How do you trust someone after they knowingly give you HPV?

Question

I was with this guy for a year and half way through the year I got a email from his ex saying that he has HPV and he has infected serveral others and didn't tell them. I hadn't seen any signs at this time but now I do. We argue all the time and keep breaking up and getting back together but as of Tuesday we broke up again because he was telling me a girl from his past was contacting him through myspace and she wanted to get together with him sometime so when I see him get on myspace and going to his messages all the time I get this very wiery feeling and my instincts won't allow me to trust that he isn't doing anything to me. I blew up on him the other day and left and then tried to patch things up and explain why I was upset but he wouldn't answer is phone or text messages and then when I did get ahold of him he said he couldn't do this anymore and that he was tried of the jealousy and insecurity.

Answer 1

There's no way you should trust him. Ditch his a.ss and run as far away from him as possible.

Answer 2

Usually, yes you could have grounds for legal action, BUT: HPV is the virus which causes warts, which are generally not too serious. That and something like 70% (or more) of the adult population has some form of HPV (warts anywhere on the body are caused by some variant of this virus). When one is tested for STDs, HPV is rarely included in the normal batch of tests because there is no easy way to determine what type of HPV it is or how long it has been there. If you've ever had a wart on your foot, you have the HPV virus. It is also important to note that just because one has the virus in the blood somewhere does NOT mean that they will necessarily get warts. HPV is generally transmitted through skin-to-skin contact and condoms are not effective in preventing the transfer of the virus/wart from the uncovered skin around the groin area. For women, the greatest problem is an increased risk of cervical cancer and sterility. In the last two or three years, a vaccine for the nastiest forms of HPV has been released and it is HIGHLY recommended for all sexually active women. Vaccines however only work before exposure, and only for those few strains of virus that they are designed to target. The recently released HPV vaccines are geared towards preventing HPV strains which are most likely to cause cervical cancer and do not necessarily protect from blemishes. In short, HPV is not considered a high priority by most doctors because of the low level of potential danger to patients and the high number of patients who carry the virus. It would be nearly impossible to prove in court that your BF was the cause. For nastier things like HIV, Herpes, Syphilis, etc, there are more reliable tests and they are less common, so they are easier to trace to a specific event or person. In your case, legal action would most likely be expensive and unrewarding.

Answer 3

I am sorry but are you sure he knows he is infected? Are you sure he didn't shed the disease without syptoms as is common in HPV also are you being evaluated on a regular basis for cervical cancer as this can often accompany certain types of HPV? If he knowingly infected you then you should walk away and be forthcoming with any future partners you have because you may beableto spread HPV through the skin even when there are no symptoms at that time. You have been letting yourself be taken advantage of. move on to a healthier and happier you and love will come naturally! Who doesn't love a confident happy woman!?

Answer 4

I hate to tell you this, but it sounds like the both of you have a lot of growing up to do. All that fighting and jealousy is just stupid, if you don't love him and trust him, move on! About the HPV, he may not have known that he had it. Hpv is basically in epidemic status. There can be no symptoms for months or years. You need to get tested yearly and request an HPV test. You should have used condoms until you were both tested. But now you are stuck. Talk to your doc about your options and get rid of the guy. Actually, I think he should get rid of you!

Answer 5

Well first off, I don't know what HPV is, Do you mean HIV ? But I think this is best for you to move on. But if HPV is STD, Then you better go to the doctor. And call the police, Because if this guy is infecting that many people he could go to jail if someone turns him in.

Answer 6

What more could a girl ask for than "HPV" for Christmas! If he knew he was positive for it (does nothing to him) and didn't tell you before you were sexually active you might be able to press criminal charges???? At the very least KICK HIM TO THE CURB, he does not respect you or any other woman if he does not tell them. I hope to God you don't get ovarian cancer in the future!

Answer 7

It's called forgiving and forgetting. you want him you must leave the past in the past. People have forgiven for worst, murder, malestation,etc. We can not change people , but we keep trying and it's ruining our relationships. We are here to love not judge. I always say this work on you and guys see the change and respond sometimes if its not to late. It's you call at the end of the day but we are so into looking at other faults we can't see our.

Answer 8

So knowing what you know you STILL stay with him. Are you the new improved fool? Are you waiting for him to give you like the mother of all STDs' ? LEAVE NOW or you will pay the price...as the others have and as others will. Oh yeah..report his asss to the center for disease control for knowing and willingly infecting woman with this disease. WHo knows what else he is carrying.

Answer 9

Sounds like you both need to move on. Most importantly, you need to tell everyone and anyone that you are ever with again that you have HPV.

Answer 10

Well it's hard to trust someone when they have lied to you. Especially when it's something very serious. HVP can go undetected for years. Males hardly know that they are carriers. Especially when they don't show any symptoms. You need to just listen to your heart and follow your gut instinct.

Answer 11

Men carry HPV and spread it to women. THat's a well known fact.