i used 2 not belive in luv, bc luv only ment getting hurt, physically, mentaly and emotioally. i dated this guy who falls in luv w all the girl he dates, except me. so i wonder why am i imcapanble to luv and be loved? what is so wrong w me? y do i always have to chase guys, y cant they chase me? im tired of just being looked at for my body, if its wats inside that counts what is it that every girl has that i dont?
2006-12-14 03:39:43 · 14 answers · asked by Tiana Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i promise you, you aren't the only one. My girlfriends and i talk about this all the time. We just decided to wait and see what's in store for us! And i'm sure it's something reeeealllly special,
All the best!
2006-12-14 03:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sistr P* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I want to say that you are being a little hard on yourself. Please don't judge yourself on the basis of the people around you. To a certain extent, you may need to be a little more positive about yourself and your outlook towards love and relationships. Your perception and lack of believe in love may have a way with the way you behave indifferently with people.
Being a man, I can tell you that while looks matter to all, it is your personality and attitude and self-confidence that matters most.
If I were you, I'd be very glad that this guy who seems like a skirt-chaser to me, isn't falling in love with you. You want someone that will respect you, understand you, value you, and love you for who you are.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Being patient and being positive about yourself and the world around you will definitely help you a great deal. Just focus on the more important things in life and things will begin to fall into place. But, do not second guess yourself or judge yourself through other's eyes or actions. Hope this helps :-)
2006-12-14 03:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be confident within yourself which I know probably sounds tricky right now but be patient and it will happen. Don't go out looking for someone enjoy doing whatever it is you do and stop thinking that just because you're not with someone that somethings wrong. It may take a while but you will find someone. It's when you stop looking that you seem to find someone. And just a note re chasing, from a guy's point of view, never chase a guy it comes accross as desperate and you'll attract losers. Be yourself and enjoy yourself and you'll attract exactly who you want without realising it. Enjoy yourself
2006-12-14 03:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Alright! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahahahah...."Fell in love with all the girls but me". Just what pray tell is your definition of "love". Getting laid? Because people don't "fall in love with everyone". No...now creatures such as dogs will hump anything and everything because it feels good. Of course they haven't a clue as to why they do. Its second nature to them because they're incapable of reasoning. Much like this guy and you it seems.
My dear I'm afraid that you have some deep seated issues that need to be addressed before you could even begin to become involved in a serious relationship. Quite frankly...if some guy came along who actually displayed true love and affection I think you'd be lost. I base this upon your statement here...Nothing more.
2006-12-14 03:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like self confidence.Not to sound mean but if you think and keep telling yourself you cant have it and show that your insecure about this, then you will keep being left behined in the love department.You see, The other girls that you speak of more than likely are not focused on the fact of failure and they probably are spending their time just being themselves and doing what they like to do.The guys see them in their best situations and see their self confidence so in turn this attracts them and makes them desire to get to know them. Dont worry so much about having someone and focusing on it. Just get involved in what you love and be with the people who you love and make you feel most comfortable.In no time at all when you least expect it, you will start to see the guys coming to you.
2006-12-14 03:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going for the wrong guys. Guys who look at you for your body and not whats inside are they wrong guys for you I think. You need to met someone who is nice to talk to and doesn't stare at your chest the whole time.
2006-12-14 03:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by Cait 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up some more and find out who you are and what you want your life to be like.
You also need some self-esteem.
Forget about guys for awhile and do some work on yourself.
Also....please use spell check...it's hard to read your question.
2006-12-14 03:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to worry. All good things take time. Do you really want someone who falls in love with e/one? When it happens, it will be very special........as it should be!
2006-12-14 03:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People confuse like and lust with love.
Why are you chasing men????
Dress with care. Not showing too much, or too tight.
Carry yourself with respect. You just haven't met
the love of your life yet.
2006-12-14 03:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my advise 2 u is that..ok well r u friends with him? ok if u are...well then like try 2 get his attention u know. FLIRT WITH HIM...but not in a sluty way.....juts be ur self..n HAVE CONFIDENT IN U....;) u'll c how many guys will start noticing u =]
GooD luCk :)
2006-12-14 03:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by locagirl0720 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋