What should I do? Need some serious advice?My sister is a drug addict & an acholic, she has been in & out of r

Question

In all of her past rehab attempts she would check herself in therefore she could check herself out, and I don't think I have to explain the rest. She is currently in a court mandated halfway house type facility. Its a nine month program, the only catch is that it is supposed to be for ppl that want to change, and she lied to them saying she was ready, but her probation officer told her it was rehab or Jail. So anyway after being there for 3 months she get to come home for a weekend. One of my cousins went and got her, she told me I had to take her back, & on the way stop by and pick up her friend & take her back too. But she did not tell us it was 3 hrs out of our way!! While she was home she stole $200.00 from my mom and tore up my dads ATV being reckless driving it with her friends after midnight one night. So I realize that she hasnt changed & tell her not to call me until she does. Now she is telling everyone we know that we have disowned her, and ppl are looking down on us. Help

Answer 1

You are doing the right thing!!! Your sister will not seek help until she hits her bottom!! Do not enable her, because when people are in their addiction they will take, take, take as long as you are giving!I know you love your sister but the best thing you can do is distance yourself from her. RECOVERY WILL NOT WORK until the person does it for theirself. I know this is so hard but she is very sick .

Answer 2

I think every family has a member who is going through similar problems. Interventions are great! Let her know that under no circumstance will she get any more help from anyone of her family members until she gets the help she needs. Just because she has chosen to take this path doesn't mean that your family has to go down the tubes with her. You are only being enablers if you don't say enough is enough. She has to hit rock bottom before she can begin to climb out of her darkness. Don't give it a second thought about how other people see you, because they have know clue what is really happening, and if they did they wouldn't be so quick to judge you.

Answer 3

Unfortunately at this point you have to let her go and she has to actually hit rock bottom before she is going to change, and even at that point she may not. But to keep bringing her back to the people that aren't doing her any good. You and the rest of your family are being what is called an enabler. As for her telling everybody that you have dis owned her. That's fine tell them why. And if they want to take over where you have left off, they are more than welcome. I bet the looking down their nose thing will stop.

Answer 4

First I'm sorry that your having to go though this. Second don't worry what other people think. I would do the same thing. Actually my step-sister and I will not have anything to do with our brother until he straightens his life out and quits drinking. If you allow her to keep doing what she's doing and act like there's nothing wrong then she'll never have a reason to quit. And no one can make her change she has to truly want to. Good luck and I hope everything works out for your family.

Answer 5

There's really nothing that u can do to help her. She can only change if she wants to change she's the one that has to be ready and not doing it just because everyone else wants her to. It's all up to her from here on. Does she have any children? If so maybe that would help her to quit. Sorry that I really couldn't help u out. That's the best advice that I could tell u. Good luck and I hope that everything works out for her.

Answer 6

u can only be there for her morally and emotionally. she has to make the decision to not be a f*ck up on her own. u can not love her, or threaten her to get her to this point. u can only try talkin to her and understanding her while givin her good advice and suggestions.

Answer 7

cant help her - keep her away from you until she grows up