He's excellent student, doesnt get in trouble, teachers and friends's parents like him very much. Apparently a great boy, but not a Man. Very sensitive, too pure, not a normal teen his age. Hes much more into solidarity than into competition. He knows many girls but has never had sex, says he's not emotionally ready for it and will feel guilty if he has sex w/ a teen girl. He thinks this is wrong and thinks OK people, even males, remain virgin until they find someone they really love. He doesn't seem to be a gay, but some of his attitudes are not of a male. For example, he's kinda good at Math and in a church helps children in need w/ math. He really worries about those children, sometimes gives up going out w/ friends to help them. He treats his mom w/ love and last saturday even went to the movies w/ her. A 15 yo boy going out w/ his mom!! She loves this, says she's proud of him. I'm disappointed, I have a good son but cant say hes a real man, I avoid talking about him w/ my friends
2006-12-14 06:46:55 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont see the problem!?
2006-12-14 07:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by lola 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be extremely proud of your son. He's smart, caring, and kind. So what's the problem? I don't understand why you are disappointed. You are equating sex with being a man and that's just stupid. It's refreshing reading about a kid who wants to wait instead of reading about all the teen pregnancy questions that are posted on this site. It sounds to me like your son is very much a man who is capable of making his own decisions without the influence of his father, which might I add is a good thing. How could you say he's a disappointment, if anything he should be diappointed in you because you obviously do not see that you have been blessed and there are many parents out there reading your dumb question wishing they were you. You should be diappointed in yourself for not seeing how great your kid really is.
2006-12-14 13:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG... You have the greatest son and you are too ashamed that he is not a "MAN" to even talk about him to your friends. Wow. You are way too shallow to see how great he is you don't respect his values. What you just described is a REAL MAN. Lets just hope you don't rub off on him. He will have sex when he is ready. Don't pressure him. He doesn't seem to be the type that will end up a 40 y/o virgin but you need to be proud of him. He is making great choices in life with out your guidance. He is very smart. Give him a break.
2006-12-14 06:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,lets see to be a real man he has to have sex, not treat his mom with respect and love her ,be bad at something be disrespectful not like helping people ? Looks like your son will turn out just fine and probably be more of a man than you , he has a good heart hes respectful of others doesn't want to sleep around I'd say you should be proud of your son ...he sure didn't learn what he knows from you
2006-12-14 06:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your not a Man yourself, your son sounds like a good kid and person. You should love him and support him in whatever his interests and goals might be. Especially if they are of the positive and caring sort.
Maybe you need to do some soul searching, I think you have a closed minded view on what a "man" is and its going to hurt your relationship with your great kid in the future.
You should be a very proud Dad, too bad your too short sighted to see that.
2006-12-14 06:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ripshaw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay Fernando, first just let me say YES he does seem kind of weird when you compare him to other teenage boys. But you know what? You've got a good kid. Not just a good kid, but it sounds like you've got a great kid!
I know how fathers are, wanting their sons to be tough and masculine. I have a 4 yr old son myself and when he gets older I have to admit that I would like to see him in sports and such. But, the fact that this kid isn't doing drugs, impregnating teen girls or getting arrested means the positive aspects far outweigh what you percieve as negative.
Just love the kid and be proud of him for the good things he does and try not to fucus on how you wish he would act.
2006-12-14 06:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mystique6583 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he is not weird, just himself and you should be thankful that he is as good as he is. You sound like the old school kinda father that has a celebration when he son gets **** for the first time and would be happy if he was out just screwing around without any regard for the girls he is with, which does not make him a man. So your son has feelings and he is a gentle soul. Good for him. This does not make him gay. You avoid taking him out with your friends? that is weird!!! Learn to accept your son for who he is and not for who you want him to be. He cares about people, unlike his father.. good for him.
2006-12-14 06:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 year old son, who is similar to your boy. I hope you haven't voiced your concern to him or when he is within hearing. Your words make you seem to be sexist. You think that his being good at math and helping children isn't "male"? And he loves his mom and does things with her? Wow, what a great kid! And he isn't ready for sex, good for him! I feel sorry for you because you don't realize that your son is his own person, with his own ideas of happiness. You need to get over your single minded way of thinking and be thankful for him.
2006-12-14 07:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what your problem is! He sounds like a really genuine nice guy and pretty mature for fifteen. I don't think you can expect a fifteen year old to be a 'real man' but from what you said he seems like he'll be a very decent one. Chilverous, caring, sociable and clearly not a sheep of society. Everybody's different, and I wouldn't go wishing for him to butch up his attitude - he sounds more appealing as he is, and not many girls (or guys) go for macho insensitive men. Definetly someone to be proud of, not embarrased about. The world needs more people like him!
2006-12-14 07:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of expections do you have of your son?? I think most people would be very proud of a child like this. Be greatful for what you do have!!! You should watch the news more often, see what 15 boys are usually up to.......but I live in Las Vegas...so to see a child like this...is amazing.
2006-12-14 08:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by Peanut Gallery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in a hurry for him to be a "man"? He's 15 for cryin out loud! Having sex doesn't make a boy a man, it makes a boy a potential father when he is in no way ready for that kind of responsibility. He is kind hearted, and thoughtful towards others, these are wonderful qualities in men, in fact those very qualities are what attracted me to my husband. Relax, he's a good kid, except it, embrace it, and get over it.
2006-12-14 06:56:39 · answer #11 · answered by kim h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋