She gave me this whole act like "It meant alot". and "I wish you were there" I know she doesnt mean it. Any gift ideas? A new cell phone?
2006-12-14 06:21:22 · 22 answers · asked by tkocp07 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Nothing. Just start being there for her. If you start buying her things each time you disappoint her, you are just setting her up for a difficult life. My dad travelled and missed many of my things. I felt unloved, but had he brought me things would I have felt more loved, no. Make sure that when you are present your are PRESENT - not on the phone, the computer, watching TV. Your TIME and ATTENTION (undivided) are the best gifts you can give to her. I can remember when my dad was there, when he shot baskets with me in the driveway......it meant a lot.
When boyfriends and husbands disappoint her they are not always going to buy her stuff.....don't set her up to think life is like that.
2006-12-14 06:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez...kids today! They always want something else!! LOL!! Tell her you are sorry and go out for dinner and dessert. Or let her pick a movie to rent and have movie nite. Spend time with her--that probably would be better than a cell phone. Or you could get her a cell phone and tell her next time you don't show up she has permission to call you repeatedly on it until you come to the recital.
2006-12-14 14:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by buddhasgirl1220 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you buying her something. Buying her stuff doesn't excuse you for missing her recital. Maybe she really would rather you have been at the recital instead of buying her a gift. Show her some love not presents. PRESENTS ARE NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR A PARENTS LOVE.
2006-12-14 15:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by teddybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that buying her a gift is gonna solve any problems. You need to sit her down and explain to her what happened, and that you are sorry. By buying her gifts you are showing her that its okay for people to buy her love, and its not. You made a mistake, she will get over it. Im sure there will be more recitals.
2006-12-14 14:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, my dad did the same thing to me. He bought me flowers and said he was sorry, but it only made me think that he could just buy me things and think it was OK. Maybe take a day off whatever you do and take her somewhere that she likes to go. Something that can bring you both some fond memories. She would appreciate that more and she wouldn't think you don't care, after all, you are spending the whole day with her. Make it special, memorable, and enjoyable.
2006-12-14 14:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A new parent? No, just kidding. How about a pony or a car? A manicure or pedicure or both. How about taking her somewhere she wants to go & spending time with her to show her you are still interested in her & want to spend time with her. That's more important than any material object. Perhaps she's been asking you to take her to a park, museum or movie? Treat her to a day or night out - just you & her!
2006-12-14 14:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by r p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does mean alot you @sshole. listen to you dismissing her emotion, what sort of pseudo parent are you?
and dont go out and buy her things, spend TIME with her, memories are more important that material goods. Time spent creating memories truly shows you care about your children. "buy her a pony...buy her a cell phone"...please die you idiots. typical pseudo parent shite right there. dont fall for the american way of bribing your childrens emotion into ignoring your faults. spend the time or accept the crime, earn their love, or buy them off. the choice is simple.
its easy to buy things, but harder to hang out. dont be an @sshole any longer, take time off your life and spend some quality time with her.
that goes for all you idiots too, that feel that bribing through material goods works to make a child feel good. material love dies, memories live forever.
2006-12-14 14:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing... you cannot compensate your time with financial gifts. Although they are okay for a while, your child will resent you later for it. Why not, have her do a private recital for you... your time is much more valuable than your money...
Spend time with her.. in her intrest... and promise [ and hold your promise ]to make as many of her functions as you can.
2006-12-14 14:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mizhani 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant buy love with material things. She is dissapointed because you werent there. Cant weasel out of it by buying her something. I'd say, spend an evening with her. Go on a date with your daughter. Time is more important to her than material items.
Good Luck!
2006-12-14 14:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by knowitall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not like she was practicing hard or anything, I know how lazy kids are nowadays. Don't buy her anything, just remind her how easy it would be to dump her off in a trailer park with her mother!
2006-12-14 14:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋