Assume: Breadwinner is the only source of income. Breadwinner's parents absolutely and stubornly insists on getting together and they live in another state. Job said to breadwinner they need her to work over the holiday. Parent's say: Family is more important than a job.
I'd like to hear know your opinion. Tough Call or not tough Call?
2006-12-14 06:12:32 · 19 answers · asked by RUNINTLKT 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her Family doesn't understand. And instead of saying they understand..they're suggesting to just quit... kids need to be fed...but that doesn't seem to matter..
Puts the person I'm talking about in a weird situation. If she doesn't go, then Parents are hurt...IF she goes..she loses her job..
2006-12-14 06:19:51 · update #1
Although family is important, feeding and clothing your kids is more important. I would never risk losing my job and putting my family in unnecessary hardship to get together for the holidays. If they can't understand that then that's their problem, not yours. My advice to you is to skip the family get together and go to work. The family will just have to get over it.
2006-12-14 13:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents should remember what it is like to have the responsibility of children. If it is not possible to make it to the family gathering, the family should try to understand and do the best they can to insure a good holiday for the children. A conference call would let the grandparents talk to the kids. It would seem the parents think only their family is important. Providing for your children before your parents is a hard thing to do at times, but the children must come first. If you cannot support them, you are not doing everything in their best interest. Who is more inportant to Breadwinner, her kids or her parents?
2006-12-14 06:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by oldtimer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, if there are children to be fed, she should stay home and work, but the kids could go, if that could be worked out. work sucks but it has to be done. many many people work on Christmas, and it is not the only time of year to spend time with family. i suggest she work her job now and spend her time with the family when she is able to take time off work. this is the way of the world. i still don't understand why it is so important at this time of year, than any other time of the year. any other time of the year, her family would understand, would want her to go to work and do a good job. they are sending her a message that it is okay to quit your job for the benefit of someone elses whim. why lose a job for a party? if she does not work, if she loses her job who will be the breadwinner then? you? her parents? no, she should do what she wants to do, not what other people are telling her to do. she should stand her ground on either decision she makes.
2006-12-14 06:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No if it is your only source of income. Your family should understand. Our family has had Christmas on several different days through out the years. The main reason we do it now is so all the families can be home with their kids on Christmas morning to open their presents from Santa. It works our just fine this way . What are they going to do when you get married and have to share all holidays with in laws. Sounds like you need to have a serious talk with parents and tell them you just can not come on that day but you can come on another day and probably spend more time with them.
2006-12-14 06:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by d3midway semi-retired 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well luckily I only have to work Christmas Eve this year, but I am going into work late so that I can have dinner with my family. I need my job and there has been years that I have worked Christmas I just celebrated the day after, after all the holidays last more than one day and I am the only breadwinner in my family. I always just try to make it up to them, they understand. And love that being paid double time.
2006-12-14 06:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by lizzy tee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's a tough call, that's for sure, but you have to look at it this way:
Christmas with the family, fun for a few days, and then that's it. Come home to no home and no life.
OR
Christmas working, ticked off parents who will either get over it or die with it, and you're still alive.
I think the parents are callous for not realizing this is the choice the breadwinner must make. I would work, and in fact, plan to work myself over Christmas.
2006-12-14 06:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Helen 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Family should understand. The job must come first because people depend on you. If my family was being this stubborn, I would tell them that they can spend every Christmas without me from now on.
Not a tough call at all. The parents should be ashamed of their selfish behavior !!!!
Go to work and do the best you can to have a Merry Christmas.
Best wishes.
2006-12-14 06:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Family is wrong. Christmas is a DAY in the year. Jesus' birthday. And, actually, while we celebrate it on December 25th, most religious scholars do not believe that was His birthdate. Work., earning a living and being independent is more important than one holiday. If your family cannot understand that and celebrate Christmas with you. say over New Year's, then family is very unsupportive and doesn't deserve a visit. I am the mother of a grown woman wiith a job in another state. I'd never ask her to quit her job to be with me unless I was on my death bed and I needed to say goodbye!
2006-12-14 06:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not a tough call at all. Family is very important and part of taking care of the family is providing for them. Good jobs are hard to come by. No I would not quit my job...I'd celebrate with my family on another day...or if they don't want to do it another day, I would just celebrate with my kids and hubby
2006-12-14 06:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the family is a loving family then they will understand that you need a job and after the holidays where will you be?
They should try to schedule a get together around your job!! Maybe they could come to you instead of you traveling there!
2006-12-14 06:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by bluemoon 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋