Is it possible to fall in love, and should you tell him? I have bee seeing this wonderful guy for only about 3 1/2 weeks. Out of all the relationships I have had, I never had a feeling like this. Being around him is so natural and comfortable for me, and him. He is really in to me and I am so in to him. I can close my eyes and see me with him in months to come. But is it bad to express too much of my feelings? I dont want to scare him, I want him to be happy and love me back. Whats the trick to getting a guy to love you...I hear so many of my girl friends tell me they can make a guy fall in love with them, whats that about? I think that the love is there, he's holding back. He's a scorpio, and he keeps it all bottled up...
2006-12-14 03:06:18 · 11 answers · asked by jakki09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is always telling me he misses me. Always text messaging me...with smiley faces. When we are together he always hugs me and kisses me on my head or my cheek. he so polite and sweet.
2006-12-14 05:26:33 · update #1
He has assured me that there is no one else, he knows he doesn't say much about his personal emotions but he will start. its crazy. he never get s mad about anything, always laid back. I feel like we have an instant connection. I have never had anyone hold me through the entire night and wake up in the morning with a lil kiss on the cheek. .....fyi...i added additional details for those who only read my side first. :0)
2006-12-14 05:28:43 · update #2
Listen you can not make anyone love you thats a huge mistake and when you hear other girls say that more than likely the guys dont love them as a person they just love the fact the girl is giving them what they want probably sexually and ofcourse there going to take advantage of it and act like they like them if the girl is stupid enough to think that is love and think that they want anything other then that. Those girls are just confused and inexperienced in life and have low self esteem and no goals about a real relationship or just dont get it yet, anyways if you and this guy really have genuine feeling for eachother there is nothing wrong with expressing them and if he feels the same he wont be scared of and if he doesnt feel the same then who cares if he gets scared off its no good anyways, oh and if your feelings for eachother are mutual you'll find that both of you will just sortof end up telling eachother and if its natural it will go natural so dont worry about it it will just happen and if your feelings are genuine tell them why not? a good way to do it would be just while your close and already talking about whatever be like I wanted to talk to you about something and say I was wondering where you see this relationship going or where would you like it to go because i'm developing feelings, DO you want this to be just you and I or do you want to leave it open especially if your sleeping together be like if you sleeping w/anyone else you need to use protection and I want to protect myself which you have the right to know and that should kinda break the ice as to what he wants to is thinking about, he might say yea I was thinking about that to, or you'll get you know I just want to keep this open for now and if thats the case you wont subject yourself to being volnerable by opening up for no reason or before its right and secure, Good Luck Kim
2006-12-14 03:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the time being, DO NOT tell him you love him. Most likely he will run if you do. And the ONLY way you can make a guy fall in love with you is to be sincere. Don't act any different around him than you would with your best friend. How do you know the love is there on his part? All you told us is how YOU feel. And I hate to bust bubbles, but I don't entirely believe the astrological thing. People behave the way they are taught to behave. If he was taught by his parents that they didn't want to hear about his issues when he was growing up, or if they were just too busy to listen, of course he is going to bottle things up. Being a Scorpio doesn't' have a lot to do with it. Just give it time and you will see where it might go.
2006-12-14 03:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what your friends say, you can't make anyone do anything. I love the feeling when things are new in a reltaionship, but I would hold back on expressing any deep feelings until you get to know him a bit more. Just enjoy the experience and don't waste a lot of your time worrying about what he thinks. You intuition will tell you what is right and what isn't right.
2006-12-14 03:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by R_H_P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loook let me break it down to you like this, Yes you can fall in love in an instant, however, you cannot MAKE someone fall in love with you. That is an impossible task that has been attempted many times and failed. Men are easily swayed is all.Look at those relationships and ask yourself what you see. I'll tell you a bunch of crap. Those girls that think they can make a guy love them are out of their mind. Tell you what be yourself and ask him how he feels, then you tell him what it is that you feel. Their is no magic, make it all better cure for this, just you. I hope that I've Helped.
2006-12-14 03:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by redneckrebelplyr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could fall in love with someone immediately. I wouldn't push it tho! You will know when it's the right time to say it and know he will say it back. It's way too early into the relationship to say I love you. Wait it out a few months and see what happends. My boyfriend is a Scorpio so I know he keeps things bottled up, but at the same time I know he loves me, and doesn't have to say it.
2006-12-14 03:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just relax and let things just flow naturally. Dont express your feelings to him too soon, trust me I know from experience. Plus, if he says he doesnt feel the same way then you risk being hurt. Just give it a little more time and see how it goes. Then if you feel the same way, tell him. I dont believe that anyone can "make" someone fall in love with them. It just happens.
2006-12-14 03:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by vivian M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't confuse love and infatuation. Once you both start sharing lifes real obstacles, bills, laundry, insurance, chores, work, then you will find love. You are infatuated. Big difference. No you can not make someone love you, that is crap. Be who you are, treat him as you want to be treated. If he loves you he will say so, you can't force him to.
2006-12-14 03:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him in "bits and pieces" don't drop the ball on him all at once and it isnt true girls cant make guys love them they can make guys really infatuated with them or lust for them but not love them. but back to the original question take it slow first make sure and then like i said bit and pieces like tell him that you love spending time with him or if he does something that is his unique trait then say I love how you do... I love how you make me laugh so much... I love how you hug me........ you know that sorta thing just make sure you loe him first
2006-12-14 03:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no trick you cant MAKE someone love you --- and yes there is such a thing as love at first sight
dont stress just go along and see what happens
2006-12-14 03:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can fall in love easily; if you belive in love at first sight. and yes you can make him love you but only if love is what he is searching for.
2006-12-14 03:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by catrina y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋