I was married with my daughters dad for 8 years and we have been divorced for a 2 1/2 years. I was with my previous boyfreind for a year and now we are no longer togather. For the last month I have started going out with friends just to get my mind off of men. I have been going out about twice a week and my father always cares for her when I am out so she is in good hands. Can my daughter notice that I am not at home as much as I used to be? How does this make her fill?
2006-12-14 04:23:07 · 9 answers · asked by stephanie c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes she notices will she remember...no. Can it affect her yes. How she feels depends on her nature. If she's clingy she'll be more upset about you being gone. If she's more independant then it won't bother her. But remember you're daughter is part of yoru life yes the main part but you need your own life. What you're doing is healthy especially if it makes you feel better and your responsible. If you're coming home tanked at 3 in the morning and hung over in bed the next day that's not being a responsible mom.
2006-12-14 04:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course she can. But it's not like you are leaving her with a stranger. I would definitely recommend that you try not to make a habit of depending on your friends for your independence and fulfillment. It is mostly for your mental health. If you are only going out 2 times a week...seems like you not going crazy with it.
Also, please don't drink and drive....if anything ever happened to you your little girl would be traumatized.
Make sure that you are not taking advantage of your dad's time.
2006-12-14 04:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 year old granddaughter so I speak from personal experience. Yes she knows you are not home as much as before. Will it have an effect on her? That depends on her relationship with Grandpa and her relationship with you when you are home. If Grandpa adores her as I adore my granddaughter then she won't mind you being away. If you spend quality time with her when you are home things will be just fine.
2006-12-14 04:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by BlkJac 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course she notices and she's too young for u to be goin out that often in my opinion. She's still too young for you to be even worrying about men. At least wait until she's 5 or 6 that way u can be home to tuck her in bed bcuz she has school 2morrow. Ur daughter only really wants to be around u right now. Good Luck
2006-12-14 04:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by Live.Laugh.Love 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i dont understand why you feel the need to go out 2 times every week, seems a little excessive. even though your daugher may be in good hands with her grandpa she still wants and needs to spend time with her mother,
try cutting your going out time to maybe 2 to 3 times a month and spend the rest of your free time with her,, remember this they grow up fast and before you know it they are grown up
2006-12-14 06:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by schally31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children notice everything and they are little sponges...everything you do affects your child. I'm pretty sure she feels abandoned by both parents if neither one of you are around to reassure her and aren't trying to keep some form of stability and normality in her life! No matter what's happened between you and your spouses...your child comes first!!!
2006-12-14 04:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont feel guilty
i dump the kids once a month for a weekend, with their grand parents. its important for me and the wife.
2 evenings out of the whole week is nothing, and it wont damage your relationship
2006-12-14 07:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a possibility but as far as how she is feeling is unknown
2006-12-14 04:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by pg#3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋