we has sex together for the first time a couple days ago. we were safe and all that, but the problem he's a black male and im mixed but mostly mexcain&white and my family disagrees with me having a black boyfriend so we have to hide EVERYTHING when i go see him i have to be sneaky and cut school. to me he's perfect! but thy can't see that and i dont know how to make them see that im gonna be with him no matter what they think... IT'S HARD!!
2006-12-14 03:31:49 · 17 answers · asked by bonnie856 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 16 and my boyfriend is 17 .we has sex together for the first time a couple days ago. we were safe and all that, but the problem he's a black male and im mixed but mostly mexcain&white and my family disagrees with me having a black boyfriend so we have to hide EVERYTHING when i go see him i have to be sneaky and cut school. to me he's perfect! he has flaws but i learn to love them, but they can't see that and i dont know how to make them see that im gonna be with him no matter what they think... IT'S HARD cause i love him!! and me telling him how my family felt i felt ASSHAMED OF MY FAMILY!! cause he wanted to meet them and all that but im nothing like them when it comes to race's. i love him for who he is not the color of his skin and if they can't see that then thats their problem and im not gonna deal with it that much longer.....
2006-12-14 03:54:29 · update #1
me & my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months, and we have had sex once. my parents hate him with a passion for no reason at all. i love him and he loves me. and i don't see why your parents don't like him, as long as he makes you happy then they should be happy for you. DON'T be sneaky, whatever you do! that just makes things worse when you get caught, and trust me, you will get caught. it always happens. just talk to your mom about it, nationalty shouldn't matter.
2006-12-14 03:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lindseyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not sure what exactly your looking for us to say to you...Are you under 18 years old? if so, your parents have every right to interfere with you dating....About him being black, that shouldn't matter. People need to realize, the US is a melting pot. If you live here, there is a chance you will date/marry someone of another race. Your parents are wrong for that. However, I am not a parents so I can't say they are wrong in all aspects. If they don't want you to see him, you will have to continue "sneaking" around until you are old enough to make you own choice....I'm sorry this is happening. I know it sucks having to hide things from your family. Best of luck
2006-12-14 03:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're mixed. Why should it even matter to your parents? Anyway, it could be far worse. Follow your heart but also think hard about it. Will you be with this guy for the next 5 months, 5 years? Losing the affiliation for your parents is rough, especially if it's for a guy. Wait until you're legal and move out, then you can do whatever you want if your parents are gonna be all hammer of god censorship.
2006-12-14 03:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Masta Batang Dollar Billz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you just remember that love is what’s most important. Sometime in your future you may have to make a tough choose between him or your family. Dwayne Johnson aka The Rock, his in laws use to not approve of him. It didn’t have anything to do with skin color but his wrestling lifestyle they didn’t think was best for the daughter. Well their daughter ended up picking him and didn’t speak to her parents for years. In till Dwayne went to them and said “I’m not asking your permission just wanted to let you know I’m marrying your daughter”
Its kind of odd you family would be disapproving what with you being mixed and Mexican too. I mean Mexicans have seen a lot of discrimination .
Also don’t skip school honestly your education is important. Also who knows you might look back on this and realize this relationship was just lust. I’m not saying it is but it happens especially for young people.
2006-12-14 03:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.......Ur in a very tough position. I don't know ur age but ur family should accept ur decision of dating outside ur race. Personally I see nothing wrong. They can yell and down ur decision all they want but at the end of the day the DECISION IS YOURS!! So think this through and if ur ready go for it.
Good luck! Hoped I helped u out.
2006-12-14 03:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know the feeling my mom use to be that way.she wasn,t a racist but she just didn,t believe you should date out of your race.listen if you want to see this guy then go ahead cause love sees no color.tell your parents that god did not make one race but different races and he sees no color.if they don,t like it then i would keep doing what your doing until your old enough to move out.look i am with a black man and we have three kids and about to be married.see some people who look at blacks only see the bad things other blacks have done and it,s not right.if your parents love you then they will not make you choose only the race they want you to date but would rather want you to be happy.
2006-12-14 03:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's hard but you are honestly not doing the right thing by cutting school. If he cares about you and you about him you need to be patient. School is very important and without school you have no where to go for job. Finish school, and then you can do whatever you want. If you 2 are still together then it's meant to be.
2006-12-14 03:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get older your parents cant dictate who you date, so I would just keep a low profile (remain close but safe) until you are older and if he is the one then he will understand that.
Please dont miss school your education is very important.
It'll get easier as you get older.
Good luck and make good decisions.
2006-12-14 03:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tamekia Anderson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating across the racial lines. Talk to your parents about how you really feel about him.
It's your lif and they can't stop you from loving who you want to love.
I wouldn't cut school and everything if I were you, but there is no harm in wanting to see him.
2006-12-14 03:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by always confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep doing what ur doing and try 2 show ur parents the good things bout him like his grades and stuff they should respect ur decision and get over it but u shouldn't have to sneak around tell ur folks dat ur gon stay wit him weather they like or not and if they got a problem wit it den dey must not love u trust me itll work
2006-12-14 03:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Tia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋