i was asked out my a friend at school. my first reaction was no, but i really didn't want to hurt her, so i said yes. i was very happy being single and friends with her. i feel like a right **** head since i am trying to avoid her. i really don't want to hurt her since we have only been going out for a week. what should i do?
2006-12-14 04:43:11 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her, you just want to be friends
2006-12-14 04:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's a good idea to consult with someone else who knows her to find out how much she likes you and if she really wants to get into a serious relationship. You should really do what is comfortable for you and make sure that clear boundaries are established for your relationship with this friend. It is best to be honest because that will hurt a person less than if you try to be nice in fake way. Confusion only will lead to resentment between the two of you. It's possible that she is the opinion that one "date" doesn't mean that she wants a relationship with you, but simply wants to reaffirm/strengthen her friendship with you. I had a similiar situation in which I wanted to just develop my friendship with a friend, but she thought I wanted a serious relationship. It ended badly and I don't speak with this person anymore. Good luck.
2006-12-14 12:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by noparmes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth ....things will already be awkward,,,,there was no avoiding it the minute she asked you out. But tell her you really don't want a relationship and you were happy being friends...tell her how much you care for her and how much you didn't want to hurt her and thats why you said yes....I can't guarantee you guys will stay friends..but honestly..I think thats her fault for taking the friendship to a place it wasnt meant to go. I hope you guys work through it and stay friends. good luck.
2006-12-14 12:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Farah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying yes to her and leading her on is not the right thing either way she is going to get hurt you should try to end it with her before any more time goes by and she gets led on anymore and tell her what you told Us you were happy with the friend status
2006-12-14 12:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by starrynights1020@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tomio, you need to tell her exactly how you feel, whether yuo mean to or not you are leading her on, she obviously has feelings for you and thinks that you feel the same. Tell why you agreed to go out with her and tell her that you did not want to hurt her (although you probably already have) and try to go back to being just friends.
2006-12-14 12:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tell her. She will be hurt no matter what you do and it wont work out if you dont want to be with her. Try to explain to her that your just not looking for a relationship right now and hope you can remain friends. Its not like your dumping her for another girl so hopefully she will understand.
2006-12-14 12:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fake ur own death and go to colombia, grow a beard and become cheif lama herder and have a photoshoot for GQ with your favourite lama. Then open up a coyote ugly style bar and have stylish dance rutines everynight as you strive to become the best cocktail mixer in all of colombia.
Or
Just talk to her and tell her wats goin on, if ur mates then she'll find it diff but she'll most likely respect u mor than if u keep it goin an just don't like her
2006-12-14 12:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by bluemagicuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with her, if she is a real friend then nothing will come of it and you will stay friends.
Try and be natural about it and don't make a big deal of it or she will get upset.
If you have been really nice about it and she doesnt want to see you agen and all that then she is not worth it anyway!!
2006-12-14 13:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by chez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have went with your first instinct. just be honest and let her know that you like her as a friend. try not to afraid of hurting her. I think she will like your honesty better than you avoiding her
2006-12-14 12:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO THE RIGHT THING,
FOR THE RIGHT REASON
AT ALL COSTS.
Lighten up, enjoy the company and the event, open your eyes and see the beauty and uniqueness in everything around you and focus more on others. Oh, and try being honest with her too.
2006-12-14 12:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by Wisconsin Scuba Gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already hurting her by avoiding her. Honesty is the best policy. Please let her know that you prefer to be friends with her.
You havent quite mastered the dating thing yet. Hopefully she'll understand, and feel better knowing it's not her directly.
2006-12-14 12:48:41 · answer #11 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋