my bf cheated on me and his lover kept lying to me about their relationship. they swear that it is over; his lover moving on to another relationship. I bent over backwards to trust them because I wanted to believe them; forgive them, and accept her in his life as a forever friend. It is an impossible task. In my heart it is over, esp. since finding internet searches for upcoming vacation, while he is supposedly working. What am I to do now? We live together. He is out of town at the moment. I don't want to be irrational, teary or screaming when he comes home to me and I confront him.
2006-12-14 06:31:50 · 5 answers · asked by asiana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the situation that ur in is not worth it. Leave now!! The fact that he cheated and u forgave him, okay he should understand what ur going thru and should reconsider his relationship with that other girl out of respect for you bc your his girlfriend. its obvious that he is on some bullshit and really does not know what he wants, but in the end ur hurting. And its not fair to u especially since ur trying to work it out. Dont yell at him, pack ur **** and leave. Guys dont realize what they have until it gone and he will come to that conclusion. In the meantime think like beyonce "Irreplaceable" "I can have another u in a minute, matter fact he'll be here in a minute,baby!!!
2006-12-14 06:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Nasty, This is a very troubling predicament you have gotten yourself into. But lucky for you, Wonder is also a parapilegic, relationship counselor, chain-smoker, and Twizzler eating champion (2004 and 2006). Have a cig, eat some Twizzlers, and I promise the answer will come to you after you have sex with each of them one more time. Because we all know it is NOT just about the money (altho' his check might be an extra whopping $50 each month). We all know that the most important things in life are those that money CAN'T buy ... like orgasms, sweet love-making in a rockin' trailer, and the warm feeling you get knowing that extra $50 will be given to you each month, to buy a liter of fancy expensive Russian vodka and more freaking Twizzlers. Sincerely, Dr. Wonder
2016-03-29 07:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy...but as the 'other' in a triangle, who is now friends with my fling, I watched how he approached his girlfriend (whom he stayed with)...not all relationships are similar, but...one big difference i see is that HE bent over backwards to make it up to her, accepted she would be hurt, really unsure, and angry for a while to come. If your partner isn't doing that for you, that says a lot about the state of thigs between you. Please don't let the fact you live with someone keep you in a destructive relationship for the sake of having one. I've opted to be by myself for a bit to make sure I sort out what I want and who I am...so
I don't become the 'other' again!
Take time to lick your wounds, heal...and round up some friends and go have some fun!
2006-12-14 06:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by Solsticebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up and move out. He wants to have both of you ans his lover is ok with that. Understand that he is beneath you and not even worthy of your contempt. Leave him a note telling him to bug off and don't leave any information for him to find you.
2006-12-14 06:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by norman j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to feel irrational after what he did to you. But you will never regain your confidence with him in the picture. Keeping him around is only hurting yourself.
2006-12-14 06:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kris W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋