I'm 15. I'm stressed. Everyone's relying on ME! What do I do?

Question

Ok, I have enough problems of my own, family, guys, friends. You all know the teen drama.
Added to this, my sisters try to use me against my mom who drinks to much. Sandra, the oldest, doesn't even have a mother-daughter relationship with her and it seems like Jenna only likes her for the money. Sandra's 31 and Jenna's 26.
My cousins grandmother passed away yesterday. That cousin plus three others where all crying and I felt like I couldn't cry because I was the oldest and needed to comfort them.
My friend thinks she may be pregnant and asks me everything and I have no clue what ovulating even is!
Most people get one story for our school newspaper but I got 3 and now the director is mad that I'm not there today because I'm home sick so I missed a deadline.
My spanish teacher got mad that I walked out of class yesterday when I found out that my cousins grandma had passed away and wrote me up for truancy so I may have in school suspension when I get back.
What do I do?

Answer 1

Just look at them and say "I am only 15, ask a grown up!"

Answer 2

It seems like you have a family and school related dilemma, Well I think your sisters need to work out what is going on between them before you and your sisters can, Sometimes telling what needs to be told coming from you is the best way even though you have know witnesses, if you mom is drinking like you say she is then she needs help before something major happens. I am sure that you did not mean to walk out of your spanish class, sometimes we do what we have to, but you know what you will have to face when you go back and think of a honest explanation that might help curve your suspension if any it seems your teacher did not know why you were leaving the class and that is why she wrote you up, tell your friend to find out if she is indeed pregnant , but let her know that you don't know a whole lot about what she is dealing with and will do the best you can to give any advice that might help her. When we lose a loved one it can be hard because we realize they are gone, especially if we have done something in the past that we wished we had not done, It is great for you to comfort others when they need it the most, but showing a little emotion at the sametime is good too. It seems you do have a lot on your plate, but each situation and solve them one at the time. You should not be so stressed that you can't focus on what is in front of you. Just do the best you can.

Answer 3

Ok step back take a deep breath close your eyes and think for a moment. Now life is going to do this to you from now on. You are only young once. It's hard but put things in order. It's great to be the strong one and to help people but not at the expense of your happiness. Talk to people, rather than just walking out of class maybe the answer would have been to pull your teacher aside and say hay i got a problem,can i please have a moment and be excused from class. Tell people whats going on and that you need some time,they will understand,we where all teenager once.Explain to the director that your plate is full and ask him to take some of the pressure off of you. The school counselor can be a great friend if needed. Ask your friends for support,they will be glad to help a friend. Calm down and just take it on step at a time and it will all work out. Good luck

Answer 4

You do not need to carry the burdens of the older siblings (31,26) they Jenna, Sandra need to grow up. You are 15 and you need to be able to enjoy being 15. I understand your sorrow about your cousin's grandmother. Just take the trauncy and in school suspension to catch up on some needed you time and peace of mind. WHile in the suspension if you get it write a letter, or poem to relief some of this stress. As for your sister playing you against your mother. Just don't play. When you see or feel your sister is ready to start just find another place to be. Let your sister know that you know what she is doing and you are not happy about it. IF she continues to play this game with you and your mother then you now know that she is not going to change and you just move on and let that stress go because now you know what the out come can be. I hope you can de-stress yourself. Find a quiet place and look up to the sky and just smile. You are a strong 15. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Wow! That is alot on your plate. First of all Sandra and Jenna need to grow the heck up, but apparently they're clueless. They should be setting the example for you. As much as possible, don't let them draw you into your drama. Is your father in the picture, that he could talk to them?

If you have a guidance counselor at school, talk to them. Tell them what you posted here - you have alot to deal with suddenly. I take it normally you are a good student and a contributing member of the newspaper. Ask your counselor to intervene with the Spanish teacher, and the newsaper director. There are certainly extenuating circumstances that you are dealing with.

Refer your pregnant friend to Planned Parenthood. They can help her and answer all of her questions. Attend the cousin's grandmother's funeral (another issue for the guidance counselor, since you may have to miss school. Most funerals are held during business hours). The cousins will appreciate your support.

If you are in a youth group at church or have an adult friend (another friend's mother, etc) who can help, maybe the your group leader or the adult friend can help if you don't have a guidance counselor at school.

Good luck, and hope things settle down by Christmas.

Answer 6

The best thing to do is just relax. Most everything will go away eventually. About your mom, if your sisters are using you to get to your mom, I suggest talking to a close mature family member who can help out. And, when your cousin's grandma passed away, it was good to try and comfort them. But, you can cry, too, and show them that there are other people that are suffering too. With your friend, ovulating is when you create or discharge eggs, and doesn't have to mean your pregnant. Talk to any teachers who might be upset with you, tell them what's going on. They should help, they're your teachers! For any further help, you should see a counselor in your school. I hope that helped!

Answer 7

I was a teen ager once also and you are right, you have alot of issues going on; not to mention on top of your regular teen drama. I am sorry to hear about your mother's drinking problem, but that is a direct affect on you. You are basically raising yourself and taking care of your mother as well. But, whatever relationship your siblings have with your mom is between them. My sympathies goes out to you and your cousins regarding your aunt . I understood when you wanted to be strong for them that shows strength in you, that is a very good character trait to have. Your friend who may be pregnant; she need to see a OBGYN. That way she will not have anymore questions. Ovulation, is when the egg from your overies release and travels down the your tubes to the uterus, which causes your period to occur. That is ovulation. A life lesson for the rest of your situation, the only person you can please is yourself and GOD. Everyone else is going to be disappointed in you at some point in your relatioship with them, but their life and yours will continue. On your next story, make it a smash hit, then your teacher won't have any complaints. As for the getting up and walking out of class; I understand the emergency of it all, but I would have just stepped to the teacher's desk and informed her of my family emergency and got an exscuse to leave the room, then I would have went to the attendance office and took it from there. In life no matter what; there is always goint to be some since of protocol. But you will be fine, all of the things you go through; if it doesn't kill you it only makes you stronger. Your are a good person stay strong.

Answer 8

First explain the situation with the counselor why you left class and that you were truly upset over it...That shouldn't be to hard for that one and all the other things that are going on with you..Which I have to say is a lot you may need to chill out and relax and just take one thing at a time...I know that you being a teen and all does tend to be much I was once there too but don't let it get to you were you get worn down and mess up your health in the process..All these people do rely on you in a special way...You probably have been the strongest out of all of them for the reason why they look up to you for everything, I had that too when I was younger but to deal with it is something that is different especially when you are a teen...The reason why you are so special is because of you just being you! You are strong and that is what they are leaning on and since you are this way you have to take it and go with it...I know that it seems to be a tall order but take it from another older sister of my family it can be tought and this is our trial and tribulation in our lives that makes us who we are...So take care of yourself and take care of the truancy and most of all be there for all those who will need you...Because believe me God is watching to see what you do when people really needs you.....whether you turn your back on them or will you help them in there time of need.

I wish you all the blessings and strength that God can give you and most of all keep your head up!

Answer 9

Wow, you do have a lot on your plate. At 15 you only have control over some things in your life. In my opinion, I feel you need to step back and pull your energy in, get selfish for a while. Do things that YOU need to do, only for you. Your relatives can take care of themselves, it is admirable that you want to be there for everyone, but it is not a winning situation for you. Maybe take 1 month and agree to put YOUR needs first, then see if you feel like helping someone else. You are too young for so many people to be depending upon you. This is your time to be a teenager, it will be gone in a few years, try to relax and have some fun while you can sweetie, you sound like a wonderful person.

Answer 10

Blimey!! Reading all that got me stressed too!! You poor sweetheart. Oh you poor poor thing. You're growing up !!! You have just written something that tells me you are the most sensible 15 year old I have ever come across - you're so responsible and thoughtful, caring and kind. STEP BACK. There's someone near you that you can speak to you know. I don't know who it is but they are near you. It's an adult.

I wish I could write more but I have to stop now. You take care and I hope this person shows themself to you. It could be a teacher - she's female anyway.

Try to not stress yourself out about other peoples problems and concentrate on your own things first. Learn to let go of problems and you will learn to get by.

Answer 11

Man it will o.k. Just take one day at a time! Don't feel like everyone is depending on you just look at it like you are a good person for others to got to. Cause you are obviously. And as for your director don't take on so much if you got to much other things gone on and you know you can't handle it. Sorry abt cousins grandma- Just let them cry on your shoulder and be that strong man and when you need a shoulder to cry on you know you have the cousin plus three other shoulders to cry on! Right? Just be strong it will be all ok in the end!