Long story short, my 12 year old son wets his bed regularly (several times weekly). I am at my wits end. I've tried "carrots", e.g., "don't wet your bed for a single week and I'll buy you new Spiddy sheets" . . . . I've tried "sticks", i.e., "If you wet that freak'n bed one more time I'll slap your f-ing block off your shoulders!!!!" . . . and I've tried various practical solutions, including (1) not giving him water, juice or other liquids after noon . . . (2) making him sleep rolled in a tarp . . . (3) clothepinning his peenis at night . . ., etc. . . . . I've also tried motivational/mental tricks, i.e., taking pictures of him and his wet bed and showing them to his friends or telling him that he will never be able to make love to an attractive woman unless he stops his habit. So far, nothing has worked.
Has anyone encountered this problem? What worked for you? Any solutions welcome!
Thanks,
Pete
2006-12-14 05:47:03 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Fashion a catheter that extends from his nether regions to the ceiling. If you do it right, he will shower himself if he transgresses. That would stop me.
2006-12-14 07:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm not sure if I should believe what you have actually tried but perhaps I should explain a few things to you.
Unless he is simply wetting the bed because he is too lazy to get up (Meaning, he lays in the bed awake and still goes to the bathroom) then it is not something he can help. Humiliating him, clothespinning his penis, rolling him in a tarp and giving him gifts is not going to stop him. Usually it has something to do with a persons bladder or prostate. Some people have difficulties feeling when they have to go to the bathroom and that causes bed wetting.
I wet the bed until I was 12 years old also because I have a bladder disease. When the doctor figured out what was wrong and put me on medicine, the bed wetting stopped. Chances are, its probably not something he can control. And there are other possible causes as well. Bed wetting is one of the first signs of abuse both physically and sexually. Perhaps that should be looked at (and if you really have tried the methods you stated earlier, I would almost bet that physical abuse should certainly be considered a possibility.)
The point is, before trying any more of 'your' methods, take him to a doctor and see if there is something else wrong with him. He could actually be having early problems with his prostate.
2006-12-14 07:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of older kids have this problem. My son is 16 and still occasionally wets the bed. I don't want to be mean, but the things you're doing are making the situation worse. He should NEVER be scolded about this (he doesn't WANT to wet the bed and he's probably already embarrassed enough). I just don't believe you take pictures and show his friend or telling him that he can't ever "make love" to an "attractive" woman. That's just too weird. Nobody does that stuff.
Take him to see a child urologist and let them do a urinalysis, exam and also an ultrasound. If nothing is wrong, I suggest you re-think your strategy in this matter.
2006-12-14 07:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok this s(hit) right here...
"taking pictures of him and his wet bed and showing them to his friends or telling him that he will never be able to make love to an attractive woman unless he stops his habit.."
I don't know if you are trying to be funny but that is not the way you should treat your child, I personally think that, he is your kid bring him up how you want, but C'mon your coming off as a ****** jerk.
Your not freakin equals.
your his dad
he isn't your buddy
have you ever thought may be he is sick.
take him to his doctor and explain to the doctor what is going on
most llikely he will putt him on some type of medicine
and he will stop eventually
S(hit) you swear he is going to do this for the rest of his life
for now, just have patience
dad
2006-12-14 05:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by lilbigred12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My niece has the same problem but after years of "carrots" and searching all the possible reasons why, I came with the big revelation: what happens when you don't?
And in fact we realised together that when she has achieved something she was proud of, she did not have the problem....
So, that day we decided that she would try to do each day something really nice...
I think to punish the child is not the right thing to do as he feels even more scared.
The Chinese medicine does say that fears can have bed wetting as effect...
Humiliation is even worse, sorry to say so, any psychologist will tell you...
I hope for your son, because, you may not realise it, he is the one who suffers here, so, I hope for him you will try what I did with my niece, she is forever thankful to me I pulled her out of this hell...
Good luck, Pete!
2006-12-14 06:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by klaartedubois 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is don't put pressure on him or make him feel like a baby. Some kids bladders don't develop until they are 12. That is why there are goodnight pullups that looks like underwear. So these kids can go to sleepovers without being embarrased. My daughter is only 7, but she still is in pullups at night. She is not being stubborn, and at times I am temped to 'shame' her into 'smartening up'. But I don't. I jsut remind myself it is a physical thing and that she can't help it. Also, I only let her have 1 swallow before bed, or her pullup won't hold it all and her pullup and bed is soaking...
2006-12-14 05:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why don't you take him to a doctor and see if his bladder is functioning properly. that is the first step you need to take. Doing all of those other things probably made him more stressed out, and it is probably making matters worse. Why don't you get him, (without being demeaning) some of those big kid pull ups. that is going to relieve the stress for both of you....you don't have to clean up as much mess. He doesn't have the embarrassment of it. another thing, how much sleep does he get. is he on a regular schedule? getting enough sleep will make that happen less. I am sure you have watched how much he drinks about 2 hours before bedtime as well. try a few of these things....they may help....and get him to a doctor.
2006-12-14 05:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would hate to have you as a parent. He realy cannot help it. I am 17 and I still have a wet bed every now and then. take him to the doctor and see what is the probelm. if it is not medical then get him some goodnites and wait for him to out grow it. I have freinds who wet the bed every night till they were 14 and then one day it just stoped.
2006-12-14 05:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you are kidding. We have two boys in our house that wet the bed and I can't believe what I am seeing here. At some point your son will outgrow it. Until then, make him wear some kind of protection at night and don't embarrass him.
2006-12-14 09:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Tina W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First take him to the doctor, maybe there is something wrong with his pipes. when my son was 3 and l went through it l would just wake hime up through out the night and make him go to the bathroom. Ridiculing him wont help him, sure if we interviewed your parents that we would find the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. and l hope you weren't serious about clothes pins on his genitals because that is abuse.
2006-12-14 06:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by Charlie Hustle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I truly hope that you have not in fact tried most of the things you say you have - appalling. Keep going like that and not only will you have a bedwetter but he will probably turn into a patricidal bedwetter. I for one would applaud him.
If you have an ounce of empathy in your bones, you will learn that patience and understanding work somewhat more effectively.
J
2006-12-14 05:53:32 · answer #11 · answered by kirroyale3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋