Have you ever been bitter (embittered) about what hap pend to you?

Question

I love the Lord and I am not always the greatest most compassionate christian and I will be the first to admit this.
There have been things in my life that have made me bitter,
not being able to have my own children, the financial battles my husband and I went through in 2003 to name a few. Although I am coming to terms with these things and becoming more accepting of the things I cannot change, there are still some scars and at times remants remains of the hurt that happend. Have you ever been bitter about what has happened to you? How did you overcome the bitterness?

Answer 1

Yes. You cannot find a human who realistically hasn't been bitter about some unfortunate event. We are human and imperfect. Overcoming the bitterness is what makes us stronger.

I've been there before - but rather than call it bitter I think its more of a season of uncertainty. We wonder "why me" and "what have I done to deserve this?" You then begin to question why God would allow you to endure this pain because in your mind you're worthy of many blessings.

What helps me is to analyze my life. Read His word and remind myself that these things aren't His doing but instead things that we must endure as we are living in an imperfect world. He will surely take care of us - and despite the darkness that lasts for a brief moment our better days surely outweigh the bad. On this earth God did not promise us a life without struggle or pain - what He does promise is that if we continue to live our lives in accordance to His will and blessing in due time we will surely reap the benefit of life without end, pain and suffering.

I'm sorry to read that you cannot have children. But that doesn't mean you cannot be a parent. There's the mode of adoption. And financial burdens - in this day and time honey that happens to us all. But at least you aren't homeless and hungry.

When you find yourself getting down - pray for strength. Call a friend or loved one to lift your spirits and above all things always count your blessings. I'm sure you have much to be thankful for.

Answer 2

I was in a very bad relationship--mentally and physically abusive. That was about five years ago...and I still deal with it today. I'm now in a good relationship with a good man and have been for nearly two years, and even in this I still find that a lot of my reactions are based on what happened to me before. As far as being bitter...sort of. I don't think that's the word I'd use to describe it. I'm still angry at him, but not quite bitter.

Answer 3

There have been alot of things in life that I could have let bitter me and I would have been justified in doing so. But there comes a point in time where you have the choice to either learn from those experiences, realize those things happened for a reason, and continue on the path that was chosen for me, or sit and dwell on how unfair life truly is. To me, there are far greater things in life to which we could all spend the time and energy on that would produce positive results.

Answer 4

I was always a top scorer in my class until life took a really harsh turn and I had to go to a government college(I live in a place where government colleges are considerd very bad and where majority parents admit their chidren to private colleges due to the education quality)Fate I guess .I saw the harsh reality of life in that place.My grades started to fall.I was now considered a loser.The bad reality was this that there was no one to teach there and the worst reality was this that someone really close to me brainwashed my dad saying that it was the best choice.The two years of my life were hell.I started to think of suicide for the first time in my life but somewhere in this nonsense I found God and held on to Him.And now I'm there where I always dreamt to be.(Engineering university)

Answer 5

Of course.
I grew up with an alcoholic father. That says a lot right there.
I was atheist, because I figured if there was a God, there's no way he'd allow all the suffering in the world.
God called me to him.
Its very hard to give up all our problems to God, all our anger, hurt, resentment, but I did it. Twice (sometimes we get impatient and take things back).
I know God allowed these things to happen in my life, because now I minister to others how God was able to heal me from my past hurts.
God says the weak are blessed because then we can use God's strength.

Answer 6

Hang in there, friend ......yes, i have been bitter at one point....but I realized eventually Christ not only forgave me but broke the curse also out of my life.

That curse usually comes from generational sin passed down from parents....Jesus came to set the captive free from thses 'generational' curses also. That is usually where the anger and unforgiveness comes from...and it is a thing that is inherited from family and needs to be brought to the cross.

The solution is still the cross of Jesus. Once healing takes place there is no going back....and the blessings that God intended for us begin to flow in. It is a growth process.

Answer 7

The temptation to feel bitter has creeped up on me from time to time. But then I think about it and realize that it would only hurt me and my relationship with God.
So i just pray for God's guidance and thank for all the good things in my life.
And there are a lot more of those!

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Answer 8

Yes i still have allot of bitterness from my first marriage and divorce even though I am married now to a wonderful man I still sometimes hold things against him that happened in my first marriage

Answer 9

When I was young, my mother would slap me and I would cry. I became bitter and slightly disliked my mother. You would think we're enemies, right? nope...I love her and I finally realized that she did it because she tried to encourage me to work harder in school and not to slack off. Also I wondered why God gave me a horrible mom when she wasn't horrible at all but just protective and caring.

I learned more of my feelings and I finally know the difference between misunderstandings and the truth...

Answer 10

He has babies and subject concerns together with his kinfolk. So, i might wager he takes a smash to repair issues out together with his babies and kinfolk. yet, I heard he could desire to be making a clean album like this twelve months or next.