I have problem marriage, i met a man who is 10 years younger to me but madly loves me. I too admire his intelligence.and have 8 yrs long pure friendship. Now we both have fall in love .Should i go ahead with it. I hv fulfilled my responsibilities as a mother of 2 at the cost of my feeling for 29 married years.Do i have right to fulfil my desires now. what will my sons say if they come to know about this?Please help.I m in dilemma over ethical- non-ethical issues.Young generation is very clear in their concepts so I expect ans. from them.I m 50 yrs old working lady.I promise not to disturb his married life.
2006-12-14 03:54:06 · 21 answers · asked by vjayashree19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think it is right to be in a relationship with a married man. If you wish to leave your unhappy marriage then you have every right to do so, but unless this man also leaves his wife, it would be wrong for you to continue in the relationship. Besides, you deserve a guy who will put you first. Not one who is going to have to keep you hidden away.
2006-12-14 04:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Newsflash: Cheating is wrong. There is no justification for it. If you are in an unhappy marriage, get out of it. If he's in an unhappy marriage, he needs to get out of it.
How would you feel if you were cheated on? Would you like it? If not, then why would you do it to someone else? The reason doesn't matter...it's simply an unkewl thing to do, and it will come back on you.
CAN you cheat? Probably...you didn't indicate you were physically incapable of doing so. SHOULD you? Only if you don't care if any partner you ever have down the road, no matter how much you love them, cheats on you. If you wouldn't like it...don't do it.
2006-12-14 11:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a real delima, so many find themselves in. In all relationship breakups there is always the lost of one thing but the gain of another. Only you can weigh the loses and the gains.Adopting a new relationship it is the same for lose and gain. Personally, I feel, RIGHTS should play a very small role in your dicision. Once again, personally, his and your married lives have been affected,if only in a small way. I am close to your age and divorced for 13 years, but now ingaged. God Bless your dicision
2006-12-14 12:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have fulfilled your responsibilities, but when you are married, they go on for life or what did you get married for. If you no longer feel that you wish to be married, then you owe it to your husband to tell him so. He should not be classed as a responsibility, he is your husband and your sons are not just a responsibility either. If this younger ,man is married then he too should consider as to wheher he wants his marriage or you, neither of you can have both for this is morally and spiritually wrong. Thou shalt not commit adultury.
2006-12-14 14:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by rockandrollrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sinfull and wrong in all the manners, its better to take a divorce from your husband and do what ever you want to do with your life, but while being married this is purely cheating and un ethical. Don't take a step which will lead to nothing but a deep & dark valley, cz i hv seen cases like urs.
2006-12-14 12:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by like_2b_frank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be silly and foolish. There is no love at all - this is simply lust. Don't spoil your family life and disgrace your husband and children. Stop this nonsense at once least you may one day be disgraced and thrown out of the house and your husband and children outraged and disgraced. There are so many other ways to give vent to your lust. When having sex with your husband imagine that it is your boy friend - then you will be satisfied.Do this and you will save all your family members from disgrace.
May the Almighty lead you to the correct path.
SCRPatnaik.
EMail:patnaikscr_9@yahoo.co.in
2006-12-15 04:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by scr p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try to sort out the problems you have with your husband,but if you feel there's no solution then get a divorce.Do not destroy another family for your love,if you want another relation start afresh with an unmarried or divorced man.Before doing any thing think about the other woman whose family you would be destroying.
2006-12-14 12:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but if you are married, thats cheating on your husband, and as long as your children are grown up does not matter and give you the right to cheat on your husband . and go in between the other guys marriage. If your that un happy in your marriage then get out of it. and then you can do anything you want. as long as the other person is not married.
2006-12-14 11:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationship has never been a problem.
problem comes when u force some one to stay in relation for any reason.
the moment some one wish to move out of it
say apleasing good bye and enjoy
love is to enjoy the comapany
and let the other feel free about it
2006-12-14 12:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by shekharravi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its wrong...coz it effects the family to a higher extent.....mostly the kids coz they cannot bare it n it will ruin thier future..... may be iam wrong but how can u trust that person when he has left his wife for u,may be he will live u for somebody else......just bring ur self under control before its too late, may be u will regret later.....moreall he is married. n u will be spoiling many of them's life.....dont be the cause for that....u be happy in ur life n live him to his self......hope u will think over it...all the best
2006-12-15 06:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by nida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋