its all ready destroyed my entire life with my friends and family
2006-12-14 04:39:04 · 12 answers · asked by heather_whitson7 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
What is your question?
If you CAN leave - do. No need to enable this person.
If you are under 18 and can't leave - then try al anon. It might help. You'll get to talk with other people whose lives have been messed up by alcolholism. They will support you.
Blessings.
2006-12-14 04:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being an enabler for the disease is not allowing the cure to set it in. The cure is to quit drinking, but there is a convenience store at every corner, beer can be bought by any adult and it is hard when you have the disease. You are in love with this person and want to make it work that's why you are still there. You can't control the conveince store clerk or the alcoholic from making there exchange. The alcoholic will promise to change and never does until, the alcoholic has found a higher power.
Being accountable for your actions is something they skipped while growing up. You need to be accountable for your actions, what is more important to you? Family and Friends or the Alcoholic? Does the alcoholic make you feel needed? That is their job, that is why they can't hold a regular job. Take up a hobby, drop the hot potato for a moment let's see what happens. Do it for yourself!!!!
2006-12-14 12:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by SYLVIA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a partner then you really need to think about whats more important to your life, them or you.
I know a man who stayed with an alcoholic for 25 years of misery. In the end she didn't sort her self out for him, she did it for herself. Your reason for staying is because you think if you leave they'll get worst, but if they do get worst then they would have done anyway. You need to leave soon because you said it has destroyed you life. Their drinking is not your responsibility and you don't have to carry their problems. It's very hard but yoiu have to accept that you are not an element in their problems and relieve yourself of this pressure to stay, you have a life to live and a family that loves you.
2006-12-14 12:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really understand if you are married to an alcoholic, or if one of your siblings or parents is an alcoholic......
This person needs help. Alcoholism is a disease. Try to encourage this person to get the help they need before it's too late.
2006-12-14 12:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have allowed this to destroy your life out of your love for the alcoholic, yet this is what allows him to keep drinking...he will quit once he has lost everything...including you. Sorry.
2006-12-17 13:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for your grief, if your roomate will not seek help, you can do nothing but watch from the sidelines, if same is willing to get off the booze then they are half way to solving the problem. my family had such a problem my grandfather got help and is much better
2006-12-14 12:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words: Polonium-210
If it can knock out Russian spies, it's sure to take out a drunk or two.
Why suffer? Go nuclear!
2006-12-14 15:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by jpspencer1966 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So dump him. It is harder for me, since I am the drunk. I have put up with myself for over 60 years.
2006-12-14 14:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bite them in there ear that will get him straight
2006-12-14 13:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by mjsmoothwwe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
And yet, you are still there.
2006-12-14 12:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋