i dated a guy and gave up my virginity to him. a month later he broke up with me.
2006-12-14 04:01:37 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take responsibility for your actions. You are old enough to have made the decision to have sex with him. You made that decision, you did it. Your decision to have sex with him does not obligate him to you for the rest of his life. You don't have that kind of control over him.
IF you are about to whine and say, "Well he promised this.." "he promised that.." I would say once again, take responsibility for your actions. IF you got played, it because you LET yourself get played.
2006-12-14 04:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by RScott 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup, he used you. Sorry, I know that sucks. Some guys know how to play on a girl's emotions. They see the things they like, say the things they like to hear and use that. Sure you had a choice, but you thought you were dating one guy when you were really dating another. That's like me promising to sell you a new TV but when you get the box it's full of bricks. But you live and learn. You can't get your virginity back but you learned a valuable lesson. Not all guys will treat you like that. You'll hopefully learn how to tell the good ones from the dogs.
2006-12-14 04:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First think about why ya'll broke up and then you can look at it several ways.If you told him you were a virgin before ya'll hooked up then more than likely yes you got used. If he didnt want to be in a relationship but you said you would only give it up to someone you were with then yup you got used. If ya'll only shared sex and nothing else than yup you got used. If you gave it to him because you felt pressure than yup you got used. Sorry just take it as a lesson learned to bad it had to be a lesson you can never relive and make a better decision, because once its gone its gone
2006-12-14 04:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Stickey Ikey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he used you and i bet you feel sooo stupid and foolish. I know how you feel because i was with this boy and I had sex with him, but i didnt lose my virginity to him. We was together for about 5 months then he broke up with me, but then we got back together and then a month later he break up with me again and i found out the he was talking to this other girl the whole time we was together. I feel like he used me for he sexually pleasure and i feel like a complete fool and i was so native and stupid that i could see right through his little game. I cried for about 1 week and i got over him, but still i think about all the things we did together, I become sad about it,
But you will be okay, just give it time and cry it out a couple days and listen to music or whatever that helps you. Go out with your friends or something and stop talking to him, give him out your mind
2006-12-14 04:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Pumpkin Nickel Bread 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it sounds like he used you. Don't let it get to you because people will come and go in your life and we learn from each experience. Just make sure that next time you wait until you know the person a little better and feel like you have developed some trust in them. If a guy cares about you and really likes you for you, he'll be willing to wait until you are ready. Learn from this and do things differently next time.
2006-12-14 04:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I dont think he did use you. You made the decision to give up your virginity to him, no one forced you. Everyone takes a chance with matters of the heart and sex is not going to make a man stay with you. I would take it as a learning experience and be careful who you give your goodies to in the future. Make sure he is more deserving than obviously the guy you dated was.
2006-12-14 04:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he did. However, he is the one at fault here, not you. In the future, pay close attention to the character of the person you're involved with. Sometimes when you are in that hazy "love" state, you miss the signs that will tell you what someone is really all about. I'm sorry this happened to you, don't let it bring you down. Learn from it and grow stronger. Blessings!
2006-12-14 04:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by Indievoter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this sweet heart guys are just DOG'S when it comes to sex...they we said any thing for sex ...I'm so sorry hunnie i have 2 daughters i worry all the time the same issue will come up,,,I do wanna tell you make them work for the sex if your going to have it..Please use protection you don't need to worry about a STD .You will hear the stories on on i cant feel it ooh it don't feel right.don't let them talk you into some thing your not sure of,,,Becareful and safe hunnie you take care..
2006-12-14 04:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by mi_4252 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your instincts tell you that he used you then yes. If your gut says that he just had a change of heart a month later maybe that is the truth. You know the answer here.
2006-12-14 04:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by lisateric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably no more than you used him, did you feel like you were using him at the time, probably not. I doubt that he was deliberately using you either. It just happened that way, pick up the pieces and move on with your life. How many long term couples do you suppose there are out there that are still with their first sex partner. I wager its probably about .001%.
2006-12-14 04:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he owed you nothing for virginity freely given...
What was the reason for the break-up ?
Sometimes these things just happen..
Move on..
The best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love..
2006-12-14 04:04:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋