I'm 16 and i've got a gf, but...?

Question

But she's my first partner, but i'm about her 8th, i feel jealoys that she's got more attention than me in that way, i love her, but i feel jealous as stated, and although we love eachother i cant help but feel that i should maybe experience more girls, like she has boys and most of my peers have, can anyone offer any advice, tha would be great, thanx.

Answer 1

"don't worry about what you haven't had, think about what you've got now"

well sometimes we like to know whether the grass is greener on the other side but in the end, its all the same, and its all down to your heart whether you want follow it is your choice, but think about what it would be like with other people, do you really want to loose someone you love? all because of jealousy? ex's a ex's for a reason, think of it like this she's had 7 people before her and out of all those people she chose you,

there's no reason to feel jeolous about attention, that's childish, you should be greatful for the attention you get, and you should be greatful that she's giving you attention, she's with you for a reason, she's with you because she loves you, so be grateful for the attention she's giving you, some people figure out they love someone one first chance, that's just the way of the world, but you shouldn't be worried about your jealousy, everyone gets that, what would it be like to know whether the grass is greener on the other side?, its normal, but don't let it change the way you feel, and don't let others influence you feelings or choices either, remember its your heart and you can love whoever you like with it, and remember follow your heart it usually knows the way, i hope this helped also, one thing, you shouldn't be asking other people questions, you should be asking yourself the questions, only you can answer them, i hope this helps and good luck! and just remember you'll eventually know the answer and you'll eventually know who to choose or what to do...


Good Luck!

Answer 2

Does the thought of going out and skronking a bunch of random chicks just so you have had as much sexual "experience" as her really sound like the matture, responsible, sensible thing to do?! If she has been with that many people already at the age of 16, I would be wondering about how safe she is to even be with in a physical way, you have no idea if she has any diseases or anything like that! By going out and having sex with a bunch of people you put yourself at risk of impregnating a girl, or getting an STD! At 16 are you willing to risk giving up school, the chance at a good career, or your youth so that you can take care of a baby? Or are you willing to possible die so that you can get more sexual satisfaction?! You're ONLY 16 buddy, settle down, relax, get through school and worry about your dick when you old enough to really understand what you're even doing!!!

Answer 3

I was in the same exact boat as you when i was 17...

She was my first, and she'd been with a few befor me (she never did give me a number)... basicly, i just forgot that she was with the other people in the past, why should it matter if you love her??

just be carefull of getting sick, both of you need to get tested...

i'm now 26, and my partner has been with a few other people, and even been married once already (no kids), and she's only my second partner... now, it doesn't bother me at all that she's been with other guys befor... she's with me now, and we both love each other more then we could say...

Answer 4

First of all, how do you know you love her?

Because... you slept together and she is your first.

This is not what love is about young one. You could say I LUST HER but not I Love Her. You are not on that lvl yet.

First off, if you loved her you wouldn't be worried about her experience compared to yours. You need to be worried that she has been with like 7 other guys at the age of 16. That's what I'd most be worried about. What's to say the first chance she gets she is not goin mess over you with her 9th guy at the age of 16. Dude, don't be naive.

Answer 5

I think that you are showing your age, and immaturity in this situation, either you want her, or you dont. If her past worries you then just end it and find yourself someone who you feel more comfortable with.

Just for the record, I would prefer a man that had not slept around than someone who has.

So dont spoil your record. Good luck and take care.

Answer 6

Just because she's had more partners doesn't mean that she's a **** or that they were all really serious. You could be her first serious relationship. Personally, I prefer a guy with less or no experience as to a guy with more experience because that could mean that they have an STD.

Answer 7

i feel the same, with my guy, he's 16 and had plenty of experience, though still a virgin, and he was my first kiss. u feel as though u want to perform up to there ex's standard, as though there always thinking about whether ure as good, but as someone has said already, why would they still be with u if u arent just as good, if not better! good luck with ure girl xx

Answer 8

i strongly suggest you always use protection to avoid health issues...about your emotions try looking beyond her past... if this is too difficult and your unable to handle reality move on...find a new girl and avoid all those bad negative thoughts that run through your mind. life is way 2 short to worry about ridiculious things...be very cautious with your doubts and recognize your options!
have a great day!

Answer 9

well, you both shoulda waited till you got married first, but this country doesnt believe in that anymore, you dont have to experience more girls, just because she sleeps with every guy she meets dont mean you have to sleep withevery girl you meet, sex is supposed to be special shared with one partner not any and every body thats how STDs like aids go around, just wait untill your married to do it again

Answer 10

Dont worry about it, its not even an issue, ok so you feel like you may have "missed out" but believe me if you are happy and love her thats all you need to know.