Im Shy!! Can some one give me some advice on how to get over it around my boyfriend?

Question

my b/f gets mad cause i dont alwayz know what to say...i need help...ii dont want to lose him....

Answer 1

May be this will help you:

"How to overcome shyness"

Do you become nervous when you are placed in the spotlight? Do strangers make you shudder? Following are some tips to assist you in overcoming shyness.

Steps
Decide what exactly is bothering you, and why. Do you become shy in front of audiences, or when you meet new people? What about it makes you shy?
Practice standing tall, and speaking in a loud, clear voice. Standing tall gives the world the impression that you are a strong person and feel good about your abilities.
Find situations where you know you feel comfortable. Surround yourself with friends or others who bring out the best in you, and build up your confidence through them. Eventually, this will translate to other, more uncomfortable situations.
Be yourself. If you are constantly trying to hold your true personality in, it can be difficult to feel comfortable around other people.
Face the fear that is bothering you. Smiling is a good way to start, and shouldn't be too embarassing. A small smile in the direction of a stranger may just brighten your day, and will brighten theirs, too! When you're prepared, you can try speaking to new people, using a light, friendly attitude. Be yourself!



Tips
Perhaps your shyness comes from stage fright? If you're having difficulties speaking in front of an audience, it is a good idea to choose a person in the audience that you feel comfortable around, and keep your eyes on them the entire time, as though your speech was directed at them. Eventually, you will be able to let your eyes roam around the room, connecting with each member of the audience.



Warnings
Sometimes, shyness can be a serious obstacle to overcome. Be prepared for quite some work.
Do not follow the old adage of envisioning the entire audience in their under-garments! This might make you laugh, which is not a good thing, especially if it's a serious speech!
Avoid turning to alcohol or drugs to overcome shyness. It will likely end badly.



External Links
http://www.afraid-of-speaking-a-speech.com/

Answer 2

Believe in yourself, be happy from inside yourself. Your boyfriend has to love you for you. If you have been shy all your life, you cannot suddenly stop being shy for him. I would think that he would actually appreciate you for being shy. That is just unfair!! That is not acceptable he has to worship you, love you, honor you, care for you, kiss the dust upon which you walk.

What if he goes.. what is the worst that could happen? On the other hand, it would be better to consider that you are pleasing yourself in the process and there is no other way better to get over shyness but by SMILING, when its necessary, when its not, if you don't feel like it, you don't feel the smile from inside,that's ok believe me just smile.

Try smiling all day long for no reason you will see what I mean. There you go just push those cheeks back now freeze!

It also depends on whatever situation you are in, if you are speaking with someone lets say a student, a teacher, a nurse, a gardener, you quickly choose a question that relates to them like, how is your school? What subject do you like? Who is your favorite student and why? What seeds do you love planting the most? I admire that you chose the nursing profession, is it hard?

You will find that people love to talk about themselves a lot (and why not it gives us shy people a good opportunity to learn about people) and it gives you an opportunity to hear their experiences. When they are talking you maintain eye contact with them nod and say "that's interesting" "really" "Oh" "uh huh" and Smile. If you feel shy when they question you smile, maintain eye contact and say "I enjoy hearing about you more" if you don't know what to say.

Eye contact is important too, its very important. Eye contact and smiling will get you everywhere in life, its important in your job interviews, in raising your kids, in loving your husband, in talking with friends, good eye contact is so important in dealing with people.

I turned my shyness into a lifelong lesson about people. I often find that a few light questions and listening makes good conversation and people don't know that I am very shy, they in fact think I am outgoing, when in fact they do most of the talking around me at the beginning.

You will find that after you let people talk first by answering a few light questions you feel more comfort in launching your story for them. Good luck I hope it works out for you personally. All the best wishes for a roaring good time with your new smile!!

Answer 3

Your being shy is the same as being uncomfortable. Time is about the only remedy for you at this point. In the meantime you can be inquisitive. Guys like when girls want to know about them and such likes/dislikes. And be positive and smile. Guys like it when a girl smiles. The shyness will start to fade when you are more comfortable and smiling helps. He also needs to know that you are shy, but its not any fault of his; reassure him he is the only dude for you. Guys like it when they are reassured of this. He probably isnt getting mad, its just he is unsure about how to handle when you dont always know what to say, he's wondering if he's saying the right thing or not. Thats why I say assurance and reassurance. And if you are really into this guy, thank him for being who he is.

Answer 4

Oh please, if this bf is getting mad at you and you are afraid of losing him then you both have serious issues requiring therapy.

Don't stay with a guy like this. He either appreciates you for who and what you are or he doesn't. If he doesn't then get out and find someone who does. You're a "woman" which means the world is your oyster. Unless you're holding out for Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Bill Gates, or Warren Buffet, you have a free ride when it comes to finding a guy who will appreciate you.

Respect yourself and walk away from a guy who gets mad at you for being you. It only gets worse if you don't!

Remember, if someone is your bf, then they already like something about you, so just relax and be yourself. You don't need to impress them; you already did. So loosen up and have some fun. If he doesn't like the real you, just say thanks for the good times and go find a guy who might like the real you.

Answer 5

tell him that it's a problem for you, and that your working on it, and he needs to see that your working on it and lighten up...

now, one thing i do (it helped me with stuttering a great deal) is i think of what i want to say, each word, form the sentance in my head first, then i say it... it makes me sound overly profesional some times, but i've gotten to the point where i can do this very fast, and it helped me with thinking faster and the whole thing...

it also helped me get over my shyness much more because when i speak, i know exacly (word for word) what it is i'm saying, so i speak pretty good...

try it some time, to begin with you'll be slow to respond, till your get faster at it, and after a while, it'll be second nature, and very fast so no one will know your doing it unless you tell them...

this was a trick told to me just after i got out of high school by one of the teachers there, they had a hard time to begin teaching, and did that, and it helped them, he thought it'd help me with my stutering...

Answer 6

Take some personality development courses and improve your power of speech and vocabulary. There is another way if you want it cheap. Believe that your b/f is someone of your family member.
That does not mean that you think of him as your brother. Think of him as someone very very close.

Answer 7

Maybe you could think of things to talk about before you see him.

Answer 8

What are you trying to say to him that you can't?
Your feelings or what you want for dinner?

Answer 9

just get over it!