I am a Christian, I go to church almost every Sunday. Is it okay for me to make outside marriage?

Question

It is Christians principle that a person should not have sex with anyone before marriage, it is a sin for young people to have sex before they get marriage. For intance boy friend and girl friend is forhibited. But to me I cannot help it, even when I control myself, I still feel like to have sex with a girl that I am attracted to, and sexual desire is a sin too. So what shall I do?

Answer 1

Love her. It is not a sin for the two of you to express your love in pleasure. This was a gift given to you both by God.

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Answer 2

No. the Bible states clearly that you are to save yourself for your wife. Read the Song of Solomon for instance.

It is only natural that you should feel the drives you felt before marriage. The only difference is how you deal with it. You are no longer a single entity, you are joined to your wife; you have, according to the Bible, become one.

Since you are a Christian, you do have the power to resist if you will obey God. Just ask him and he will help you.

Yes, lust is a sin. be careful next time you feel yourself attracted to a woman to remove yourself from the situation so it does not develop into lust. And if it does get that far, ask for forgiveness and move on.

Think about the beggar who was waiting for help. All of the sudden, he sees a woman set her purse down, and turn away. He instantly desires it, but now has a choice in front of him, to take it or not? He thinks about all the things he could do with the money, and soon decides to take it. So he does, and gets arrested.
You see a woman, and instantly you desire her. Next you think about her, and what you could do with her, then you do it. You may not go to jail, but you may get penalties far worse. A torn marriage, and seperation from God which could be permanent depending on how you leave it. You have just commited willfull disobedience.

Most Christian men still have feelings like that after marriage. They may be attracted to a girl on the sidewalk, but whether they stop and pull over is a far different matter.

Pray about it next time you struggle, if you are sincere you will get help.

Answer 3

Sexual desire is not a sin (lust is, however). God created humans for this kind of intimacy. God doesn't expect you to go through life as a sexual zombie, however, I think He does call us to put those feelings in check and seek to be pure. He did put rules around sex to protect you and I and every other human from getting hurt (either in the short or long term). Basically, according to the Bible, it is NOT okay to have sex outside of marriage. Look in a topical concordance for scripture that will show you where this is outlined. It is not okay for us to rationalize why we can break God's rules. We've all done it, but it doesn't make it okay, and that is the question I think you're asking here.

God made you the way you are; but you are responsible to use what he has given you within the context for which it was created.

Answer 4

Friend I am not exactly understanding your question, But if you have a girl friend & you are NOT marry, then Yes, it is a sin to have a sexual relationship, But Apostle Paul also said That it is better for a man & woman to marry due to their inconsidtency, Meaning their desire for sex. Hey, God put that Desire for sex between a man & a Woman Only, & only in wedlock, That sexual deire is a naturl thing, & that is not a sin., But friend do it in wedlock., & only between a man & a Woman, anything outside of that is a sin. If you find your girl friend attractive, & you 2 are planning on getting marry, & you can not wait because of the Burning deire for sex, then get marry sooner, But never think if you see your girl friend as attractive, & looking at her Beauty, It is not wrong, what do you think sometimes draws a man. & Visa vers. But myself, My wife is very Beautiful, But most of the beauty comes from within, Even though my wife has Beauty about her outide body. When I met her,My 1st wife had been deceased & her 1 st Husband had been decesaed, We met & Honestly, I am not one bit good looking, & she was above the 90 % mark, But it was the beauty in her heart & she saw the Beauty in my heart. That is really what count, And now we have been marry going on 16 yrs.

Answer 5

#1- Sexual desire is NOT a sin. We were made to have those feelings, thats just how we are wired.
#2- It IS a sin to dwell on sexual thoughts.
#3- Sex outside of marriage is a sin. And its not good to have sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend simply because once you do that you create a bond with that person that's temporarily in your life, instead of your spouse. When you have sex you create a soul tie that binds you to that person.
#4- And you can help having sex. God wouldn't put more on you than you can bear. He knows your struggling but He's on your side and isn't going to set you up for failure.

Answer 6

This is a tough one to answer. I will admit myself that when I started dating my husband 12 years ago, I was also brought up on the principal that sex before marriage was an outright sin. However, one night we let things get a little out of hand and before we knew it we had done it. Both of us felt extreme guilt over having done anything at all and how to be repentant for it (we were engaged at this point). We decided that in the end that this was a sign of marriage in God's eyes and while we still felt some guilt and remorse about it, we had known what it was like to feel pleasure at the same time. God is understanding and forgiving, and would probably be willing to overlook this indiscretion as long as you ask for his forgiveness. I would say to search your soul on this issue, but remember that God forgives.

Answer 7

You're asking that here. You should know the answer already. You need to control yourself and not force yourself on the girl. If you can't you need to get married asap and no sexual desire isn't a sin in itself. God made us that way but it is good inside the marriage relationship. You may have a sex addiction problem that you need work out. Can you talk to your Pastor about it?

Answer 8

I am not sure if you are confusing Christianity with Catholicism. I know in the Catholic world, sex outside the confines of marriage is a sin.

But The Bible is clean upon one thing: we are all sinners and though our thoughts may be impure, it is our actions and deeds that make us sinners. That and the whole Original Sin thing.

Sexual desire is natural. Just as envy or avarice are. However, it is when we act upon temptation that we sin.

Answer 9

No. It's not okay for you. "Get" marriage? Like you get a prize in a box of cereal? You need to "make" the ability to form a sentence, gain control of yourself and decide to grow up before the possibilty of a child that you can't take care of in or out of marriage becomes for certain. You want less sin? get yourself some non-violent, non-degrading porn. Sin against one person not two.

Answer 10

First of all going to church every Sunday doesn't make you a Christian. It's what is in your heart. Secondly, my understanding of the Christian religion (and there may be others out there who disagree) is that having sex with anyone who is not your legal spouse is a sin in God's eyes.

Answer 11

Christiananity, mainy catholic has forever been a way to control people and keep them in the fold. For years the catholic church said that disecting a human body was a sin to prevent people discovering somthing that would contradict the bible and mean they would lose their power. I'm sure most of what the say has no bearing onhow God would see us,but if it'swhat you belive in prehaps you should stick to it it.