So I have been dating this girl for the past four months and I have fallen deeply in love with her. The only catch is that she has been dating another guy on and off for the past year and half that lives in a different state. There are things that the girl does and shares that makes me realize she has strong feelings for me, but there are other days it seems like I am nothing. I have asked her if she wants him or if she wants me, but she says she is not sure. She tells me that we click on a different level, and make her feel so comfortable around me. Now he has came out here to visit her once about a month into us dating, but he is coming out here again in a couple of weeks. I want her to hopefully figure out what she wants this time when he comes out here, but should I even wait until then? Do I continue to hangout with her they way I have been, or do I back off? Will distance help her miss me? Sometimes I feel that I am here just when she needs me, but man I love her what do I do?
2006-12-14 05:04:07 · 2 answers · asked by joecool71_3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also sex is involved in the whole relationship and that is something that also feels we connect on a different level. She tells me things like "this just feels so right", or "you just feel perfect". I just want nothing more then for this girl to love me back.
2006-12-14 05:06:55 · update #1
All your involvement should cease (unless it is a discussion about or that resolve the following) until the other person can completely and totally commit to you. Until then, you should not settle for this emotional torture or for this kind of setting in which to build a relationship. Either your being committed to or not, before anyone can respect you, you have to show respect for yourself, (and allowing yourself to be in the situation you are in now does not command much at all for you, much less respect) and the aforementioned could be one way to show this. Relationships should be built when all one's feelings and issues from previous relationship/s are resolved, otherwise it can be less than ideal.
2006-12-14 08:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this type of relationship at one point, and the girl picked the other guy. They married and then divorced, a couple of years later. I can see no good in staying in this type of relationship, as the other guy is probably sharing her with you for sex. Move on, and find a girl who will value you, and not be playing someone else.
2006-12-14 13:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋