Aren’t you sick of people pulling the “don’t be judgmental” card as an excuse to be immoral?

Question

Granted none of us are perfect, there are still certain things where we just need to put our foot down. Increased children out wedlock, promiscuity and violent crimes, parents not teaching their kids the most basic of morals and manners-these things are simply not ok and are causing nothing but tremendous damage to our society. I think it is fair that we should raise our standards without the fear of being labeled “judgmental”, “bigoted”, etc. Being judgmental would be condemning a person to hell or assuming the worst about a person not knowing the individual situation. But that still doesn’t mean that we should approve of their behavior. We need to find a healthy middle line.

Now- an appropriate time to pull the “judgmental” card would be when someone is experiencing prejudice because of their color, ethnicity, religion, appearance, the way they talk, etc.

Hey delia, thanks for reenforcing my point.

Out of wedlock sex DOES harm people directly and indirectly and the moral isn't based on just religious beliefs but practicality and common sense. One of many examples: a child growing up without a father-there's a big correlation of crime and people from fatherless homes

Answer 1

Oh, thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
Furthermore - why is it a degenerate and an abject is proud of being one, despises those that aren't, and ... get this, now ... wants always to appear lily pure, but becomes obvious as a bull in a china shop in doing so??!! Thanks for this landmark question. Honestly.

Answer 2

Personally I'm getting a little tired of people pulling the "morality" card. I came from a very strict religious upbringing to the point where women wearing makeup and bathing suits are sinners. As I got older I knew that particular religion was not right for me so I started exploring the different religions to see what aligned with my belief system. Instead what I found is a lot of personal biases on the interpretation of sin. Which now seems to be breeding hatred among the fanatics. I worship God the way I believe in my heart God wants to be worship and I think I'll leave judging who is immoral and a sinner to God. Goldilocks, the God I worship may be very different than the God you worship. Especially if you're heart is telling you it's okay to pull the judgmental card onto others.

Answer 3

I can't answer for other Christians, but I can answer for myself. I am LDS. As such, I believe in a living prophet and leaders inspired by God. I also believe in personal revelation and inspiration. I make use of talks from my faith's leaders and my own link to my God when studying my scriptures. Each generation has different obstacles they must overcome. Two of the giant obstacles in the world today are abortion and homosexuality (along with sexuality outside the bonds of marriage in general). Some of these things were addressed in the bible when the people were struggling with them. The Lord destroyed two cities when they got out of control w/ the homosexuality. But for the majority of the bible, the people were struggling with other sins (such as idolatry) so that is where the majority of the teachings given by the propets of the day focused. If you have a leader appointed by God to teach His children, and the children are struggling with the sin of gluttony, it doesn't do them much good for the prophet to spend a ton of time on fornication, does it? And let's take a look at abortion. Of course it wasn't a huge issue in biblical times among the Jews (who the bible deals with the most). Every child that survived was considered a big deal, because so many mothers died in pregnancy/childbirth or the child did not live to be an adult. The Jews considered (and still do) life sacred. Murder was a heinous crime. The idea of killing a child before it had a chance was probably fairly foreign to them. So abortion was not a big issue to be dealt with then. But I do believe the biblical prophecies (based on personal study) that speak of the mother's eating their young in the last days are referring to abortion. That should give you an idea of how the people of biblical times felt about killing babes in the womb - they equated it to cannibalism of a mother on her children.

Answer 4

I always find it interesting that when people are judged according to a moral standard, they immediately run to (most often) the same source that they are being judged by in order to judge those who are judging them! Ironic.

Matthew 7:1 (the "judge not" passage), of course, is the verse everyone seems to know. Often we forget, however, that the Jesus who uttered those words is the same Jesus who said that the sexually immoral, the idolaters, the unbelieving, and the vile would have no part in his kingdom (Rev. 21:8). He's also the same Jesus who told us to "judge with righteous judgment" (John 7:24). Interesting how we pick and choose, assuming that we can somehow create meaning apart from a broader context.

Could it be that perhaps Jesus was never saying that we should never judge others, but rather simply that we should not judge with blatant hypocrisy? The context certainly seems to support this. Don't try to dab the sawdust out of your brother's eye when you yourself have a railroad tie gummed up in your own. That's basically the very next verse, and it provides us with the context necessary to understand what's being said. But no one ever seems to know that because they stop at verse 1.

Judgment of some sort is unavoidable for all of us. We all assume a basic moral framework, whether or not we admit to it or are entirely aware of what it is. The only question, really, is what standard one will judge by. Telling someone else that it is immoral to judge is itself a moral judgment about judging. We need to evaluate our reasons, our standards, and our base.

Answer 5

Immoral? According to whose morals?
People have a right to determine whose morals they follow.
You have a right to disapprove of everything everyone else does, however, it does make you judgmental. Sorry, thats how it works!

Your question should be, Why is it wrong to be judgmental? Then I would say, because it a waste of time to sit around thinking about what others are doing. Live your own life. If you don't like something, don't get involved with it, instead DO YOUR OWN THING.

Answer 6

Another appropriate time to pull the "judgment" card would be when experiencing prejudice of a belief system. Out of wedlock sex can be judgmental if the belief is based on religious views. Anything can be judgmental if you base your viewpoint on religious views. Your job is to love people, not try to change them.


Jesus said above all other things to love one another.Jesus also said not to judge people. When you deem something immoral. And you try to change people, you are judging them. And most of the time, people are using the morals of their belief system as a basis to do it. That is what is judgemental about it. When you push your beliefs down someone throat, whether its about premarital sex or promiscuity, you are judging someone. Deeming something immoral means they are against your morals. The only morals we can agree on are not to kill and not to be violent. That is why they are LAWS. The rest is all a matter of religious viewpoints. And that is why everything else is Judgemental. Its when you use your religions morals to call something right or wrong.

Answer 7

Some of those things are problems-violent crime for one. But it really isn't anyone's business if people choose to have sex without a wedding ring, or even if they want to sleep with multiple partners. Maybe people are saying "Don't be judgemental" because you are sticking your nose into things that are not your business. You can not like it all you want, but you don't have a right to take that right away from people.

I'm tired of the "Bible Card", actually.

Answer 8

Those topics are emotional things .. and that is the major problem people dont' think things out anymore they just leap for the throat and scream don't judge me!

When peace is looked at as no war people are not getting it.. its not war that breaks peace its people being offended all the time.

Answer 9

What is immoral to you. And is it always immoral in all situations? Is porn immoral? or just child porn. Movie porn or written porn? Say you are an older person with lagging libido - does your partner need to give up sex too or is it OK to enjoy porn to keep you both going?
You mention out of wed lock children - that is nothing new. And neither is the adult population thinking that the younger generation is taking the world to hell in a hand-basket. We are a product of our environments - quit gripping and start mentoring.

Answer 10

BRAVO!!!!!! Very, VERY, well said. Let's start raising the bar as a society and holding people accountable for their actions instead of blindly accepting their immorality, without question, as truth and the norm. Let's start, again, teaching our children that right is right and wrong is wrong. We'll see a healing in our infectious society when we start being parents and leaders to our children.

Answer 11

Unfortunately, the current trend in this country is "you have the right to do whatever you want, even if it is illegal".

The ACLU, which apparently determines which rights we should have, say it is perfectly legal to murder your unborn children and have homosexual pedophilia relations (they paid legal fees for NAMBLA, an organization devoted to just that.)

It seems to me that AIDS is God's way of saying "quit screwing around", but people don't seem to get the message.

Violent criminals in prison not only get become STRONGER by working out, they also get cable TV, three square meals a day, and care packages from their loved ones. That is, before they get out on parole.

And then, how come the same people asking us to be "colorblind" are promoting such laws as affirmative action, hate crimes, minority scholarships and television channels???


But don't worry, it is just a phase our country is going through. God didn't create us to be this immoral, and we will figure it out sooner or later.

I hope...