i'm asian and she's canadian, I went out for 6 months with her since summer, we broke up about 1 and a half week ago, she's 20 i'm 21, I was her longest relationship, she has trouble committing.. i treated her like princess... she said i was her first love, first partner, she gave me everything, but lately we argue more and more because she seems to put less effort into relationship. and we have broken up because of it before but we got back together right away. but then this argument came up and it was intense, i yelled, she swore.. she never want to work it out with me, she just wanted to let it go and acted like nothing happen.. I know she's still immature about relationship. but i love her very much. While she was still mad, she said that we're incompatible,never could be together again, now that she's not mad, i know she misses me but she doesn't say, and i also know she has trouble committing still.... i dunno if i can ever get her back , it's killing me, help me please
2006-12-14 04:46:27 · 11 answers · asked by tele t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
since we've broken up it seems that she can't stand not talking to me for more than a day , i usually just stay put.. but she kept messaging me... does that mean she's just seeking emotional comfort? or is there any chance at all???
2006-12-14 04:46:36 · update #1
Shes bored of you cause u treat her like a princess. STOP THAT.
Girls dont like an asskissing wuss, they want a MAN.
She said all those thing about the relationship cause she lost attraction. The sparkles dissapeared. You need her to feel attracted to you again.
Shes messaging you so she needs you now.
Dont act needy or desperate. Be cool, like you re not worried about both breaking up. Maybe you can cut contact for a couple of days, so the need of talking to you GROWS.
After that you can call her, ver cool and say: hey who r u doing? Im going out for a soda/ coffee/ whatever...wanna come with me?
Everytime you talk, no need to avoid your inside drama queen. Be funny and act a little cocky. She needs to realize that she has lost the greatest guy she could ever find. GET IT?
She ll start to feel attracted, you read the signs, you kiss her, and you are back together. Voila!
2006-12-14 05:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this same type of thing, we started out the same way. we kept getting back together and after 4 yrs of that we married ( with a 2 yr old) we were 23 and 25. 7 yrs later of much of the same pattern we separated while living hundreds of miles away from home and and 2nd child. 1 yr after that i moved back home with family. we divorced and now i have to say good bye to my boys every summer all summer long and every other Christmas so they can visit there dad. so would you rather deal with moving onward and upward now or later. I KNOW it is sooooooooo hard, but it is not about now, it is about where do you want to be in 6 months 6 years, only you can answer that!
2006-12-14 04:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by verlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is very immature for you and has a big problem committing. She keeps coming back to you and gets you to spoil her rotten again and then when things get heavy she leaves again. She will keep doing this as long as you allow it, don't. If you tell her it's either on or it's off and stick to your words, then she will either move on or she will settle down and try to mature and change her bad habits. Believe me, you are better off with out her, if she leaves, otherwise she may play you for years until you are drained and she realizes she is in love with someone else.
2006-12-14 04:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys act like a married couple. If you really love her, you have to let her go and let her come back to you. i know that sounds bad and you don't want to here it but its true. Don't stop living your life and having fun over it. If she really wants you she will come back to you.
2006-12-14 04:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by line6_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a backbone. This relationship sounds really immature.
2006-12-14 04:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by Oswald29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she kinda is using you for emotional support. but u expect that becuz she does still care about u. but for you to feel better, ur gonna have to straight up tell her that u wanna be with her if u do. if u dont...u need to cut all ties with her. its the only way.
2006-12-14 04:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by SamE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's still talking to u that much ... im pretty sure she wants u back .... that or just to b real close friends
2006-12-14 04:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by starxxgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they are just afraid of moving on.
your doing the right thing, don't call her, just move on.
2006-12-14 04:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow some balls!
2006-12-14 04:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well- don't give up if you really love her
2006-12-14 04:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋