How can she get over this one guy that she truly cared for?

Question

My friend is tring to get over this one guy that she truly cared for, but all this guy wants to do is be friends nothing else but friends. She tried everything to get over him, but nothing seems to be working. She talks to him on the phone some times and after she is done talking to him all she wants to do is cry, but is even when she don't talk to him at all she starts talking about him to all of her friends. i dont know if its because out of all her boy friends this one really care about her. The reason why he broke up with her is because he is in an other state and he is not coming here to be with her. but it just brakes her heart because she really wanted him to be with him. But another thing that gets her thinking of him is when all her friends start talking about there boyfriend. She is tring to move on but nothing seems to help. So what do you think i should do? HELP PLEASE

Answer 1

First step is to stop speaking with him no matter how difficult it is. If he truly cares for her he will miss her absence and contact her someday. Next step is to stop thinking about him. The longer he stays in her mind the longer it will take to get over him. She needs something else to occupy her mind. Hobbies are nice but typically they are not adequate substitutes for an intimate connection. Dating may help but if she starts dating too soon she will only compare her new dates with her ex. I would spend a lot of time with her and do exciting things that she's never tried before. Something may stick and she will forget all about him.