u know its too soon to get involved with someone else but miss the companionship and the security of someone else being there?
2006-12-14 02:22:01 · 31 answers · asked by MsNic 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get some friends. They are the best! Get involved in some social group, a church. Change your focus for awhile and you'll be surprised what happens!
2006-12-14 02:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by twicewise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the first thing I do is realize that "i'm just missing the companionship and security of someone else being there".
Which to me seems like you already know this about yourself, and thats a good thing.
What I do when I feel like that is refrain from getting involved with someone else, and I just hang out with the best of my friends. You sound like a wise young person. I think you will know when you are ready for someone else, don't be selfish and get involved with someone for the sake of "not being alone" that will only make matters worse for you.
Take your time and just wait until that right person comes along, it will be worth it in the long run
2006-12-14 10:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Deu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know in your heart that it is too soon for u then don't do it, you will only be putting a bandaid on your hurt. You need to take the time to heal and work on yourself as a person, so the same mistakes are not made again. Learn to like "u" again. Hang out with friends and do things that u enjoy and when the time is right the right person will come along and u will be ready to open your heart again.
2006-12-14 10:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, but your best bet is to wait. You don't want to start another relationship with someone if part of your heart still belongs to someone else. It's not fair to the person you're dating. Missing companionship and security is hard, but just remember that it will be back someday.
2006-12-14 10:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a casual date, with minimal physical contact. Just hang with the people and don't date. Soon the time will be right and maybe you will have met the man of your dreams.
As to the security, I'm not sure. That seems more a feeling of insecurity with yourself, maybe? I understand what your saying and really have no good advice for you.
Just take it slow, I guess and follow your instincts.
2006-12-14 10:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by Buttons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay single and focus on yourself. I don't think you need a man to make you happy. all you need to do is learn about yourself for a while and see what happens. only when you feel ready to committ to some one again. we all get lonely sometimes, and we feel that we need someone around for "security" but if you want "security" get a dog. train your dog. and then you will have "security" but as far as a man goes, be single. men are not worth all that much because there are 90% doggy men and 10% good men. in that 10% percent, they are either married, in a relationship, gay, dead, in jail, or looking for a good woman.... and when you look, you don't always find who you want. just like i told one of my friends, write down all of the quailities that you want in a man, and try to find someone who fits ALL of those qualities. DO NOT make EXCEPTIONS... because if you make exceptions, you will never find the one you truly want.
2006-12-14 10:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by Simorah Serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date a bunch! Go out to dinner the movies or whatever. After i split from the ex husband i was lonely so i went on tons of dates, heck on weekends i would have two dates or more! coffee with one lunch with another and dinner with somebody else. also go out by yourself some and do something you always wanted to do but won't do when your afraid of embarassing yourself. I went to dance clubs and talked with people i went rollerblading, so if i fell i wouldn't care cause i didn't know anybody! Have fun and enjoy this time you have to get to know yourself better, that way when you do fall for someone, you wil be more prepared fo it because you are content with yourself
2006-12-14 10:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have friends to have conversations with , maybe something to eat in publib or in a group. Talk to your guy cousins or brothers. Sometimes it 's just that man voice you need. Try to keep busy and work on loving you and loving your single life because when you get married you may wish you were still single. When are we ever satisfied with where got put up at this present time. The right guy will find you,but God want you to work on you so when he comes you don't run him off.
2006-12-14 10:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in your same boat. I have recently been spending lots of time with friends and family. I had gotten use to sleeping with someone and not being worried about someone coming into the house. I believe that you will do alright. Realize that you have alot more to yourself than you see right now.
2006-12-14 10:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by ~Crystal~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be friends with a lot of people,
date a lot of people, only DATE them, do not have full relations with them no matter what
and then you get over what you need to get over, and then by that time, you have a good base to choose from, and maybe you can just do the dating thing for a while, kind of closeness, but still far away from the commitment thing, and if you feel closer to one or two, then narrow it down
have fun, stay SAFE..at all times
good luck
smile
2006-12-14 13:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋