I really like this guy. we have a great relationship, but i have been kind of discovering his experienced sexual history. i'm not perfectly innocent, but this really bothering me. He has not been dishonest or anything like that about it. I just like the idea of somebody innocent. Am I crazy. Please help
2006-12-14 04:21:23 · 16 answers · asked by LoveForCoriander 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His past is just that...his past. If you are looking for somebody who is innocent good luck. At least he is honest about his past he could have told you what you wanted to hear. Forget about the past and concentrate on the future...like you said you are not perfectly innocent either.
2006-12-14 04:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why judge someone on thier past we live for the future not the past, I mean you don't know what circumstances they were under or what they felt at that time if you are afraid of getting an std go 2 the doctor together and get checked I mean who cares who he slept with before you, just as long is it isn't someone you know.... Like you said your not innocent he isn't the only person you slept with even if he slept with more people than. If you have a great relationship then why ruin with some as silly as that obvisiously he devoted to you so don't worry about it
2006-12-14 12:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by thinkk_pinkk197 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not crazy! I'm the same way. But my thing is that my husband was only with one other girl besides me. Sometimes it seems worse to me. I almost wish he just had a few flings or something. Cause this girl was his first love his first EVERYTHING. So even though he married me and I know he has no feelings for her what so ever, I still get jealous sometimes! I feel crazy! :P If you really like this guy you have to try to look past his sexual history. He's with you now, so you know that he wants to be with you, and whatever happened before doesn't matter cause it's over. At least that's what I tell myself.
2006-12-14 12:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I believe not. Unless you discover, say, a history of him cheating over and over again, I think this is not something to worry about. We cannot change the fact that he has had experience in the past, it's to do with how he is treating you at the moment, what your feelings are towards each other. To tell the truth, I'd be intimidated if I was in your shoes, but I think it's perfectly normal to be bothered by it.
2006-12-14 12:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by Aleckii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that the past is past and people can change. If it bothers you, then maybe he's not the guy for you. Listen to your instincts and your heart. Talk to him about it if you feel it necessary, but if you ask for honesty, don't get upset if he gives it to you. I personally don't need to or want to know every sexual experience my partner had before me. What we have together is all that I care about. If you have alot in common and you get along well then the only problem you may have is a trust issue and that's a big issue. Only you can decide wether or not to continue the relationship.
2006-12-14 12:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a relationship with dishonest guy then be careful!
He might have any other aspects in his life which he wants to hide as well..
No, you are not crazy but the thought of him being dishonest is driving you crazy.. This kind of feeling is destructive!
Forget about him and move on girl..
2006-12-14 12:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't let his past bother you because its something that he's going to have to live and deal with! He's been honest about his sexual history with you, and he didn't have anything hidden under the table! If the both of you are going to have a sexual relationship, its best to be honest and upfront about that! Besides, most men aren't really honest about their sexual history and they prefer to keep it to themselves and later on, you'll find out the hard way! You're very lucky to have someone who's being very honest with you about everything-especially his sexual history!
2006-12-14 12:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle, Thats why the divorce is Sky high. Set your standards and abide by them, your worth it! if it bugs you a little now, it will bug you in 10yrs while your crying and signing divorce papers and fighting over custody for the kids. Maybe you are being a little un reasonable, but if it affects you now, it will affect you later. Its easy to forgive, Its impossible to forget! I also sugest you guys get tested and I hope you now see the effects of fornication. Wait till your married. And follow Jesus before its to late! John 3:36 Pass this info along to your children as well so they will not have to go through this same emotional ordeal that many go through.
2006-12-14 12:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his experienced sexual history is with woman....talk to him about it.
Maybe he was looking for the right woman or maybe he was just young and he was being a jerk.
If his experienced sexual history includes men...you have a bigger problem and if it were me I would leave.
I don't have a problem with homosexuality but I don't believe they change and I wouldn't want to take the risk.
2006-12-14 12:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to make it work, you are gonna have to get past that. I'm sure he wouldn't like to know details about who you've been with. Forget it and move on. Unless you know for a fact of course that one of the girls he was with has STDs and he hasn't told you. That is another story. But he is being honest with you. Remember, you are as dark as your past :) Move on, sister.
2006-12-14 12:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋