My boyfriend gets mad and sometimes hits me what should i do? I LOVE HIM!?

Question

I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years and recently he's been hitting me what should I do? I love him so much and i don't want us to break up. He means the world to me but I know that its not healthy to be in this kind of relationship without it having consequences. I understand that sometimes I do dumb stuff that i know i should'nt do. I believe that people make mistakes and that they are entitled to be given a second chance. Sometimes I feel like I can't breathe without him. He was my first everything- first kiss, first time, first "I LOVE YOU" and he gave me my first child. I'm not with him because I have a child with him I'm with him because I LOVE HIM! I don't know what to do. I NEED HELP!

Answer 1

okay pull yourself together and get away from him. no one should be hitting on you and you don't want your child growing up in this type of enviroment. we all do stupid things, but none of us deserve abuse. you are in pain and you want him to love you. this is not a normal or healthy relationship. it will never get better, it's time to pull your life together. Any one with common sense will not support you staying with him. these situations can get worse to where the man kills the woman. if it were a man getting hit by a woman i would tell him the same thing. move on. do it for your child and for yourself. let him know that he can't get away with doing this. who cares if he was your first, he isn't treating you that way now. you should move out make him go and get help and if there are changes then you all should get back together.

Answer 2

Obviously, this isn't really your problem. It's his. You're just getting affected by it cause you're close to him. My boyfriend's like that too sometimes, but since I know him well, I just keep quiet for a while then I ask him what's wrong. He usually says sorry by then, if not, he'll just forget about it. But at times, I confront him when he's in a bad mood. Like, "Why can't you tell me what's bothering you?", or "Why are you always mad?". And when I can't juice anything out of him, and he's still mad, I just tell him "Talk to me when you've had your head cooled." And that usually works. Don't worry, it's normal. I think. Most men have anger issues more cause they keep things inside, unlike females who let them out. If you really love him, you'll understand. And if he loves you back, he should at least try to tell you what's wrong. Just as long as he doesn't go overboard and start bitching at you and hitting you, go on. But once he's hurt you in any way and doesnt apologize, ditch him. No matter how hard it is. It's not healthy.

Answer 3

I was in the same type of relationship and so what if you do stupid stuff sometimes that is no exscuse to hit you for any reason... My ex boyfriend beat me in front of my friends when i didn't even do me i had 2 blackeyes and a bruised back from where he kicked me and that wasn't even the first time because "I LOVE HIM" is exactly how i felt... He would tell me i'm sorry i love you i didn't know what i was thinking or doing i'll never do it again All of that is a f-ing lie. Trust me he is going to keep doing it no matter what he needs help he doesn't know how to deal with his emotions Your going 2 end up dead and what is your family going to say "He only did it once he didn't know what he was doing" ! Leave why you can't before its too late. A real man doesn't hit woman that a p*ssy ur with

Answer 4

First of all, if you know that hitting isn't a health relationship then you obviously know the anser to your own question.

Don't be a dumb girl, you need to leave. If HE loves you there would be no way he would have insipration to HIT you. No matter how mad you make him. Thats not respect at all you might as well be his dog (and even if you were his dog, that is still cruel punishment). Don't you dare let your child see her parents in a violent relationship. Who cares if he was your first- your first don't make that your best. There are much MUCH more better men who know how to control their anger only brainless bruts resolve to violence. If you stay then you are truly a dumb b*tch and don't come back on here asking anymore questions like this because you'll be wsting your time.

Answer 5

no girl deserves to be treated with disrespect!! my boyfriend was the same way, but lately, I have pretty much put him on a leash. if you still want to be with him then make him chase you. (a good friend of mine told me this same advice too!). you shouldnt be the one doing all the work. the fact that he hits you, gives you a bigger reason to leave him. If he really loves you, then why does he hit you? You have to think of yourself before you think about him. Do you think it`s healthy to be with someone that hits you? what if YOU are the only one who loves him, but he doesnt love you back? although it may be hard, you're going to have to either break up with him, get some space, or just clear your mind and think about yourself and what's best for you and your child. hopefully you make the right decision. he may change, but then there is a high chance that he wont (you know how guys are). just get some space away from him, clear your mind and all of your thoughts, and focus on what to do even though it might end up hurting you in the end. time will help you heal and you will be better off without him.. or maybe he`ll change.. and you can still be with him. space would be greatt at a time like this...

Answer 6

Hi,sorry you're having such problems and I hope you're going to take what I say seriously...
When a man beats you means that he has lost all respect for you and if he does it once,he'll definately do it again...
My advice is stop feeling guilty when he comes with all his sorry stories.This is not the first time it's happened...
Stop thinking that it might end if you say nothing as the more you forgive him,the more he will continue...
Some people think that love is enough to keep the relationship afloat but if this continues he will beat all respect you have for yourself away and you might end up being and feeling like someone you don't want to know...
Because he was your first,don't think that life will not go on if he's not around...
This is not a good atmosphere for a child to grow up in...
Been there tryed that,it doesn't work,it just gets harder by the day...
Would you have liked it if you grew up with such circumstances?Do you like been beaten?What is it doing to your selfesteem?What will it be like in a years time?What will happen if he breaks something or even kills you?What will happen to your baby then?When will he start beating him/her?
Questions you really need to ask yourself...
Goodluck with the choice you make...

Answer 7

You definitely need help. You need to get out of that relationship ASAP. No one has the right to hit you no matter what "dumb stuff" you do. You also need to get some counseling. You deserve better than this. You may love him and he may even love you, but this is not a healthy relationship. Perhaps if he gets some counseling as well, it would help, but I'm inclined to think that if he's hitting you it will only get worse. You could end up dead and even if you don't, how do you think this is affecting your child? If you have a daughter she will grow up to think that it is OK for some guy to hit her and if you have a son he will probably grow up thinking that that is the right way to deal with your anger at your spouse. End this relationship now, if not for your sake, for the sake of your child. It will be hard, but it is the only option you have.

Answer 8

No man should ever hit a woman. Abusers tend to move up to the next level so becareful. You might want to think about getting out of this relationship now before you get hurt. You say you LOVE HIM... but does he love you to treat you like that? This is what you should be asking yourself. You have a child with him and still "dating" after 4 years. It's time to move on and not be treated like that. We do have to let go when it's not good.

Answer 9

Regardless of whether you "do dumb stuff" no one has the right to EVER hit you. Your child will end up doing "dumb stuff" too - is it okay for someone to hit your child? This is NOT the environment that a child should ever grow up in. You and your child need to get out of this situation and the ONLY way you should even consider getting back with him is if he goes through counceling. You don't deserve to be hit and it's ufair to your child to let him/her grow up in an environment that would make him/her believe it's okay to ever justifiably hit someone or to be hit.

Answer 10

Having a child makes the matter worse. U dont want ur child growing up to see that do you? Take some time off or mention couseling to him. He may have some personal issues going on. Find a answer to this and if u cant get out sweetie!!