2006-12-14 05:07:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
watch for any changes in this person, check calls and bank accounts, if this person is making more than an effort to go somewhere, like dressing up or wearing clothes they don't usually wear, if they start getting home late or not at all is a pointer, also using the cell phone more than usual, texts etc...just keep your eye on them...you'll find out soon enough but be prepared for what comes after...it can be painful...and you may lack trust, which will eventually break you...
2006-12-14 05:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you have an instinct that tells you. There is no one thing that could be said to tell you if there are or not. If there was it would be easy and you wouldn't have to ask.
They act different and that is the only way to describe - just different. Coming home later than normal, a bit funny with their phone just generally less interested and distant.
Although, make sure there is nothing else bothering them.
Make no mistake though - they will not admit it, no matter how suspicious you are - you will have to catch them in the act!
2006-12-14 13:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by peachy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine would work late a lot, we had sex even less then usual, he would keep his phone on vibrate or off whenever he was around me and would never let it leave his site. He would leave the room or house to make phone calls, lied about his whereabouts, came home with a hickey finally and then I check his wallet and found a note from some girl in his wallet, went and checked his car and found some chicks nappy hair all of it and it definitely wasn't mine. If you question him about it, he becomes extremely defensive and tries to turn it around on you and may even become more controlling of where you go and what you do because he has a guilty conscience. (my ex did that one while he was having his affair and gave me a hard time and accused me of cheating whenever I went to my friends house who I should add were a couple and the only two I was hanging out with while I was there I think just to justify his own actions to himself or because he saw what he was capable of doing himself). They can also be extra nice and just seem out of character like the one previously mentioned, his all of sudden paying extra attention to his appearance (like buying a lot of new clothes, working out, etc). I think that usually one should listen to their intuitions when something doesn't seem right though, because usually things arent. So just keep your guard up but don't automatically write him off as cheating unless you actually have some sort of proof that indicates that he is. Good luck and take care.
2006-12-14 13:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him/her, or hook up with a PI. The PI way is just a bit crazy, ask your partner and if you are not comfortable with the situation/relationship try and get to understand where things started going wrong.
Suspicions do not necessarily mean something is happening. Go with an open mind and not trying to prove wrong.
2006-12-14 15:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Eddie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally, in my experience, if you are suspicious he probably is.
Catching him is harder.
I thought my ex-boyfriend was cheating on me. Until one day I caught him in a lie. I called him and he told me that he was out with a mutual friend of ours; however, she happened to be standing right next to me at the time. Can we say busted?
Anyway, time after time I have seen suspicions proven true. All I can say is that you have to try to catch him, let it go, or sit down and tell him you think he is cheating. I would suggest you be up front. You will be able to tell if he is lying. (I didn't go this way because I just happen to catch him in a lie.)
2006-12-14 13:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well unless You take Your partner on the Jeremy kyle show,then You will never really know coz they are obviously sneaky about it.Look 4 sneaky eye contact and a total lack of communication.I only found out mine was cheating as HE accused ME of taking his "secret" phone....!I knew f*ckall about his phone but already had my suspicions he was sh*ggin about anyway,man!I am sure you can feel it deep down if they are playing away.
2006-12-14 13:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by snuffylover4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They go off sex, appear a little distant and you can smell a different perfume or aftershave on them.
They could also be seeing a "friend" more than normal or working late out of character.
Lets hope not!
Merry Christmas.
2006-12-14 13:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suggest a threesome and see how quick they are at suggesting a particular third person. In my own experience, those that cheat are keen to introduce the name of the "other party" during conversation at any opportunity as it makes them feel more comfortable for some reason.
2006-12-14 13:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Steve D 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Has she bought any new underwear lately? Changed her hairstyle? Buying new sexy clothes? Wearing more make up? Next time you are going out and she's not coming with you, come home early unexpectedly, say you werent feeling well.
2006-12-14 13:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by kitttymous 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just think, how would YOU behave if you were cheating? Then look for those signs! I know from experience though, if you have suspisions,they are normally right!
Getting hold of his mobile when he's asleep might be a good idea..................
2006-12-14 14:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋