hi,my boyfriend's father expired a week ago.he is the only son,n he has all the responsibilities to support his mother.both of us are undergrads-engineering.
We planned to go for Masters of Science to US.all our plans were on the verge of being executed.we had already started studying for the exam.
but now he cannot leave his mother alone and go to US.I cant find any solution to this,n i cant even see him heartbroken due to broken dreams.what am ii to do?do i ask him to happily accept this and support his mother......n leave his dreams?or is there any other better way out of this?please suggest some middle way.
2006-12-14 03:02:10 · 12 answers · asked by ankita v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
his mother is quite old,so she cannot get a job.
2006-12-14 03:11:09 · update #1
If it has only been a week since his father passed, then it would be best if you guys could post-pone the decision for at least a semester. In 5 months he and his mother will be clearer about what the best solution should be and if leaving for the US will be feasible. They both need time to grieve and right now neither one is thinking clearly. Call the University and explain your plight....they will help you make arrangements for the near future. But for now, time to grieve is what is needed. Dreams don't die and he will still be able to accomplish his goals, it may just take a little longer than planned.
2006-12-14 03:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by stacey h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 28 and have bipolar disorder diagnosed when i was 17. Im okay now, i have my symptoms under control for the most part and im happily married and have my own art bussiness, but my twenties were extremely hard and i used to feel like i was going to die. I know what im talking about so dont write off what im saying. The main thing you need to realize is that You cannot control Bipolar disorder without medication that is specifically for bipolar disorder. Im talking about Mood stabilizing drugs. NOt antidepressants like paxil or zoloft prozac leaxapro etc. Mood sabilizers are drugs like lithium, depakote, lamictal, tegretol , valproic acid, nerontin, seroquel, zyprexa, the list goes on. If he gets to a good Psychiatrist he will decide what drugs to put him on based on an interview. You have to make sure that the doc that you pick deals with bipolar patients. Ask the receptionist when you call to book the appt. or do research online. The first visit will cost between 200-400 dollars. So start saving your weed money. Finding the right drug is a long process sometimes, but sometimes you luck out and find one that works right off and your life i forever changed for the better, sometimes it take lots more time and money. You literally dont have any other choice if you want to help your boyfriend. Bipolar disorder is just as deadly as cancer, it kills 2 in five people who are afflicted. Thats a lot. This will not get better on its own, Bipolar gets worse with age, its a progressive disease, but the good news is that it is completely treatable and with the right meds, you can live a normal life, but without them , you are literally risking death. You can scrape together the money for the appt and many doctors will work with you on applying for aid. There are help organizations that provide money specifically for bipolar patients. apply for as many things as you can and do research. Also, after you find a med that works, Its usually much cheaper to buy it from an online overseas pharmacy. Thats what i do. I dont have insurance either. In my experience, weed made me feel better while i was high but made my condition worse overall, but everybodys not the same. Saving the money for that first consultation will be hard but you can do it. Good luck. Pray if you pray.
2016-03-13 06:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, His father should have left his mother with a nice nest egg, So she can take care of her self. But If he tell you no he wants to stay and take care of this mother. Then you have to go finish School or you are going to end up like his mother. But he should finish School too.
2006-12-14 03:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by omegarussell42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has to go through its baptism period, and this one is baptism by fire for sure, hang in there, your presence would be support enough for him and know that God has a plan for each one of us, and it is sometimes much larger than our largest dream, allow Him to unfold it for both you, individually and collectively.
All the best.
2006-12-14 03:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand why he must support his mother, why can't she support her self ?? can't she get a job or is she disabled or too old ?? . .
2006-12-14 03:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rainy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stand by him! He'll be grateful & he will find a solution for all those unrealized dreams! Please don't ditch him at this stage!
2006-12-14 03:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
its just a week.be patient and be by the side of your b.f.Believe me he needs ur support the most at this moment.let time take its corse so way should definitely come up.
2006-12-14 20:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, if you really love him & can sacrifice your studies than marry her and take care of her mother while he finishes he studies in u.s or else where.
2006-12-14 03:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by like_2b_frank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go first. When things come to normal he can follow you?
2006-12-14 04:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by mamakumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him & support his decisions. Show him he can rely on you.
2006-12-15 00:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Bhanupriya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋