2006-12-14 04:53:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
are you serious?...if you aren't on speaking terms you shouldn't have invited them! However you did therefore it means you care! Grow up and forgive them so this can be a special day all around...say you are sorry and go from there
2006-12-14 04:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by lil redneck 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you invite someone that you aren't on speaking terms with to your wedding? Any particular reason you are not on speaking terms? Does it have to deal with the wedding or something that has been an issue for years?
If it has to deal with the wedding, find out what is up. If it has been an issue for years, why'd they get invited?
Remember, just because they are blood (parents even) does not mean that they have an automatic invite to your wedding.
2006-12-14 16:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfect for a game of charades?
Seriously, if it's your wedding, then it's your day - only have people you want to have there.
I was very touched last year when I went to a friend's wedding and I sat amongst all her friends at the front of the church - her mother-in-law to be had wanted to put all the relatives at the front, but my friend was insistent that her friends came before Aunt so-and-so that she hadn't seen in decades.
If you can reconcile, so much the better. Why not send a link to this question to your parent? Or if not on email, print out and post? Kind of a 3rd-party way of letting him/her know what you're going through without descending into you-did-you-said kind of battle...
Good luck!
2006-12-14 13:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key in any relationship. So work out before the wedding. However, if things have just gone so horrible that neither of you want to make the effort (Or if just one of you is to thick headed to bother working it out) just orbit the room in the same direction they do. It doesn't mean you actually have to stay as far away as you can, but you get the picture. With this in mind, try not to forget that you WILL take something away from the event if your to focused on not talking to someone or being mad at them. Be with your soon to be spouse and try not to think about anger on a day as important as your wedding.
2006-12-14 12:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by Evolving 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not speaking to them, why will they be at your wedding? And, if you must have them at your wedding, try very hard to mend whatever fence has been broken because trust me, on your wedding day, to have negative vibrations around from someone you're not speaking to takes some of the specialness away. If you can mend the fence, you won't regret it and years down the road, your wedding will be a happy memory.
2006-12-14 13:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Peace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it would depend a little on why you're not speaking. But besides that, I'd say just ignore them if they say anything mean. I figure it would be best to work things out especially if it's a parent you're not speaking to. But if that can't happen, then I would just suggest ignoring them or avoiding any type of conflict.
2006-12-14 12:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply greet him/her in the receiving line, give a brief hug, and say thank you for coming, the same as you would for any guest. At the reception, try to make a few minutes of small talk, the same as you would for any guest.
Bottom line, don't go out of your way for this person. But you should always be a gracious host, so don't be passive aggressive and ignore the person either.
2006-12-14 14:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im in a very similar situation. I don't even talk to my father and my mom hasn't exactly been "motherly". Just remember, its your day! Do Not let anything or anyone ruin it or you are gonna be pissed off bride. Wait until after the wedding. Then, the return of Bridezilla!!
2006-12-14 14:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by beach_bummet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not talking to my "dad" and havent for quite a few months. I didn't invite him to my wedding. He chose not to be a part of my life so I did not fell he deserved to share in my big day.
Good luck!
2006-12-14 22:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how you feel abut them not speaking to you on your wedding
2006-12-14 12:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by Dragon Hart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋