ive been seeing this guy for 3 weeks now and we really like eachother, we mess around, just kissing and a bit of touching. Last night we were talking and we both agreed that we wouldnt see other people, he is not my bf and im not his gf, but we promised we wudnt see other people. we see eachother most days of the week and he works alot. i no im only 16 and he is 18, but last night he said to me, he doesnt want me as a girlfriend untill he loves me. i dont understand what he means by that, i thought usually you date then the love comes or is that just me?? one of my friends said to me that maybe he is postboning us dating as he mite want to keep his options open, i really dont know. some one please help....
2006-12-14 02:36:22 · 5 answers · asked by brokenangelraven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's probably been hurt before, and wants to trust you more before commiting to you. The tricks on him, you guys are already commited. Don't worry about what your status is, your actions clearly spell out what you guys are. Love can come with time, how much? depends. Try talking about your hopes/dreams/ etc. Share a secret or something, earning his trust is the key to love.
2006-12-14 02:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by angelicusbeefus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don' know what to tell you about this. it seems like a really strange situation. I had the exact same thinbg but the guy had already been my b/f. we broke up and got together and he wanted to be exclusive but didn't want me to be his g/f. i'll tell you, it's not a good situation. eventually youi'll get tired of not being given the place you deserve. i say you save yourself the trouble now. it'll just hurt too much when you give all of yourself and get nothing in return @ the end.
2006-12-14 10:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by leidy101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him exactly what he means by that. Maybe he doesn't want to be serious.
But saying from the beginning that he knows he will love you later, but not now, I think that sounds like a control freak. "You will love me in Feb, we will get engaged in March, you will marry me by the end of the year and you will give me children and they will be called....." Maybe. Maybe not.
Have fun while it lasts, and you should keep your options open too.
Unless he changes for the better. But you need to ask him what he meant.
2006-12-14 10:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a loser. He is trying to keep you for himself while pursuing other interests. Dump him.
2006-12-14 10:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Alexandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is shy .
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2006-12-14 10:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋