What happened to your first love...do you still think of them? Or did you marry them?

Answer 1

Get comfortable, this is a long one.

I was in love with a high school sweetheart 20 years ago. After a year of long distance college we broke up. When I tried going back to him a year later he was with someone else. We kept in touch sporadically and then lost touch. Now, 15 years since our last meeting I accidentally found we live in the same state. We are now both married with children with no intention of leaving our spouses and families...however I was suprised to find I have strong feelings for him still and I think he might be "the one." He now very much wanted for us to be friends, introduce our families and keep in touch. I tried -- but I couldn't. The love I felt for him is as strong as ever and I could not handle talking to him/being around him. I offered to have an affair but he declined -- nothing for me to be proud of but I can only follow my heart and admit I'm a bad person. I thought if maybe my feelings were not returned I could handle being friends - but he has feelings for me, probably not as strong but they are there. So to try and restore my semblance of sanity we have been out of contact for over a week and I cry almost every day.

I had no idea what love was when we met. We both knew we had something special but my parents hated him, and I wanted to make them happy. Now I know I have never been in love with anyone else and have been holding my heart for him all of these years. It sounds pathetic and sad but its my truth and I try to deal with it day by day.

People will try and tell you, and me, that love is a decision. In some ways they are right - I choose to end the friendship between me and my first love so I could concentrate on my relationship with my husband and children. But I am in love with my first love and realize I always have been. I feel a connection with him I have never felt with anyone else and it breaks my heart to not be able to just sit on his lap and talk to him about everything and anything.

Your first love might not be the right one for you but make sure you know what "in love" really is because its rare. When I married I thought marrying your best friend that you had great sex with was what "in love" is. But for me its not. That "in love" connection, that unexplainable want to be with them and as close as possible, even knowing their faults, is the essence of great married life in my opionion. It may happen to some people several times in a lifetime but it only has happened to me once and I can't have it now.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

First Love? Heather Monroe. We were in the first grade though and that was more like infatuation or puppy love. We went to different schools after a couple of years and I am clueless what happened to her.

First serious relationship. Another Heather. She's married now and lives in NH with two kids I think. Glad I moved on, instead of following her to New England, she's a pot head with some other serious issues that I won't mention here.

I don't really think much of people in my past. I learned from them so I avoid making the same mistakes.

Answer 3

I dont think about her at all. She cheated on me several times. 8 times. But it took a long time to get over. But i found a wonderful girl a year and a half ago and its like the cloud that blinded me durring the days of pain (with my 1st) was lifted as soon as i saw her.

1st loves hurt the most cuz once you lose it you'll either accept there will be more hurt in your life or your too shallow to care or you'll get married

Answer 4

I'm actually still friends with him. Obviously the love is gone but we keep in touch and still enjoy talking with each other. It does cause some issues with my current boyfriend, I understand most guys don't want their girls to even associate with their ex's. But my bf also is understanding that we're just friends, but he does get jealous on occation. My current bf though is truly my 1st real bf. Because he is the 1st guy I have ever met and been with in person. My ex was online and to this day I have never met him, so to me it can't even count as a real rleationship. So in a way I am with my 1st true love who will probably be the last and only ^^

Answer 5

my first actual love broke my heart in a million pieces. we only dated for a month, but we had been very very close for a long time and i completely loved him, i dont know why but it just felt so incredible right with him. but then he broke up with me accusing me of cheating (and i have a big heart and couldnt hurt some1 in that way, and no i didnt cheat on him) while listening to tyrese "how u gonna act like that" and i just died , then the next day this girl who was friends with him called me and told me she told him i did that crap and that she said it to be with him and it worked. i was so heartbroken i didn even care for revenge. i stayed single for 6 months with out so much as a crush on ne1 and then i met the true love of my life and my soul mate and am very very happy to report were still madly in love for 3 years now! and i always sometimes think about the old, but when i do i realize on how much he is missing and how happy i am things happened the way they did!

Answer 6

I married him!
10 years later!

Answer 7

Im still with my first love and we hope to get married soon. If I ever lost him I don't know what I would do! I would be lost with out him. :)

Answer 8

My 1st love married & had lots of kids & I couldn't be happier for him cause he deserved to have a great life. Do I think of him....no .

Answer 9

Nope I wonder where she went...but I know I wouldn't have married her...she just was the first to fill my heart...but high school love is just infatuation if you ask me..

Answer 10

I just saw my first love....he is not married and available...so am i so I am going to start to date him...who knows maybe i might just marry him??? :)