Agree or Disagree ? On observations made of wives/GFs who get fat.?

Question

While in pursuit of a man,she will make an exerted effort to look her best.Once he is caught,(either by ring or housekey) she feels her work is done and begins to let herself go.When confronted,she will call him an" insensitive pig" and blame her "bones ?" ,her kids, medicine,her man or any number of B.S. outside influences. When in fact she knows her weight gain is caused by too much food and too little exercise and is fully within her controll.In some cases the weight is gained on purpose as a way to get out of the relationship.Bottom line, with very few exceptions a womans weight is entirely within her control and manipulated to her advantage.*** These observations are supported by your(Answers users) answers to my last few questions.

Thank you all for your input. The matter is resolved. I just returned with the U-Haul and boxes and I'm in the process of finding her an apartment. Maybe without the 'stress and insensitivity' she'll be able to shed those lbs.

Answer 1

THIS IS THE CASE. I WAS GETTING MARRIED TO THIS GIRL THAT WAS 5'8" 123 LBS. THAN IN 3 MONTHS SHE WAS 150. WHATS UP WITH THAT. THAN SHE WOULDNT DO ANYHITNG ABOUT IT. I WORKED OUT EVERY DAY AND I ASKED HER TO JOIN 2 TIEMS A WEEK. SUDDENLY I WAS AN A HOLE.

THE SHORT: SHE IS FAT AND SINGLE NOW

Answer 2

Exactly the same can be said of men:
While in pursuit of a woman,he will make an exerted effort to look his best.Once she is caught, he feels his work is done and begins to let himself go.When confronted,he will call her insensitive and blame stress, or any number of B.S. outside influences. When in fact he knows her weight gain is caused by too much food and too little exercise and is fully within his control.In some cases the weight is gained on purpose as a way to get out of the relationship.Bottom line, with very few exceptions a man's weight is entirely within his control and manipulated to his advantage. (edited for language)

Answer 3

I feel that you have no clue what you are talking about. In some situations it may be that way but mine is different. I have gained some weight since my husband and I have gotten married. I take the depo shot and it is known for weight gain. Its either a little weight or a big pain for 18 years. Some woman gain weight because they have no communication with their spouse. My husband is the type to where he spends all his time away from home like outdoors hunting or fishing if he isnt at work. You think that would make you want to gain weight. I feel like a rag doll being thrown around. My kids and I are second in his life sometimes. I get upset frequently. It is a proven fact that stress and depression can cause weight gain. You have to have a friend somewhere. To some women its food. And besides, if the man truly loves his wife weight has no influence on his love for her. Some men cause the weight gain and well some women are at fault. You need to step back and check it more before you make assumptions. Please.

Answer 4

Wow! How does it feel to be so perfect? Everyone changes whether it be your body or personality. If you have had a problem with this then maybe incentive would be nice. Get out there with her and get exercise together. Women stay in shape until they are married? How about ( They have no time for themselves anymore because they are taking care of everything and everyone else! The more you make this an issue to a woman, her self esteem diminishes. If you Love someone you help them, you don't put extra pressure on them. In my situation after eighteen years of marriage, I have found that the things my husband and I use to do together we no longer do! How about taking her out dancing instead of eating dinner and wanting to go lay down and watch T.V. every night? Also I have stayed the same weight my entire life, even having my teenage sons girlfriends jealous of my body! I then reached the age of 42 and I had to have a hysterectomy, something you would know nothing about! My metabolism changed drastically! I gained 40 lbs. I am not fat, but I have had a Hell of a time trying to get back the body I use to have. My husband has never once made me feel bad about this. He Loves me and he is understanding of what I have been going through. Quit being so shallow and try to find some substance in your own life!

Answer 5

Whoa, whoa, whoa.........There are many number of reasons why women and men alike put on weight once their 'victim' is seduced. (So to speak...) And most of the time it is a sign that they are comfortable with the relationship. I have never known any woman, or man for that matter, who has purposely gained weight to get out of a relationship, ever! That's cutting off your nose to spite your face! But I do agree that as with both persons in any relationship, weight is controlled by the person themselves. If manipulation of ones weight is used for some odd sense of gaining control or whatever it may be, then there is just something wrong with the relationship in general. I have heard of men and women who were so nice and sweet at the beginning of the relationship, and then somewhere along the line turned into satan. Some people started a relationship as a blonde, and then dyed their hair pink. There is so much, besides weight, that can be controlled, but used against ones self during the struggles of a relationship, that it's just not fair to call it manipulation. If one has to gain weight to get out of a relationship, then the relationship has more problems then one fat partner.

Answer 6

I agree that weight is fully controllable and I also know that many people are just too lazy to exercise. People will toss up the excuse "not enough time" or "can't afford the gym" but in reality you can always just go for a run outdoors or something. It comes down to desire to look good and time management. You're right on track.

My mom is really fat and last night she's watching "Americas Biggest Loser" or w/e, the show with fat people losing weight over the course of a month or two or something. Anyways, I walk through the living room and mom's watching that while eating a bag of chips. I'm like mom you're watching a weight loss program while gaining weight..... and she got very angry. The point is, now that she's married to my dad for years and years she just couldn't care less what she looks like.

So yes, I agree (to answer your question).

Answer 7

That is very evil of you to think like that. A woman does not let herself go, she gives all of hersellf to the man and his needs. She cooks, cleans, looks after kids is handling her career etc etc, the list is just too long. She is just so busy doing all this therefore this leaves her hardly any time for herself. Unles the man is smart enough to hire househelp or help with the chores and responsibilities Then I guess she will have some time for herself and that is when she can take care of her body. Stop being such an a@#&%le and dont ever talk or think of a woman like that

Answer 8

I totally agree but this works both ways. The man in some instances gains just as much weight as the woman if not more. Yes, they both have control over the situations and should do what it takes to not allow this to happen.

Answer 9

I happen to both agree and disagree. Most women do in fact let things go but there are a few who have medical issues out of their control. if she eats like a pig, looks like a pig, then its a pig!I for example, ended up with a liver disease that disables by body's ability to dispuse fat properly throughout my system. I will eventually die from the kidney failure or the blood pressure flux, it is already costing me my vision, its made me diabetic, etc... make sure it is not medical BUTHONESTLY!!!!! If she is eating a candybar or two or three for breakfast and McD's for lunch and Popeyes for dinner and eating potatoe chips I think we know whats up. Only reason my hubby knew it wasn't just lazy was cause i eat a fat free, cholesterol free diet, and control my portions and exercise. And i remain a bigger girl (see prfl) regaurdless.

Answer 10

I agree and I am a woman. We and also men have full control over our weight gain. Some woman just like to find someone else to blame instead of themselves when it comes to this. Also there are woman who become unhappy and because they are unhappy they associate this emotion with eating. Nowadays there are so many people and doctors who you could seek help from to control associating the emotion of being sad with eating. Women have full control over their weight unless they have a serious medical problem but even that would not be a man's fault.

Answer 11

Bull.
1)Women's metabolism slows as they age, this is a proven fact.

2) Some medicines (esp birth control) and having babies will also cause weight gain, this is outside of a woman's control.

3) If a man really loves his wife or girlfriend, he won't care what she weighs. My husband and I got married when I was at the highest weight of my life. He didn't care because he love *me*. I've lost a lot and I feel better about myself, but the way he feels about me hasn't changed one way or the other.

4) If all you care about is how the woman in your life looks and/or her weight you deserve to be called an insensative pig because you are one!