out of control 2 year old, please help?

Question

my son just turned 2 last month and he doesn't listin at all. he is so bad its ashame he shows off everywhere we go. we try poppin, yelling, time out and even talking to him letting him know he's doing a bad thing and he just does it again, and when we tell him to stop he yells at us and sometimes he hits us.i have even stop going to church b/c of the way he acts. i know he understands us. we also have a 10 month old daugter who is starting to act just like him. WHAT DO WE DO TO MAKE HIM STOP?

Answer 1

it's called positive reinforcement vs. negative reinforcement. he's acting badly to get attention - as do many 2 year olds. you NEED to stop this vicious cycle. when he acts badly - ignore him. period. (i mean, don't leave him alone where he could get hurt or anything), but just don't yell, holler, or react to his bad behavior. however, whenever he does something - anything - good, praise him to high heaven for it...even if it's just being quiet for 60 seconds. he'll start learning (and yes, it will take time) that the good behavior gets him attention and not the bad behavior. good luck to you and stay strong - i PROMISE with time and effort it will get better.

Answer 2

Two year olds are trying to assert their independence. As you've found, one way is to act up which gets him more attention and makes him the focus. You can modify his behavior but you need to be consistent full time. Start at home and when he starts acting up, tell him he's going into 'time out'. Make him sit in a chair for two minutes and then let him go. IF he fusses, give him more time until he straightens up. It will be a test of wills for a while and that's why you start at home and stay consistent and persistent. Eventually he'll see it's not working and will give up. This is when you need to really be consistent with him. Don't leave a crack open or he'll be back to trying to take advantage again.

Answer 3

Time and consistent discipline. I know it's rough, I have an 8 year old, a 2 year old and 1 year old. Keep up telling him no, time out, what ever you've been doing, but make sure it's every single time. If you punish him sometimes and not others he'll just end up confused about why it's ok to yell or whatever he's doing this time, but not next time. They don't call it the terrible twos for nothing.

Answer 4

there would desire to be a warning previously he incredibly has a tantrum. additionally babies opt for too eat many snacks during the day they are not on the bottle yet incredibly would desire to eat each 3 to 4 hours I even have 3 foodstuff and then 2 to 3 snacks reckoning on how hungry they're in case you're going from lunch to dinner with out snack then he would desire to be over hungry additionally attempt feeding him in the previous cut back up cheese and a fruit. cracker in a p.c... positioned him in his room whilst he throws a tantrum and close the door tell him to take a incredibly time until he's able to take a seat and eat. additionally yet another element that enables in case you're going some the place and he's being complicated attempt telling him what you will do alongside with we can the food market and he has to stay contained in the cart or we can't flow the cart. you would be unable to get out yet you may carry the checklist. additionally 2 years previous opt for plenty interest I attempt and stop what i'm doing and play an interest or examine a e book to my little ones so as that they get the good interest. looks like skill war issues.

Answer 5

A 2 year old does not compute commands and doesn' t know how to disobey because he doesn't know how to obey yet.
You are supposed to teach him, first you need to control his actions at home. This is easily done a swat on the rear and you put him in a room to wait, no more than 10 minutes. He won't remember past 10 minutes so longer punishment are fruitless. The 10 month old can get swatted and put in her crib.
(girls mature faster than boys that is why she is in the same phase that he is).

You don't reason with a 2 year old. The reason so many kids are out of control and considered having anger managment problems is not because they were swatted at 2 but because they were not swatted at 2. They never got the message in an instant they did wrong, they get talked to in adult langue and they don't get the talking since their speech skills are very primitive.

Once he start behaving at home you can start taking him on short trips. Church is okay but hopefully they have a nursery so you can worship in peace.
And please give yourself a break each week at least for a couple of hours. I am sure you can find someone to watch them while you get your hair done or go shopping without the screamers hanging on to you. It's called the terrible 2's for a reason!

Answer 6

whatever punishment you decide on it needs to be consistant, dont try a bunch of different things for the same behavior that doesnt work you need to pick one and be consistant with it, it may seem that its not working but it will eventually, I have a 2 and 1/2 year old and when she does something bad or something she is not supposed to do to for example she used to say shut up a lot and the first few times I explained to her that she was saying a bad word after she understand that and I tested her by saying shut up myself and she said to me mommy thats a bad word, so everytime after that when she would say it I would take her into my room remind her that its a bad word and then she would get a spanking and she eventually stopped saying it, not that you have to spank your child thats up to you just be consistant. Good luck

Answer 7

my little one did that too but i had to stop giving suger unless they earned it by listening and kids respond better if u r calmer and let then have a time out when they get up make them tell u what they did wronge and say that they r sorry and do it all the time no brakes so that he knows what will happen all the time kids can smell weakness like when u yell and lose control thats what they want u to do

Answer 8

You have to follow through on strict disciplinary actions. Do not give in ever or you send a signal that what he is doing is ok. Start by taking away his favorite privileges for a period of time and lengthen the time and add privilege restrictions every time he acts up.

Answer 9

Daya thats where you are wrong he does understand. My 2 year old grand daughter understands when she is being bad and when she is being good. I found that popping and yelling works sometimes, time outs are good. Try making him sit in time out and see how that works.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

Make your word gold. If you say, "we'll go to the park if you behave" and he misbehaves, then be sad for him and say "I'm sorry, but we have to go home now because you didn't behave." And scoop him up and leave. Don't be angry, or he will react to that. You want him thinking about how his behavior is affecting him. Don't say "I told you so." Just be sympathetic. Check out the Love & Logic system of parenting. It saved me when my kids were 2 and 5.