okay im 22 my b/f is 22 we love each other and are done with school and we want to do it! My question is i have a very close family and he doea not. Should i do it without them there in vegas or at a court house as i do not live near them about 8hrs away and im sure they will be upset
2006-12-14 03:20:45 · 43 answers · asked by sexynurse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Okay what i meant is his family will not care if they are not present for the marrige but mine would, should i just do it without my family there or wait for them to be present or do it, then have a big one for the family just for show?
2006-12-14 03:28:18 · update #1
Get married, location not important. Then set up the reception near your family first, then set up another near his parents. You should try to make
everyone happy on this occasion even if you change latter on, you tried.
2006-12-14 03:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to distant yourself from your CLOSE family is to not include them--or am I reading this wrong is it they are close in distance or emotional ?? I think you need to have the wedding of your choice if you want a small elegant one or a simple one in a court house or Vegas it doesn't really matter as long as its what you and your husband to be will be happy with--Just invite both sides of the family regardless where you have it--Or have a reception on another date --and there again invite all the family members--those that want to attend will--
2006-12-14 03:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your day not your families. I truly understand you wanting to have your family there but if we continue to live our lives for other people we would never be happy...Right? Since you guys are far apart and you feel this is something that needs to happen right away, go to the court and then plan a nice big reception. If you guys can wait so your family can be together, take your time and plan a wedding and reception. If this is TRUE love you only have one chance to do it right. GOODLUCK!!
2006-12-14 03:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married at a courthouse with your family there. It's easier for you and your boyfriend to travel to where your family is.
If that's not possible, tell your family you are going to get married in Vegas and then go see them on your honeymoon. They can throw a big impromptu party and will be mostly happy.
Since your boyfriend's family is not that close, go to see them at the next opportunity. See yours first, then his. Make a point of including his, though. They may not seem close, but appearances can be deceiving.
2006-12-14 03:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you what I did.My case was pretty much the same as yours.
I came from a close family and my mother in law did not like the idea of her son getting married before age 40 . He was 35 when we got married. We eloped!!!!!! flew to Las Vegas got married and then telegramed both mine and his mother (his Dad passed away before I met him) .We got home and my family was excited we got married. Then we we got married in church with JUST!!! the immediate family members and then had a wedding party instead of a reception.
We later had 6 children. I was 34 when my first baby was born.
We had a good and happy marriage until his death. It does not where you get married as long as the love is there.
You have my best wishes
2006-12-14 03:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were both 22 when we got married in 00. We got married in Vegas, the only other people there were the two sets of parents. That's it.
If your sure you want to grow old with this person, and you have more that just love to sustain you...then get married. Marriage is between 2 people not the families likes and dislikes.
Marriage is hard work, and fairy tale marriages are only in the books.
2006-12-14 03:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should have your family present, because if you don't they won't ever forgive you for running off and getting married with out them being present. It's the biggest day of your life as well as there's because I pretty sure that they love to share that big moment with you.
2006-12-14 04:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by wenwen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My understanding is your question is not should you get married but where you should get married. Not sure if the not close family you mention is geographical or sentimental. If it's sentimental get married where you want. If it's geography meet them in the middle somewhere.
Cant do much for the grammar, are you sure you are done with school ? There is a spell check button however, look for it.
2006-12-14 03:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by D'Artagnan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this.
You and your bf are 80 years old. You're both wrinkly and falling apart and sleeping half the day while you munch on oatmeal. You both look at each other with the great love you have and have had for 60 some years. Then you talk about when you got married to your grand kids. What do you tell them? "We got married in a court house." Or do you tell them you went to Las Vegas, had a crazy time in a wild ceremony, you saw "Elvis" and you drank and gambled and rode the NY NY Rollercoaster at the hotel.
Just a question for you to think about when you decide what to do and how you want to remember your marriage when you get older.
2006-12-14 03:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by mrjohntesh 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it is nice, that you are worried about his/your parents, then when you got children, maybe you will be happy for their helps. but when 2 people decide to marry, NO 3rd PERSON should interfere your plans and dreams. And so many people live far away from their parents after marriage and they are doing very fine.
So it depends what YOU BOTH want, what is the best for YOU and YOUR HUSBAND. Think good about it, no answer here decides, only you. good luck.
2006-12-14 03:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Elena S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋