I know someone who believes HOW you treat the gift they give you is a direct reflection on how you feel about THEM. Trouble is, this person often gives gifts that were UNWANTED, UNNEEDED, AND UN-ASKED FOR, so if you want to get rid of it, or you don't make a big deal over it, they get insulted. This person also treats gifts THEY receive the same way--they have tons of stuff they'll never use, but because of WHO gave it to them, they WON'T get rid of it. Is this normal? Does anyone else feel this way? Thanks in advance!
2006-12-14 03:01:53 · 10 answers · asked by armitage112 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i dont think it reflects how u feel about the person. it reflects your need for the item. why keep something if you will never need it? if it is sentimental its one thing, but if you dont need another oven mitt, sell it! you don't have to tell the gift giver though!!!
2006-12-14 03:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Due 9/5 w/ a boy!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many people who are unreasonable that way. I've received gifts I didn't want from people I really care about, and then I was torn between getting rid of the gift (and hurting their feelings) or keeping it (and cluttering up my house). I've gone with getting rid of the gifts. There's just not enough space in my house for every little unwanted thing that somebody has given to me.
Take a picture of the gift. Treat the picture very nicely by putting it in a beautiful photo album so that you'll remember it for time and all eternity. That should make the giver happy and eliminate the clutter.
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-14 03:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i know some people who are really crap at giving gifts they always seem to give you something that you've never wanted or don't need. i don't treat these gifts the way i feel bout the person cos if i don't like i just don't like not because i already not the like the person who gave it to me. I try to keep these gifts and somehow find a purpose for them but if i can't im afraid i do the inevitable...chuck em' out! I know the pressure of finding a gift for someone so i have no hard feelings to those who give crap gifts, sometimes i do too...its never on purpose though...well sometimes hehehehehehe ;)
2006-12-14 03:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by tulip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, when you receive a gift you should make a big deal that the gift-giver cares enough to give you something.
But once given you are under no obligation to keep and use stuff you don't like. Quietly throw it away or donate it, and tell a little white lie to the giver if she ever asks about it. (I spilled spaghetti sauce accidentally on the shirt you gave me and couldn't get the stain out so pitched it.)
Thanks are given for the thought, not the item.
Her problem with stuff is she is a pack rat, there are no similar requirements on her recipients.
2006-12-14 03:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't that person take the time to think about what the other person wants?
I've spent many hours quizing everyone who knows who I'm buying gifts for and going through my memory trying to think "what can I buy (make) for _____ that they will love?" Then when I get an answer that is reasonable I go buy it. (ie my dad wants a TKD school for christmas, I can't afford that or I would have bought it years ago so I'm buying him some shirts from my college and a CD that he wants)
If you get something you don't like then take it to the store and exchange it, it's not rude, it's getting something you will use. Try and explain that you don't have the room in your place to keep something and would rather not feel guilty for "trading" it for something you find a use for.
2006-12-14 03:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Tyler and Kassidy's momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer to this is yes and no. I mean, when i get a gift from someone and I don't necessarily like it, it doesn't mean that I don't like the person from whom i recieved it from. However, if someone recieved a gift that obviously had a lot of time and effort put into it (such as a hand knitted scarf or hand sewn blanket), but then doesn't take good care of it, i do think that's a bit disrespectful. In my mind it says, "I know you spent a lot of time on that blanket that i just threw in my room, but frankly, i just don't care." But that's just my opinion...i hope it helps!
2006-12-14 03:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by Just a girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is again the confusion between being polite and respectful to the people that made gifts to somebody and his real feeling about the gifts, but nothing to do with this... however this is lightest form of hypocrisy.
2006-12-14 03:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by ThanksBelit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'd actually say that it doesn't. See, some people just naturally aren't good with items, but are very good to people. Yeah, getting rid of it seems a bit rude to tell the truth, but if you don't like it, shouldn't they know that you wouldn't have liked it in the first place? Just makes sense to me. But, up to you I guess. I just keep them all and eventually when people forgot that they gave it to me, I get rid of it along with other stuff.
2006-12-14 03:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Sounds like you know the true meaning of gift giving----that person doesn't.To be rich enough to give a gift, just because.They sound like an elderly person that wants people to like them as much as the gift----that's not life.Bear with them, they will stop.
2006-12-14 04:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are sick. Treat these people they way they should be treated.........ignore them.
2006-12-14 18:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋