2006-12-14 03:56:40 · 17 answers · asked by Dragon's Breath 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How does helping him, hurt your family. Be more specific and I will update my answer.
2006-12-14 03:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by rcpaden 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you do have an obligation to help your father in any way that you can...but not at the expense of hurting your own family. I suggest you try to get some help from a Senior organization in your community or through medicare. There are services out there that can help and I think your obligation would be to try to find help for him through one of them. There may have been times when you were growing up that your parents were penniless and going through tough times but they did everything they could to take care of you...it's the least you can do for your Dad.
2006-12-14 04:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
While I don't have all the facts (and would not assume that you would break confidence by telling a total stranger - me - about the intimate realities), I do have to point out one Key Fact:
He IS your Father...therefore he IS part of your family.
If you refuse to help him (unless there are present and EXTREME risks of physical danger, abuse, etc.) you will be doing the wrong thing. Yes, I know talking about Morals is considered "old-fashioned," but I'm willing to accept that label if it means speaking the Truth. The fact is that if we let other people's faults/mistakes lead us to do the wrong thing, IT'S STILL WRONG.
One other point. You used the word "family," so I will assume that there are children involved. Part of training/raising children is teaching them - by example - to do The Right Thing. Failure to do that WILL hurt them in the long run. The most powerful lessons my parents gave me were when I SAW them wrestle with, and make, Good Moral Choices - even when it hurt them personally. That helped me in the long term, when it was my turn to do so.
I pray that God Almighty give you his Wisdom - and Protection.
Take Care...!
2006-12-14 04:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by blktiger@pacbell.net 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have a moral obligation to care for him. He is your dad and cared for you. I sure as a child your family went through some hard times but he provided for you. Why can't he stay with you? I am sure you have enough food for one more person! I am sure he would not even mind sleeping on the couch. As for his medication if he is on any there are drug programs that will give him his medication for free. So what is the big problem?
2006-12-14 06:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by d3midway semi-retired 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do think you have the moral obligation to help out your father. I am sure your family must realize this, and should be more understanding of the situation. This is the man that brought you life, and raised you. The least you can do is help get on his feet!
2006-12-14 04:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by afterlife 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your father should be considered part of your family. Are you going to hurt him if you don't . If it means taking food out of your childrens mouths or other things they NEED, I wouldn't, but if it is just going to hurt say.....your moms feelings, I say go for it. Family should look out for each other no matter what. Everybody makes mistakes! Don't let feelings stand in the way of doing what is right! Good luck!
2006-12-14 05:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bekka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be no obligation. If you want to help your father, you shouldn't care what anyone else has to say about it. Make a decision you can live with, and don't worry about anyone else's feelings.
2006-12-14 04:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by phgl83 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it a financial burden? Does he not get social security that could help you to take care of him?
It seems though that if you do not take care of him then he will end up out on the street. I think you need to adapt and make adjustments in order to take care of him. It happends all of the time.
See if you can get him on a disability program or social security - something that will help everyone out.
2006-12-14 04:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by designerista 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
where do you live? If in the USA you can take him down to social services and apply for assistance for him. They should help find housing and food stamps along with medicaid if needed. In the USA most any one can get help if they try. Is he ill. What does he want you to do. Or what is it that you are doing that effects your family.
2006-12-14 04:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by Nani 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would helping your father hurt your family? Besides, your father is a part of your family.
2006-12-14 04:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by kat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends. if your Dad took care of u and your mother/siblings while u were growin up and was what a father is supposed to be, yes. if he was a dead beat then no. if taking care of him means your family won't eat, obviously u can not take care of him. but if your family can still have all basic necessities while u take care of him there's no reason not to.
2006-12-14 04:03:08 · answer #11 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋