im still in love with my ex girl and cant get over should i tell how i feel what what im going trough, she has been my bestfriend and i have no one else to talk to when i have a problem i really love this girl
2006-12-14 06:58:08 · 39 answers · asked by yard kid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her!!
2006-12-14 06:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by ?born2lose? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If "her" is your wife, you are totally bogus. You have no business having a friendship with your ex if you still have feelings for her. I don't mean to get all spiritual on you, but the devil is in the business of breaking up marriages by any means necessary. If this lady was really your friend, she would step away and give you and your wife a real chance to make your marriage work without her interference. She may not be deliberately trying to break you all up, but because you have feelings for her, her presence alone is the culprit. I say if you love her and she loves you she should go away and see if your marriage won't improve. If you tell your wife it will only break her heart. Is that what you want. Leave this "bestfriend" alone and see how your marriage is then. You have to give it your all, and with this friend around, you're not giving it your all.
2006-12-14 07:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she fits these criteria:
Everytime I hear the saying "opposites attract" I cringe because that couldn't be any farther from the truth. For people to be in a relationship with you, both of you should be totally insync with each other on most levels, sure we're not all the same, but the person you love should be your best friend. Yes you heard me say it, BEST FRIEND, as in someone you can trust completely, talk to about ANYTHING and everything, RELY upon, and share common interests. Someone who will always be there for you and accept you no matter what circumstances occur, good, bad, or indifferent. You should also know everything about that person's life, and understand their personality, flaws, good traits, ect. Remember, communication, communication, communication! Know your partner!
All of this takes a lot of TIME to create, a lot of talking and getting to know the person before leaping on them, making out, having sex, ect. This is why most people FAIL at relationships, because they are total strangers trying to make up for a lifetime of not knowing the person they are with, therefore there is no base for trust. Hence, friendship 1st is absolutely crucial.
I speak from personal experience because I am in a loving relationship that is all of those things and more.
2006-12-14 07:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that is the same problem that I had with my bestfriend. We now have 2 kids, and 1 on the way.
2006-12-14 07:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by JM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how it ended. I'm the same right now, but there is no chance of getting things back because of complications. All I can say is make sure you don't use a sob story or try to make her feel sorry for you, appeal to her as someone who is fun to be around and stuff, good luck bro
2006-12-14 07:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you love her. The worst thing that she could say is no and that she doesn't love you back. and if that is what happens brush it off. It will hurt... but you will move on. I don't know about how to stay friends,tho that will hurt too, if you remain in love with her. Seeing her with other men will feel like someone is stabbing you in the heart with a fork.
Follow your heart.. If you love her, tell her.
2006-12-14 07:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jeni W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think it will help you then tell her but dont rely that she will be overly receptive or feel the same way. it may also make her uncomfortable if she doesnt feel the same way and hasnt changed her mind on getting back together. sometimes when you really meet someone special not being together is heartbreaking and love sometimes really hurts. this girl has touched your heart and you have to let her go - welcome to the club.
2006-12-14 07:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation, I have begun seeing someone again after a short break, during the break we become best friends and now have the courage to tell this person that I am in love..
Tell her! I am planning to tell him on NYE :)
Good luck
2006-12-14 07:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by bunny foo foo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you break up? did you do something wrong, did she? Or did you just not get along anymore? What ever the reason - most relationships end for a reason. dont try and salvage the crumbs.
time heals all wounds and you will eventually get over this.
good luck.
2006-12-14 07:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by halloweenbride97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes single and you are yes I would tell her that you still love her.
If shes not single give it some more time, and if in like a year you can't stand to be with out her go for it.
2006-12-14 07:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by T <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends... do you think the feelings are mutual.... if they are then it might be worth a second shot.... if not then there's no need to drag out old things and make her miserable too.....let her move on and be happy.... but if you think it would work out this time then go ahead and do it.... hell you'll never really know unitll you give it a shot... you only live once!.........Just don't be pushy!
2006-12-14 07:02:43 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋