not acting any better by going along with it!

Better yet....talk to your mother in law. She might be able to help!

Answer 8

Eeek! Find a new job! You spend waaaayyy too much time around this woman. Put some distance between you, and your relationship might improve.

Answer 9

You need to secretly record her threats and then tell the boss. If you don't stand up to the ho now, it will only get worse as time goes by. Get in her face and tell her to back the F up. You may need to knock her out. If your old man don't back your play, then can him, he is a wimp also.

Answer 10

i lived with my sister in law in one home for 11 years...it was hell!she is a dificult person,we not like eatch other from the first second...sometimes i cryed and nobody know ...now finaly,she moved and im happy...so,god help u!!!