Compare say an old girlfriend to a new girlfriend, openly to her face in an unfavourable way, ie, she didn't have to worry (the old girlfriend) everything was in the right place. What exactly are you trying to say? A man said this to me although he also says I have nothing to worry about. Please explain this perplexing scenario to me, if you understand it. I need help in deciding if he really likes me or not. What do you think?
2006-12-14 06:29:30 · 7 answers · asked by helloha06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess it could be:
A) He is insecure about his looks and maybe feels your out of his league so he trows up the extremely attractive ex gf crap.
B) He is throwing his ego around, which doing it in front of you shows extremely bad character and again insecurity.
C) He is still thinking about her and nobody else can ever measure up to her.
And boy doesn't he think a lot of himself to tell you that you dont need to worry. Sounds like a jerk to me.
2006-12-14 06:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a Chap, but I have been around this life a bit and know a sign of immaturity, low self esteem, and an attempt to lower another's when I see it. He is trying to make you feel insecure. It is as simple as that. It has worked so far hasn't it, as you are here at Yahoo! Answers asking strangers what we think of this comment of his. Listen, you are giving up your own power and allowing him to control how you feel. You know you own worth, at least I would hope you do, so why should you be bothered by what some dumb *** said?
He is being very inconsiderate for reasons which are very immature and I strongly advice you to consider finding yourself a new boyfriend. Why subject yourself to that level of pettiness and low brow bullshi-t? This guy has issues which are going to make you miserable IF you allow them to. It is all essentially up to you. It is a decision on your part; of what you deserve of life and of the people you allow close to you.
Honestly, we teach others how to treat us, so if you want to have him and each succeeding man to treat you so inconsideratly then nothing we say will stop you from doing that. I hope though you take this seriously as a huge sign he will not get any better in his treatment of you. This is verbal and emotional abuse plain and simple. If you allow him to get away with this, this time, there will be a next time, and a next time and each next time will get worse.
I strongly urge you to confront him about his so called "comment" and tell him you not only do not appreciate his "failed" attempt at lowering your self esteem, but that you will NOT put up with it and if he says anything so cruel again he will get kicked to the curb. You have to set bounderies and when people cross those bounderies you have to take action. If you do others will see your bounderies and if they want to be a part of your life they will treat you wth the respect you not only deserve but have shown you will accept nothing less. The stronger your bounderies the better and happier your life will beocme.
It took me a few years to learn this but now that I have I have a much happier life and have friends who treat me as I treat them as well as a husband who adores me and treats me like a queen. However, I was once not so fortunate and it was directly due to how I allowed others to treat me. It really is that simple and that complicated.
Once you start practicing some bounderies, and once you stick to those bounderies, you will soon find each succesive time gets ever easier. Especially when you have gotten rid of all those who use and abuse you, and have received friends who now treat you mostly as you treat them.
Tell him you will not tolerate another comment such as that, or any other abusive emotional crap, and stick to your guns. It is your life here we are talking about, and your life and you matter. You are valuable and have worth, you just need to let others know that now.
Good luck and have a very happy holliday season.
2006-12-14 07:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is telling you that while you are OK(ish) he has, can, and will do better.
Therefore he is 'better' than you, and wants you to know it.
This is not the best basis for a relationship is it?
And by the way, why are you going out with a bloke with the emotional age of a 10 year old?
2006-12-14 06:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by DavidP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't think before they speak. I don't think it reflects his feelings whatsoever. But if your sensitive maybe this guy isn't the one. It was probably a man's idea of some sort of twisted compliment! Had a lot of those, lol x
2006-12-14 06:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that your ex never had to worry about the size of his d1ck and see how he likes it! Maybe he's just really unconsiderate, but I'd be getting ready to find me a new bloke!
2006-12-14 06:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
god men are so confusing i think they say this so you perform better like a bleedy car thats what they usually are like also they do this to make you jelous and try harder in the realtionship
anyways goodluck with your man! xxxxxxx
2006-12-14 06:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi Alloha this guy has got to go he is about to fall of his podium anyway .He is not capable of been considerate of you or your feelings put him on his bike and shove him on his way .cheers
2006-12-14 07:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by not a mused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋