I have been sleeping with my ex's best friend.... and we enjoy sex with each but we both are not the types to have serious committed relatioships... we like to be free and just enjoy what we do... we are sort of alike in that way.... do you think us being alike will bring us together, or do you think it will just remain a sexual relationship? me and my boyfriend broke up about three months ago, and then shortly after that, I was sleeping with his friend. but we have came to the mutal understanding that its just sex between us.... and we feel the same as far as having relationships.. we don't want to settle down and we are not looking to get married.... do you think us having the same views might bring us together in a relationship, or do you think we should just keep it strictly sexual..... I don't know what to do.... someone AN INTELLIGENT ADULT please give me some advice should I keep sleeping with him or should I stop and find someone else?
2006-12-14 03:01:39 · 17 answers · asked by Simorah Serenity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also, I know that this guy is sleeping with other woman... and I am find with that... I really could care less... but I'm not looking to have a "relationship" with him just the sex part is all that I need and he can go about his business. I just want to know if it would be possible for something more to happen. I am not sleeping with other guys right now... besides my ex.. but we are not together in that way.... but I have no feelings for either of them... I just want the sex.. but if his friend comes on to me like he wants something more, what do you guys/gals think is the best thing for me to do in a situation like this?
2006-12-14 03:05:21 · update #1
ok... this guy is not the type to "have relationships" I know that for sure.. so I don't expect him to just one day say hey.... lets start dating.. I knew my place from the beginning.... I knew what I was getting into... I don't sleep with him very often... and I don't see him very often.... so It's not like Im constantly calling him or something.. I am not emotionally attached.. I don't get emotional.... to any extent... Like i said before, I just want to know if it is possible to build a relationship with someone who you started off just sleeping with.... I want to know if i should keep it the way it is... call me what you want.. i'm just looking for advice.
2006-12-14 03:10:21 · update #2
im not 100% sure if he is having sex with other woman, i just know that other woman are involved. I cannot say for sure... I don't stay with this guy.. I just f*** him......
2006-12-14 03:24:50 · update #3
Wow. This is a very good and serious question. I'd like to say yes to you, but sex is a link between two people. If you enjoy it in a lust aspect and can't get along other than the sex issue than its very possible. Though if you two enjoy each other in just conversation and what-not than it could lead to something different. Though who's to say that it's not a good thing? I don't know and only you two will. So I would say start fights with him and make him hate you except for sex. lol I have no idea if you two like each other more than just sex. Good luck on that and at least enjoy it for a while longer, he must be good. ;-)
2006-12-14 03:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by LordTool 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what are u doing to your self? u do not sound like u are just having a sex relationship,u sound like u want this guy. never start something like that if u can't control your feelings but no u will never have a real relationship with him unless u are the best he ever had but it doesn't sound like that u said he still has sex with other women and if 1 of the girls he is doing finds out. u know u get what u deserve u are asking for problems.
2006-12-14 11:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by rue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship a little like that. Let me tell you, run and faster the better. There is no good out come to a relationship like that. I found with my realtionship I was having was damaging to finding my true soulmate. We always said no strings attached and all that bull, but you want more in the end. I finally decided I wanted more than a F*** buddy, and he was not the one. Than I find out I was not the only "Buddy" he had.
2006-12-14 11:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the fact that you are even asking this question means you are emotionally attached (whether you admit it or not). Most of the time, "friends with benefits" do not develop into a relationship. I can almost guarantee you this ending - he will say he is not interested in a relationship right now, but he will meet someone and suddenly decide that he wants to pursue a relationship with her. You have set the standard with him that he can have his cake and eat it too.
2006-12-14 11:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be careful, because sexual realtionships never last long. one person might catch feelings or he or you might find someone and decide that you no longer want to keep up with this "charade". have lots of caution and be prepared cause this will probably not last long. I dont think a relationship would grow out of this and it sure wouldnt be meaningful. If anything, I think that you are the one catching feelings but you are just not aware of it right now.
2006-12-14 11:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with the concept of a bed buddy. It's degrading to the both of you. Second of all it causes "feelings" to occur that might not have been generated if you weren't sleeping together. How about this, STOP sleeping with him for a bit and start "dating" him. If things slow down or stop, then you know that the sex was playing with your heart and or mind.
2006-12-14 11:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by whathappenedamber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are giving away the goodies honey. So don't ever kid yourself into the delusion that it could possibly mean more.
What incentive would there ever be for a guy to want a relationship with a woman who thinks so little of herself, has so little regard for her body, has no self-esteem, and willingly subjects herself to a myriad of diseases?
2006-12-14 11:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both said that it would just be a sex thing, then he still thinks of it that way. Most likely that is all you will ever be, just a roll in the hay. I think that if I were you I would stop and move on.
2006-12-14 11:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by princess_heather43787 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no! why have you fallen for this guy when all it is, is sex? you need to analize the situation and take it for what it is or just back off rather. you are going to get yourself in a nasty situation. and your heart broken
2006-12-14 11:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up he is just using you. Get a real relationship.
2006-12-14 11:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by bill a 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋