I have been dating this girl for three years. I love her and she makes me happy. We have a long distance relationship. She loves me and cares for me very deeply There are possibilities that we will be moving closer together within the year. My friends are pressuring me to break up with her. I am trying to hold in my emotions but every time they say something I want to scream. I respect and love my friends dearly and I dont want to loose them. They think I would have a good relationship with this other girl that likes me. I like the other girl and I think that I could be happy with her. She lives close to me right now and it would be better for the short term but there is a possibility that I could be moving away within the year. If I chose the other girl I would lose my current girlfriend forever. My girlfriend's goals and aspirations in life are a lot closer to my own than the new girl's. My girlfriend just wants me to be happy. I dont know what that is. I am in a lot of pain. Advice?
2006-12-14 04:37:05 · 18 answers · asked by spidersinthedressingroom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You owe it to yourself to give them both a chance. You'll never know your level of compatibility until you date this other girl. Can you date her without your girlfriend knowing?
That's the only way you'll know the right person for you.
2006-12-14 04:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by RightLeft 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand caring for your friends, but they want you to stop being with someone that you love - WHY? Because the other girl is closer? To me it makes no sense to break up with someone that you seem to obviously love and care just for someone closer. You have been together for 3 years already with distance between you, so your relationship is strong. You plan to be moving closer within the year, so just wait that one year to be closer and continue your relationship with her. I would hate to lose the man I love because someone else was lived closer to him. That is not a good reason to let your girlfriend go. Relationships are built on love, not where you are located, so I say stick with love.
2006-12-14 04:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by Baby Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard, but if you really love her, you two can make it work, especially if you have plans in the future to be closer together. You'll be in a lot more pain if you lose the girl you love forever just for the convenience of having a closer girlfriend...
tell your friends to back off. You're not gonna dump her anytime soon and they're annoying you. They'll understand.
if not...find new friends
2006-12-14 04:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by sunkist3122 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't follow your heart, follow your head! Relationships can come and go. Those that work out for the best are relationships where people have made smart, logical choices. Eventually "love & romance" fade - always! Think logically about what you want, then choose the most logical choice. Always think of your situation first. Put yourself first. A relationship is like an add-on feature. You are the car. If the relationship fits well, keep it. If it doesn't, get rid of it.
2006-12-14 04:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are truly your friends they will respect your decision. Three years is a long time to throw away especially if you might be moving closer to her in less than a year. The bottom line is that you have to follow your heart
2006-12-14 04:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by angelahawthorne@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've invested 3 years with your girlfriend and I didnt see you mention any complaints about her.
Quit listening to your friends. It is YOUR life, not theirs.
The only thing that bothers me is if you were in love with your girlfriend you wouldnt even be considering this. So you need to examine how you really feel about her (WITHOUT your friends butting in) and decide from there.
Dont involve any new girl until you know exactly what you want to do.
2006-12-14 04:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard. Give it another year and see if you will end up closer to you GF. You can re-evaluate things later. Remember, the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
2006-12-14 04:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Morpheous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not love your girlfriend, or you wouldn't be asking this question. As for your friends, if they were true friends, they would want you to be happy - and mind their own lives. You need to grow a spine - and make your own decisions.
2006-12-14 04:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends won't be there forever, when you leave, you'll lose them! they will have pressured you away from the one you TRULY love, and trsut me, I don't think you wanna do your friends! Your girlfriend loves you! The other chick, well, you don't really know aobut her, you trust your current girlfriend you have almost everything with her, and you'll be closer soon, just hold on, please, You'll be happier I promise!
2006-12-14 05:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you have to go with your heart on this.if you love your current girlfriend then there is no choice to make.and yes you probably would loose your girl 4ever cause that would tear her apart.your friends are not the one who loves this girl so they shouldn,t tell you to leave her.what if you leave and this new girl don,t work out so good,just cause she is closer does not mean it,s a good thing.good luck and go with your heart.
2006-12-14 04:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋