2006-12-14 05:08:35 · 23 answers · asked by jamie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh well atleast you had fun getting knocked up right?
2006-12-14 05:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's a toughy. Personally, I think he could just be scared. This tends to happen. Don't leave him alone completley b/c u do derserve child support..it is his child too. Don't give up hope just yet. If he didn't want a baby he should of thought about that before having un-protected sex. I'm sure he'll come to his senses when he sees his baby!!! But, if not....you don't need him anyway. You will find a guy that does u right. Just curious...when are u due in June? I'm due in June too and having problems figuring something out. My email address is j_e_s_s_k_a@yahoo.com I'm going to ask a question about this...so I'm lookin forward to either hearing from you on email or at my question. Good luck..and if u wanna talk ..just let me know. I'm kinda in the same situation with my man, but don't wanna talk about it to much on Yahoo Answers. Aight...bye!!
2006-12-14 13:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by tnk_l2_l3ell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not want anything to do with your baby,but for the next 18 years he has NO choice!!! You need to just leave him alone as far as you and him are concerned,but as far as that baby is concerned sue for child support! That's that babies right and the fathers responsibility...You can't force someone to grow up, but the courts can! Good Luck and God Bless you and that beautiful baby! Treasure and love this child despite it's father!
2006-12-14 13:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the child deserves to have a realtionship with his father and if that means you drop by every week or so unannounced or even just calling when you are on your way so that they can get to know each other you have done your part as a good mother and you never know, a relationship may floursih between them.
Also, it is very important that you get child support from him through the courts, your child deserves that too.
2006-12-14 14:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him and give him a deadline date to make a decision on what he wants to do. Sign over his rights, or pay child support. obviously there is no future in the relationship so keep all discussions happy and low key. And who knows, maybe he will be there to provide for the child. But make sure that you tell the father and give him a choice and maybe a week or two to make his mind up. Good luck
2006-12-14 14:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say forget about him... My daughter's father said the same thing and i left him alone, he didn't see his daughter for two years. Now he regrets it, he came back into her life. Its been 4 years and she does not like being with him....There is a god out there and the guy your with will receive the pay back in the long run for not wanting any part of the baby ( his child!!!!)
2006-12-14 13:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by ivonne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's sad to hear that, but you should at least try and get child support from him. irst, u caasking him for money up front each month, but he probably won't pay anything from the sound of your question.
You can go to any legal clinic or agency that handles that and arrange to have a court order making him pay support. They usually charge minimal fees or some don't charge. But you still might not get anything.
So...best advices. Ignore him. Raise the baby the best way you can. Get help from your parents and friends.
2006-12-14 13:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by vgordon_90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES...leave the loser alone...you don't need your child to have a father who will do more bad than good to him/her. Life is already hard enough with two good parents. But make sure he pays child support!
Love that little child with all that you have. It's not the same as having two parents but believe me...love makes a HUGE difference on a child's life.
Hang in there!
Paola
2006-12-14 14:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by DrBeeMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. I can only tell you to follow your heart. I told him that I really wanted him to be around for the baby, but it was really up to him. For a while he left and I didn't see him for a couple months. When he came back he said that he had time to think and he knew that he wanted to be here. But even if he does come back let him know that he is either there or not. It does more harm to the childs emotion if he is in and out of its life. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-14 13:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jewels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. Does his family know? Do they care? I think I would appeal to them next to help him see that a child needs a father. If that doesn't work, it is harder on a child to have a parent in and out of its life. Still, he does have a responsibility to support the child. As hard as it is, try to stay calm and rational. Sending good thoughts your way.
2006-12-14 13:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to make ur pregnancy better yes leave him alone , stress is the worst thin got have in pregnancy i cried over anything and nothing. but when i cried over something really bad in my relationship i don't think it was good for the baby. get rid of him and let him come to u if he wants to talk to u and CHILD SUPPORT for the fathers who don't want to help the mother of their child take care of the child. low life fathers
2006-12-14 13:17:05 · answer #11 · answered by anjel d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋