Do you, or have you, told your kids that you've done drugs?

Question

If you have used in your past. Will you tell your kids? When would you tell them? Would you come out and tell or would you wait until you thought they might be in danger of following in your footsteps. Will you tell them all of the drugs you've done or just the 'milder' ones?

Answer 1

My father told me when I was older (like 17) and when I admitted to do doing drugs to him.

My mom still denies it. But she was a child of the 70's.

Answer 2

I am pregnant at the minute and think that I am just going to be honest with them once they are old enough to know everything that I have done, I may be like you, and not just talking about a little dope or something. One of the reasons I would tell them is that if they hear it coming from you, maybe they will believe the effects and not try it, though this probs wont happen, most kids expermint like we did, its whether or not they take it further.

People in the area will always be ready to stick the boot in and that is another reason I would tell them, people love to bring you down.

i also think the kid will respect you more for the truth and it will make you seem much more like a person they can come to as you have made mistakes too. Good luck, and you will know when are how to do it when the time comes.

Answer 3

I never did any drugs but I always believe that the truth is best in cases like that. I have told my daughter that some of my best friends when I was 14 did do drugs and I hung around with them a lot, even while they were using. I skipped school with them and hung out at a dealer's house (which was raided a week later). I could have been in serious trouble just by being there. I told my daughter that the best anti-drug advice I ever got was not from a parent but from another 14 year old who was using. She told me that if she ever caught me using she would quit being my friend because she knew that once you start you can't stop and she didn't want to see that happen to me. My daughter is 13 and I have told her about this important piece of advice and where it came from.

Answer 4

I already talk to my 10yr old daughter about the dangers of drugs, but have not divulged my past drug use. I'm sure when she gets older and is able to understand better i will tell her about the mistakes i made when i was young, just to show her how bad they really are,and let her know i felt the same pressures that she will be feeling and hopefully that will help her make better decisions in life than i did. I feel that if a child knows that you have been through the things they are going through, and not just preaching to them they will be more open to what you are saying.

Answer 5

My husband and I have chosen not to tell our son about our past only because that is where it belongs. If the question ever arises then we might change our minds depending on the situation. The important part is that we aren't doing drugs now and we know the warning signs. We will have the drug talk but I don't think it is a good idea to tell your children that you have done drugs. They may get the idea that "if my parents did it and they are fine then it's okay for me to do it too".

Answer 6

nicely in case you would be a cop might you tell little ones that your style of acquaintances could be a good impact for them? or might you tell them to stay faraway from people who do drugs? it incredibly is annoying for them to believe you. If somebody advised me something for years and then advised me they have been mendacity. the two way i does no longer believe them. generally i might tell human beings to forgive and be supportive yet except you will take a stand for what's powerful and tell your individuals which you will no longer help their drug use I say stay faraway from them. i might additionally hardship that as a cop you may carry all and sundry else to a larger conventional of the regulation then those people who you call your individuals. If my acquaintances or relatives broke the regulation then I say they deserve the implications. You although might arrest somebody at a drug bust yet enable the folk around you off the hook. does no longer sound honest to me. i'm hoping you do no longer pass the attempt if it incredibly is the type you will serve and safeguard.

Answer 7

My son is only 2 so I havent told him, but when he is old enough I do plan on telling him that I used to (smoke marijuana) I think I will tell him when he starts high school thats when I tried it. I want to be honest with my son and tell him the truth about my self and drugs and stuff that way he will talk to me honestly about stuff too . . . . . I hope that makes sense lol I was thinking faster than I could type lol

Answer 8

All I've done is smoked pot, and if my child asks, I will tell them the truth. I won't just volunteer the information, though. I plan on talking to my child about the dangers of drugs, smoking, and alcohol fairly early, so I hope that will help dissuade them.

Answer 9

You need to determine if they are intelligent and mature enough to find some sort of help from knowing that. Most kids would see that as a reason NOT to listen.

I also find it interesting that people consider pot "not a big deal" or a slight exception. Drugs are drugs.

It always helps to be intelligent while you are growing up and not do them.....

Answer 10

I think the first answerer has a very good point, nothing good comes of telling your child that you used drugs