My family chose to resolve an arguement at my sons funeral.They were curssing and fist fighting. One is the pastor of a baptist church and the instegator of the fight. The others just left church that morning and no one ever apologized for what happend. No one helped with expenses and shrugged it off as no big deal
2006-12-14 05:32:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That was very rude and I can imagine how you must have felt.So sorry to hear that they had no respect for you or your son.This could be a tricky one but I suggest that you talk to each and everyone of them in your own time and space.You need to cope with your loss aswell.My deepest sympathy...
You need to let them know how much it hurt you and how you feel,cutting ties when there can be a solution,doesn't help.They need to know whats cutting...
Keep strong and goodluck...
2006-12-14 06:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's horrible. While you may not ever get an apology from them, you should express your feelings about the situation. You certainly deserve an apology, but they don't sound like the sort of people who are thoughtful enough to realize that. Tell them how you feel, then forgive them for your own peace of mind. Staying angry will eat you up inside. Don't give then that sort of power of you. I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace and healing. Bless you!
2006-12-14 05:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Indievoter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront all that were involved and tell them how you feel about what they did. It was very disrepectful to you and your son's memory!
If they refuse to apologize or contribute then there is not much you can do except just get passed it. Holding resentment for inconsiderate people like that will only bring you down. Try to find comfort in knowing that you did the right thing by your son and you honored him appropriately.
2006-12-14 05:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by bluemoon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not ignore that type of behaviour if it happened at one of my sons funerals. I realize that stresses are high at times of death but to be this disrespectful is something that needs to be addressed. I would sit down with these people and let them know how immature their behaviour was and hopefully they will be big enough to ask for forgiveness or apologize at least. Sorry to hear about your loss and this must have added more stress for you also, this behaviour is awful.
2006-12-14 05:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, sounds like something my mom's side of the family would do. I say you should ignore them & most of all FORGET THEM. This was at a funeral, they have no respect. These are the type of people you want to stay away from. Just because they are family, does not mean they should be forgiven. Sometimes, relatives can hurt too.
2006-12-14 05:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say make your feelings known, and then forgive. This is a very unfortunate situation and I'm sorry that it happened to you. There is no worse place to do this! They were all very, very wrong and I'm sure they know it. They are more then likely mortified by the way they acted. Its just very important that you dont sit on this for years and years. Make your feelings known now! And of course, then forgive.
2006-12-14 05:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, that's pretty bad. obviously they forgot what and who the day was about. They were very disrespectful and didn't take the time to properly bury the dead. Don't ingore your family though, express your severe disappointment, let them know they were all childish, and find a new pastor you can trust! no pastor in their right mind would do smething like that, unless they were nuts!
2006-12-14 05:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to the bible everyone should be forgiven for their sins and mistakes, though, yes, it will always leave a hole in your heart and a turning in the pit of your stomach. I know it will be hard, but you have to forgive them, for your sake. It is so hard to keep it with you, the best you can do is let it go to peace and let that ghost go to rest. Good luck, I know it's easier typed than done. Good Luck
2006-12-14 05:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what for you health just dont get stressed over it. I think if they had the nerve to do this at your sons funeral when you most needed family to help and no one responded. Do you think they should get respect from you. I dont think so? They need to do damage control. They should be asking for forgiveness and your son.
2006-12-14 05:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by smartypants 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore. They aren't worthy to be even called your family...
It was your son's funeral, and what respect did they show for him? For you? Even if they do apologize, they shouldn't have done it in the first place. They should grieve and remember what kind of person he was, not to make scene on such sad day...
My honest condolences....
2006-12-14 05:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by crazy blond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋