Its going to be in a hotel bar so when I get off work she wants me to call her and she will meet me at the car. Why would she do that or am I being paranoid?
2006-12-14 03:49:04 · 36 answers · asked by stunston 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not being paranoid. Something is up here. Why wouldn't she want you too meet her there? She has probably something going on with another man dude.
In life..If something looks like crap, smells like crap, and feels like crap..It is crap...
Straight up, homie..If it was me...I would call her out on it. Not like a whiner. Just calmly and Cooley say, "This party..You don't want me inside. I have to wait in the car. I am not, stupid. The only reason you don't want me in there is because you are involved with someone else." Let her BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH away...Whatever she says, its all B.S.
Dump her on the spot, dude. Right now, quick, fast and in a hurry. Don't be hateful. Just tell her, "Hey, You are unacceptable. You are therefore being dumped." And walk away. Walk away fast, dont turn around just leave.
Women can't take that.
She will have an attack of guilt or call. Ignore her attempts 3 times before you respond.
But when you do respond, remember: she did what she did. She is NOT the one for you. Its OK to continue to date her, but don't let it go any further..
Good luck!
2006-12-14 03:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by RScott 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds funny to me. I would want to know why. If the party is strictly office personel I could understand it. I would leave work early go to the hotel bar. If you can take a look without her seeing you that would be good. If shes doing nothing wrong, then call her like she wanted you to and act like nothing is up. If you see something like her hanging all over someone then call her up tell her its over and have a Merry Christmas.
2006-12-14 03:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by omegalibra927 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the foundation to every relationship...without it, you have nothing. I would not jump to conclusions in this situation, but you need to express your concern. Communication is the next building block after trust. So if you have a lack of trust and cannot communicate your concerns to her, you're just spinning your wheels in the mud. Just be straight-forward and ask her nicely why she doesn't want you to come. It shouldn't be a big deal to her if she has a valid reason such as guests are not allowed. If she is cheating, her dishonesty will show through in her response.
2006-12-14 04:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would be paranoid to, just ask why she doesn't want you to come. I just had my christmas party at work and we went to a bar too. We were not allowed to invite anyone. Maybe thats the case.
2006-12-14 03:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, my first reaction is to ask how long you've been dating. If it's extremely new, she may not be comfortable letting everyone she knows she's involved yet. If you've been dating a while, then you might have a valid concern and you should ask about it. But I'm also a firm believer that people should never lose themselves in a relationship and maybe she just needs to relax a little
2006-12-14 03:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Assume that she wants to have a good time with some office friends and fears that you would be bored. So as she asks. If she has something else going on, believe me, you will find out soon enough. In the meantime, she will apprecieate your sensitivity to what she asks.
2006-12-14 03:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by Justin M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she's hiding something from you. It's not a trust issue like the little girls think here. There is someone she does'nt want you too meet or she is ashamed about you. Either way something is up. This is not the way adults act.
2006-12-14 04:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya sumthin is not right here. I say just show up anyway. Hotel bars are public places. Wear a bunny suit or plaid shorts and black socks just to really piss her off. She is either not wanting to show you off or is hiding an affair with a coworker. go ahead and bust her on it and enjoy the rest of your holiday.
2006-12-14 03:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by cheese food product 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea you are being paranoid...if she doesn't want you to go then she doesn't want you to go and you should leave it alone..its her choice weather or not you go with her..because its her office party so don't stress because its probably not for any specific reason, maybe she is embarassed about her office friends or something dont' assume its because of another guy or anything like that..because chances are she would try to hide it better from you than telling you not to go to the party
2006-12-14 03:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi im jeany have you given her a reason to act differently towards you. how have you noticed any changes in her actions? maybe the reason is only workers are allow to go. take time with her and talk to her try to get a better understanding on why she doesnt want you to assist her to this event.. well i hope i can be a help to you bye god bless
2006-12-14 04:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by The wife R kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋