I'm sorry, but I can't abide by this "man is the head of the household" BS the Christians seem to think is the only way to live. I was always taught that a husband and a wife were partners, equal in power in the household. I couldn't live with being subservant to my man. Do you know what would happen if I let my boyfriend make all the decisions around the house? We'd have six PS2s but no food. We'd be hungry, cold, and probably on fire.
I love my boyfriend, and I respect him, but I will never be subservent to him, and he would never expect me to be. We make all decisions together and face all problems side by side. Why do Christians think this is wrong?
2006-12-14 02:46:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
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2006-12-14 02:49:49 · update #1
It's called being sarcastic, Thumb. And that's just it, he wouldn't lead a family, we both would. With be around to diffuse his bad ideas. :p
2006-12-14 02:59:24 · update #2
sudonym x, I'm not a Christian at all, so there's that problem taken care of.
2006-12-14 03:01:10 · update #3
MustangGT, we're still in college. No money for it. *lol*
2006-12-14 03:03:18 · update #4
Cause that is the way they think it should be according to the book written by men...they were probably women haters or wife beaters.
My ex (a self proclaimed christian) used to do that to me. I fell for it and my life was hell being raped, beaten emotionally, mentally and what not in the name of his god....
Thank goodness I am married to a native american man now who lives by native american thinking of a woman is to be cherished and loved and his equal.
2006-12-14 02:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by whitesunwolf 1 · 5⤊ 3⤋
lol
Well you don't obviously. I know some people, Christian and non, who take the line that "a family should ultimately only have one head". Personally, I'm with you - I think discussion's the way to go! Respect is mutual, and decisions should ideally be made on the basis of that mutuality. How you define that mutuallity is for each couple individually - again, I know women who think it's a sign of their man's respect - or their woman's come to that - that one of them generally takes the lead and makes decisions. Seems to work for them, not sure it would work for me.
The crunch comes when you try and enforce one model on everyone and claim that anything else is "wrong", as SOME Christians - and indeed some Muslims, some Jews, some atheists et al - try to do. You don't NEED a religious creed to do this - you can do it just by virtue of "what my parents did", but having the wrath of some god or other to back you up certainly makes it easier to establish concrete, unmoveable patterns, which can justify anything from enforced subservience to stoning.
Call me crazy, but if a god has a problem with people's relationships, I reckon it's got too much time on its hands...
2006-12-15 06:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by mdfalco71 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure where you're getting your information. I've never been taught, as a Christian, that the "man is the head of the household."
If you visit the actual Bible scriptures, you'll see that equality is what they strive for. There is a scripture that says wives submit to husbands, BUT GUESS WHAT? The very next group of scriptures says husbands submit to wives. Sounds like partnership and loving each other in a humble, equal way to me.
2006-12-14 10:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by luvwinz 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think wives should be subservient to their husbands (my wife told me what to say).
I agree that there are certain types of Christians (but could be any couple) that believe that the "man is the head of the household". Usually depends on the demeanor of the wife.
Also, with all of his manly capabilities, it's a wonder that you and your boyfriend aren't married yet (?!?).
2006-12-14 10:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by MustangGT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Human society has come a long way. Thank progress (not God). My wife and I are equal partners in our marriage, and that's the way I always imagined a marriage should be, since I was a boy. I've never believed that women are naturally subservient to men. My wife is better at some things than I, and I am better at other things, but that doesn't make either of us superior to the other in all ways. It just means that each has different assets to bring to the partnership. I wouldn't have it any other way.
One of the worst things about religion, in my view, is its natural tendency to try to slow or stop progress, even turn back the clock, instead of looking to improve itself over time. Some truths are just as true as they were thousands of years ago, but not all are so. We should always try to do better, be better--improve ourselves--not hang back in the dark ages out of a misplaced loyalty to tradition.
2006-12-14 10:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
All I can say is I'm the head of the household. I run it and make better decisions all in all. It's not like my husband submits to what I say or is subservient but I'm just more qualified to make sure things are done.
2006-12-14 10:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The man is suppose to make decisions to take care of you and make you happy. Christian rules are for Christians, others have their own rules. Have fun with that boyfriend.
2006-12-14 15:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree, my wife and I are on equal terms in everything. But conservative Christians (like Evangelicals) think otherwise. They think its the job of the woman to serve the man...just like they do in India, Pakistan, Iran, Iraq and most Asian countries.
Its quite sickening.
2006-12-14 10:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Equality between two lovers is the right way. Your gender should not determine who is dominant vs. who is submissive. Neither partner needs to be dominant nor submissive.
I feel sorry for those women who say you should submit yourself to your husband. I've never understood those who want to be enslaved.
2006-12-14 10:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong in being partners.
God (through Paul) gave both the man and women commands that go against our normal nature.
Men are often inconsiderate of a woman's feeling, they think of things that they want (like PS2s), but God told them to LOVE their wives as God loves us. This means in a unselfish and loving way.
Women often compete with their husbands to see who will be in charge, this often leads to conflicts, fighting, divorce, but God told them to submit to their husbands.
This means that the husband and wife should talk things over.
The husband should consider his wife's thoughts and feelings.
The wife should trust her husbands decisions.
All should be done as if to God.
2006-12-14 10:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by tim 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋